How To Handle a Woman's Breasts

[ToTheXtremeCA]

BACKGROUND INFORMATION: I am 19 and my girlfriend and I have been together for 3 months. Throughout high school and during college (up until now) I had no long-term relationships, only a string of casual encounters. This resulted in my only having lustful encounters with girls who had no interests in showing me the ropes of how to please a woman. As a result, I am very inexperienced in how to satisfy my girlfriend (I know the basics).

Before our relationship, she was used by another guy and it has affected her comfort level in our relationship. I have told her that we can move according to her speed...and I am completely fine with that. Saturday night, she decided that it was time for her to reveal her breasts and allow me to play with them, for lack of a better word. I slowly unbottoned her shirt, pausing between each button to kiss her chest, and later on, the beginnings of her breasts, and I even continued the buildup by not going straight for her breasts. I drug her along so that when the time came, she would be wanting it more than me. Finally, she took her bra off (she couldn't wait anymore)...

and I found myself hoplessly lost and intimidated by what to do next. I kissed her breasts softly, fondled them, handled them, gently bit her nipples (by her request), used my thumbs and index fingers...but nothing seemed to work. I asked her what she wanted done, and she didn't really know, herself.


Obviously, my question is, What can I do? I know that no two women are alike, but I also know that it this stage, there are some definite pointers that would help. I want my girlfriend to be overwhelmed by the things she is feeling, I want her to moan, to clutch my body. I want her to be satisfied, and then some. What can I do and how should I do it?

I'm desperate for your help!

Thanks!!!

 

[Sarah_C]

It's great you so much want to please and pleasure your partner, but remember, you have to please and pleasure yourself, too.

I find (although I am not your girlfriend, and she may be different from me) what if my partner sems totally absorbed in whatever he is doing with my body, and if he looks aroused and pleased, then no matter what the thing he is doing is, I will enjoy it and feel pleased and pleasured, too.

When you see her breasts, how do you feel?

Loving and tender? Aroused? Curious?

However you feel, unless she asks you not to do a particular thing, do what you feel you would like to do.

As long as you always listen (to words and body language) when you are pleasureing a partner, you will not be able to go wrong.

Follow your heart, while listening to your partner, and all will be well.

 

[Bobmi357]

and I found myself hoplessly lost and intimidated by what to do next. I kissed her breasts softly, fondled them, handled them, gently bit her nipples (by her request), used my thumbs and index fingers...but nothing seemed to work. I asked her what she wanted done, and she didn't really know, herself.

What did you expect to happen? Breasts are great, they feel fantastic, and I love to play with them, but they aren't minature clitorises. Sometimes you will get lucky and find a woman capable of getting off just on breast play alone, but generally speaking, most women will not get off on that alone.

I think the question is, did she enjoy what you were doing? Forget about getting her off, that probably won't happen. But did she enjoy it? Did it make her want you to do more than what you were doing? Did she get turned on or did it do nothing for her?

You need to watch your partner carefully for clues as to what she's enjoying and what she isn't. Sometimes, especially when young and just starting out, people don't know what they like yet, and are reluctant to tell you what to do, so watch for the non-verbal clues. Does she sigh and wrap her arms around you? Does she stare at the ceiling looking bored? Does she giggle because she's ticklish? People can't help but give off subtle clues all the time.

Maybe next time you do this, give her a little encouragement to be more verbal about what feels good. Don't be ashamed, or shy to admit your inexperience here. Your partner would rather know you are truly concerned about pleasing her than plunging in blindly. Talk with her. Maybe next time you can do this in such a way that you can also rub her crotch without removing her pants/skirt/whatever. You may be turning her on and then frustrating the bejeezus out of her by not heading for her prime pleasure zones.

Think about it.

 

[Zeldas slave]

Have to agree with a lot of what Bobmi says on this one!

I have had a girlfriend in the past who came just from breast play - but I think she was an exception to the rule!

My best advice would be to try to get her to open up a bit (no pun intended!) about what she likes. I read somewhere that a woman's skin is ten times more sensitive than a mans, So why not go exploring?

Neck kissing, ear lobes, inner thighs (if she'll let you!), breasts generally - not just the nipples - all are sensitive to gentle arousal!

But whatever you do, don't try to force her! If she says 'No!' then ease off.....often, women say 'no' and mean yes.........in reality, your best friends in this will be both time and experience!

Good luck
Zeldas Slave

 

[Astrum]

What you were doing would have been my suggestions. There isn't a whole lot you can do with breasts after all. I totally agree with paying attention to the non-verbal clues Bobmi was talking about. Breathing patterns is another good non-verbal clue to go by.

I know with my girlfriend I usually warm her up by, for lack of better words, "playing" with her breasts. Then when we start to have intercourse I might stop and start playing with her breasts again. It really gets her going when I do that. I guess what I'm trying to say is that breasts won't cause immense amounts of pleasure for the girl (except in some cases), but they compliment sex really well .

