how to improve masturbating skillz?

[ginko]

Hi everyone.. I'm new. I'm 18, female, live in the UK.

I'm wondering if anyone can offer advice on improving masturbation skills. Currently, I masturbate using my friend Mr. Showerhead, at least once a day and have AMAZING orgasms every time, or multiple times, so it's certainly not a mental block against orgasms. I have never been able to manage orgasming from any other technique. I have a small clit vibrator, and a large phallic vibrator, which both are fun but just don't bring me to the edge like the showerhead does. Fingers are really nice but again, don't bring me all the way, whether they are my partners or mine. Oral sex is wonderful but doesn't seem to do it either, though I will of course continue to experiment with that. No orgasm from intercourse either, though I still can't get enough of it. I've never really succeeded in finding my G-spot either - I know all the anatomical details and fingering is really pleasurable but havent found anything that approaches orgasmic.


So although I still get lots of enjoyment out of sex, I would love to learn how to orgasm by other methods so that I and my partner can bring myself to orgasm in bed rather than having to make a trip to the shower every time.

Any advice on "teaching" myself?

Thanks!

 

[EJFan]

sorry to say i don't own a vagina so i might not be the best one to help you.

in any event, i thought i'd suggest that you keep trying different things at different times, alone and with your partner. learning your body is a great experience and you will certainly find the results you're looking for with plenty of practice. everyone's different so you just have to find what works for you i think.

i've heard lots of great things about the magical shower head from a lot of people. if that works for you i'd suggest embracing it and working/experimenting with that as your foundation.

speaking for myself, a penis owner, i'll say that i like to change things up from time to time as well. for me (or a guy in general) to climax from masturbating isn't as detailed (for lack of a better word). but the point is that i enjoy a variety of masturbatory techniques and wish you luck in finding the full plethora of techniques that work for you.

and welcome to LIT!!!!!

 

[mrguitarmn]

would love to hear how it goes ginko plz pm us the details ok?
i'm a guy but do whatever feels good. See if it works

 

[SweetErika]

Sounds strangely familiar, Ginko! One thing that helps me immensely is reading stories while masturbating (manual is no problem). Fantasizing also works very well.

All toys aren't created equal either, so you might want to continue exploring with more powerful ones. I always figure it's better to have one that's really powerful and adjust down from there. My two favorites are the Rabbit Pearl/Rabbit Habit (takes 3 C batteries) and the Hitachi Magic Wand (the most powerful vibrator on the market, extremely versatile, electric, and is actually a massager, so no embarassment if someone finds it). There is also an incredible G-spot attachment for the Magic Wand... mine is relatively far up, and the attachment hits it perfectly but is adjustable for any body.

Otherwise, I'd say continue experimenting with what feels good and have fun with that exploration. Good luck!