How to have sex for a long time.
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SweetErika
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First, welcome! Your question isn't specific enough to give a good answer. If a man is cumming too soon, masturbation before sex will likely help, as will condoms, changing positions, and a variety of other things. If the problem is that you get too tired, exercise and a healthy diet should help.
Both issues have been covered extensively in other threads. Check out The Blank Manual sticky at the top of this forum: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=243894
And here's a good recent thread on lasting longer:
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=279250
You can also do a search for other threads on the topic.
Good luck!
Both issues have been covered extensively in other threads. Check out The Blank Manual sticky at the top of this forum: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=243894
And here's a good recent thread on lasting longer:
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=279250
You can also do a search for other threads on the topic.
Good luck!
SweetErika
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alix03 said:
Yes, there are many, many other things as I mentioned, and you could always get off through oral, please your partner, and then have sex. Did you check out the links?
thrity
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my suggestion
you could take shower with warm water firstly, then with cold water, wash your penis with warm and cold water also, of course. i could help you to have longer sex experiences. i don't know why, but i got it from a newpaper or somewhere else, i forgot, anyway, it works for me.
on the other hand, don't worry about the time too much. if you try your best to make it longer, it would harm your healthy, and next time, maybe you would be worse, then worse and worse. if you just try to enjoy you sexes, you could be better and better.
hope it helps, thanks!
you could take shower with warm water firstly, then with cold water, wash your penis with warm and cold water also, of course. i could help you to have longer sex experiences. i don't know why, but i got it from a newpaper or somewhere else, i forgot, anyway, it works for me.
on the other hand, don't worry about the time too much. if you try your best to make it longer, it would harm your healthy, and next time, maybe you would be worse, then worse and worse. if you just try to enjoy you sexes, you could be better and better.
hope it helps, thanks!
SweetErika
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Re: my suggestion
I don't know about the water thing, but you make a good point about not worrying about how long you go. I don't care whether my husband lasts for a minute or an hour...he's got wonderful hands, a mouth, and a toy collection to satisfy me. Plus, I like knowing he's enjoying the sensations...if he comes, we just take a little break and start then start again. Double the pleasure, double the fun.thrity said:
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When i'm having sex, if i feel like i'm about to cum and dont want to yet, or she hasnt gotten off yet, i'll just stop moving in and out, and just let it all stay still for a few minutes. this gives a chance for you to really look into each other's eyes, and focus on some incredible kissing. to me, sex isnt just about the penetration, there's a lot more to do, and sometimes the just laying still with small soft movements, makes it soooooooooo much better.
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Hm, that leads me to another question: A a stupid virgin I ask myself: Why masturbate? Why not come once more?alix03 said:
I don't thing that the ability to recover in five minutes is that special.
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When you are pumping and feel yourself coming close to orgasm, stop for a few seconds. This will be especially helpful if you have done it when masturbating.
Like others have suggested, never be afraid to use your other appendages. Your entire body and especially your mind, are sexual play things. Enjoy them!
Like others have suggested, never be afraid to use your other appendages. Your entire body and especially your mind, are sexual play things. Enjoy them!
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Re: Re: my suggestion
wow! you hubby is great! how can he do it? i mean start again just after a short break.
i can't do it even dring my 20s. after cumming, i normally couldn't have another go within one whole day. i used to fuck my fresh new girlfriend for few day in one night, but it just because she was new friend. and at that night, i still have to have few hours break between one and another.
i would not be interested in sex some time just after ejaculation. i don't know other guys.
...if he comes, we just take a little break and start then start again. Double the pleasure, double the fun.
wow! you hubby is great! how can he do it? i mean start again just after a short break.
i can't do it even dring my 20s. after cumming, i normally couldn't have another go within one whole day. i used to fuck my fresh new girlfriend for few day in one night, but it just because she was new friend. and at that night, i still have to have few hours break between one and another.
i would not be interested in sex some time just after ejaculation. i don't know other guys.
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Give me 10 Minutes and I'm ready for the second round. If one get's me motivated enough I surely would be able for a third.
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Sound advice
I think someone has already rouched the best advice already.
STOP WORRYING ABOUT THE LENGTH OF TIME and all will become natural.
I used to suffer like this, the minute the thought entered my head "oh i'm going to cum" BANG too late.
As a few people have said already, enjoy the moment, stop, use your hands, mouth, fingers or toys. It doesn't matter.
AND don't get worked up next about having to please your partner either. You both just need to relax and do something for fun. if you cum you cum.
When that happens, lie back for a while enjoying each other with some fine loving. Then maybe she will be able to tease some life back into you. The thing is IT DOESN'T MATTER!. As long as you're willing to spend time loving her, teasing and pleasing her. She will be satisfied and the funny thing is if you're wrapped up enjoying it too, chances are the old bone will come back to life anyway and you'll last a whole lot longer - without giving it any thought.
The main point being - stop thinking about it and start loving your partner.
Once you've gained confidence in this, you'll find that nest time, or the time after you won't think so much about it and be the great lover you think you should be. Just by ignoring whats going on inside your head and body and thinking more about how much fun it is to tickle her here, or roll over there.
I think someone has already rouched the best advice already.
STOP WORRYING ABOUT THE LENGTH OF TIME and all will become natural.
I used to suffer like this, the minute the thought entered my head "oh i'm going to cum" BANG too late.
As a few people have said already, enjoy the moment, stop, use your hands, mouth, fingers or toys. It doesn't matter.
AND don't get worked up next about having to please your partner either. You both just need to relax and do something for fun. if you cum you cum.
When that happens, lie back for a while enjoying each other with some fine loving. Then maybe she will be able to tease some life back into you. The thing is IT DOESN'T MATTER!. As long as you're willing to spend time loving her, teasing and pleasing her. She will be satisfied and the funny thing is if you're wrapped up enjoying it too, chances are the old bone will come back to life anyway and you'll last a whole lot longer - without giving it any thought.
The main point being - stop thinking about it and start loving your partner.
Once you've gained confidence in this, you'll find that nest time, or the time after you won't think so much about it and be the great lover you think you should be. Just by ignoring whats going on inside your head and body and thinking more about how much fun it is to tickle her here, or roll over there.
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Re: Re: Re: my suggestion
Everyone has a different refractory period, but it doesn't hurt that he's 25 either. I'm not sure how long it is between (probably 20 mins) but I think a lot of it's wanting to go a second time. We've also found having sex everyday makes him last longer, but length has nothing to do with how enjoyable the experience is for me, so we don't worry about it.
thrity said:
Everyone has a different refractory period, but it doesn't hurt that he's 25 either. I'm not sure how long it is between (probably 20 mins) but I think a lot of it's wanting to go a second time. We've also found having sex everyday makes him last longer, but length has nothing to do with how enjoyable the experience is for me, so we don't worry about it.