 

[ReadyOne]

Keeping with the previous post, don't spend all your time at her breasts. Give her a break. Kiss somewhere else, massage her body, talk to her about how nice her boobs are and how truned on you get.

Then go back and work some more on her breasts.

The break will generally increase there sensativity!

 

[dollface007]

The most common foul that guys make with breasts is focusing only on the nipples. It feels great when guys pay attention to the rest of the breast too. Other than that, kissing, touching, sucking, light squeezing...it's all good. There's not really much to it!

 

[Parklife]

And be prepared to find out that her breasts just might not be all that sensative right now. I once dated a dancer who's breasts weren't all that sensative to anything. She was a bit frustrated by this thinking something must not be connected right in there.. *smirk* I, on the other hand, have nipples that are like little shock therapy triggers. She was annoyed that i was so sensative but she wasn't at all. So, I think she internalized some things and felt bad about them, thereby causing some self-fullfilling prophecy.

In the end, she decided to 'act' like what I was doing was arousing. As I massaged, nipped, touched, kissed her breasts, she closed her eyes and imaged the feelings arousing her. I'll be damned if this didn't awaken something and at some point later (weeks, not that night), those actions did become arousing. I'm not sure why that happened but I never did question it. I just enjoyed it.

I also believe that a woman's breasts are more or less sensative depending on where shy is at in her cycle?? Seems to be the case.

Park~

 

[wormwood101]

How to handle a woman's breasts

An age old question my young friend. The breasts are a woman's first ploy to get a guy interested. They can big or small - BUT they are always displayed to some extent or another. Thus begging the question - Does she want to to figure in love-making?
The answer assurably is a definite - YES!!!
Of course how the breasts come into loveplay is really the question. From my long experience, I could be called a mature age student - ALL women love to have a guy admire and handle their breasts. From the youngest teenie with little bumps to the maturest grandmother with sagging bags - all love to feel a guy running hishands, fingers and lips across their breasts.
Lip work is probably the ultimate pleasure women can receive - of course fora guy there is often nother better than feeling your hard-on slide between those silky soft mountains as you probe your way to a delightful tit-fuck cum!
Most women will let you know what they enjoy most - but that doesn't mean you move straight into that mode - enjoyment isa two-way street. So if you have a particular fetish then enjoy it - provided she's not threatened or her tits hurt by it - she will let you enjoy your particular "play". For myself I love to stand behind the woman and feel her breasts with hands, weighing them and feeling their fullness -this i have found workswith all ages - but is something that older women really enjoy. Nuzzling their neck and ears while you strum their nipples and feel the weight of their full breasts will usually get you into thepussy-playground. Of course the fact that you're already play8ing with their breats almost assures that you will feed the snake!
Good luck and don't forget to keep a breast of metters!

Roger

 

[Mskey]

The most common foul that guys make with breasts is focusing only on the nipples. It feels great when guys pay attention to the rest of the breast too. Other than that, kissing, touching, sucking, light squeezing...it's all good. There's not really much to it!

Absolutley right Dollface!!! Try a breast massage, paying special attention to the underside and sides of her breasts. Soft handling and butterfly kisses to this under used skin can be highly arousing. Don't make the massage obviously sexual, just make it a sensual exploration of what feels good to her. Watch her breathing as you touch her, does it become ragged with a certain pressure of your hand? Does it slow or speed up when various parts of the breast and nipple are stimulated. Watch her skin, look for it to flush or to form goose-flesh with certain stimulation and use those responses as your guidepost. There is no " right way" as every woman responds differently to stimulation but I'm confident you'll enjoy figuring out what works best for you.

 

[Ylvie]

Maybe I can provide some advice on just this. I used to have huge complexes because my breasts are small, causing me to be very reluctant when my boyfriend wanted to see or touch. You didn't say what problems she had to face in her last relationship, but it seemed to me that she moves slow - very slow. Same way she did, I in the end decided to let my boyfriend see and touch my breasts (until then I had gotten such a look on my face everytime he tried, that he felt sorry for me and decided to leave me alone when it came to just that). At first, I got no real pleasure from it. I thought something had to be wrong with me if I felt nothing from what he did to my breasts, while I'd breathe faster and get really turned on if he touched my butt or the inside of my thighs. So, here's the solution which I in the end came to: It's all about her own thoughts and fantasies; her attitude. Talk to her and tell her how sexy she is, tell her how you love her breasts, make them something really sexual for her. When my boyfriend did this to me, I "woke up" and started enjoying it, a lot. Now I have the same reaction to that as I have when he touches me other places, and that's a pretty strong reaction IMO. Work on her own attitude, women's lust start in their minds, not their bodies (most often).

 

[CelticFrog]

I agree with the posts above, and although I will be repeating some things that have already been said, I will put everything that exists in my opinion together in a way that hasn't been done yet.

I have always loved my breasts being touched. Literally, from the earliest point I can remember (mind you, I have serious dissociation problems before I was 15 or so) my breasts have been a focal point of my sexual development.

Having said that, I too believe that the nipple, although sensitive (sometimes overly so if too much pressure is applied too early), is most definitely not my favorite place to be touched. I go mad when my J caresses the sides and creases (underneath) my breasts. It's like THE spot where even I hardly ever feel, so it's that much more cool because he's obviously paying attention to every square millimeter of my skin.

I actually prefer his fingertips caressing my breasts, usually from behind (while I'm doing dishes - it makes the chore much more fun), more than I do him just sucking and nibbling and that stuff. However, that nibbling and otherwise oral ministrations are very very enjoyable when his hands are otherwise occupied.

The valley between her breasts is also horribly underused skin, but is much too often overlooked or understimulated. That's one thing he just can't seem to spend enough time doing -- caressing and lightly touching there. I hate it when all someone does is lick up that valley and head to something else. TEASE ME!

If no other word sticks in your mind, let it be this: tease. I'm not saying be a jackass about it (like a few exes of mine), I'm simply stating that the light, teasing strokes can be some of the most erotic, not necessarily the ones that make you feel as if you're having a mammogram done.

three cents.
Ang

 

[herecomestherain]

Breasts are great, aren't they...

Great information and advice, lots of ideas to work with. For my 2 cents worth... I can orgasm from breast stimulation alone ( but not self stimulation ) so I'd have to say that sensitive nipples are like having two extra clits! There's a thought ...When my breasts a stimulated the feeling travels in two distinct lines straight down my body to my pussy. Anyone else experience this?

Once your girl knows you love her and her breasts a couple of other things to try are ;washing her/each other with lots of slippery soap in the tub or shower, massage her with fragrant body lotion, love the whole breast not just the nipple, don't twist and tweak nipples like they are knobs on the TV unless that's what she wants.

I've recently discovered that I actually like my nipples squeezed hard at the moment of orgasm, this sends me over the edge blissfully. Only took me until I was 40 to learn this!

Can I just say ToTheXtremeCA,you sound like a very caring,generous and thoughtful lover. A long and lustful life to you!

 

[Sybarist]

I also have the pleasure of being able to experience orgasm from simple breast stimulation. Not all the time mind you, there are days that I don't want to be touched anywhere above my belly button, and for him to try anything but an gentle cupping of 'the girls' during these times is extremely aggravating, not stimulating!! I agree with Parklife in that it definately is related to my cycle, but it's not the same every month so I cannot predict it to any extent.

I disagree with anyone who claims that every woman enjoys breat play though, as I know of two females whose breasts are so sensitive that they actually experience pain if their nipples are stimulated in any way. The role of breast play in a sexual relationship will always depend on the woman, the body she wears, and the inhibitions of both partners. Your willingness to give her what she needs at the pace she needs to set is a great beginning ToTheXtremeCA.

My advice would be to learn what she likes and stick with that until she is ready to explore new horizons. Everyone needs time to learn how to be comfortable with their own body and what it can do in a sexual experience, you included! Once she builds confidence in her own feelings and abilities, and the abilities of you, her partner, she should be better able to tell you exactly what she wants and needs to get the greatest satisfaction from being with you.

Good luck and have fun!
Syb.

 

[sxylipsnsxyhips]

I love having my breasts caressed, sucked and gently nibbled on at first. But what really gets me hot is when he takes my nipple between his teeth, holding it in place as he licks the nipple simultaneously.

As most have mentioned, the more she responds to what you are doing to her the more wet she becomes. I, too, am fortunate to cum simply by having my sensitive nipples played with. After getting very wet I want more and ask my lover to immediately finger me or fuck me. Perhaps you can try this with her after she becomes more comfortable.

Best of luck!

 

[sommerfugl]

I agree with most of what has been said here. Imo, communication is very important. Ask her if she likes this better or that, should you go harder/faster/rougher or not, etc…
My breasts are very sensitive and I can reach an orgasm by having them touched, sucked, licked, kissed, etc… I also enjoy rough play on them but I never seem to be able to reach orgasm that way.

 

[ReadyOne]

You girls with a (sometimes) direct line between tit and clit seem very rare.

The only one I've met was a cousin back when we were teens. Didn't see her much, and haven't seen her since college. She would also seek out breast bondage and clamps. I remember her showing me how to rig a couple of pencils to squeeze on her nipples. Wonder if she still gets the same enjoyment after 20+ years and a few kids....

Anyway, has there ever been a poll about tit to clit?

 

[Alsharlan]

I have found that women prefer breast stimulation is best approached slowly, and sensually.... direct attacks on the nipples rarely get the desired results....although I have one exception to that comment (another story).

Use your fingers / fingernails to caress/gently scratch every part of the exposed skin from the top of her shoulders to the exposed breast showing above her bra.

After the bra has been removed, circle the breasts with your fingers/fingernails, and don't ever underestimate how sensitive the lower part of the breast is....

If you get this bit right, the nipple will harden with each part of the foreplay, and the nipple should be hard and be there for the tweaking/sucking....but take your time getting there, AND, there is another part of their body also waking up at the same time.

The desired result is your lady wanting more, the slower the better..

good luck

Al