how to keep the smiles going

[nicesweet_m24]

Well I have being sitting on the sidelines watching all the comments flying in and out. So I said the best way is to jump in and get some advice.

I am getting married in a less than 2 months to a wonderful lady who I had a lovely relationship for past 7 years.

Past couple of months ever since the date of the marriage has being announced I always tired to keep her surprised.

First sent her 2 dozen roses and chocolates and for her bday sent her a collection of comic that we both adore mutually and every day I was sending her poems*pinched from the net* to her email customized to what our feeling would be before during and after marriage. She absolutely adores the attention.

Now she taking a break from her job to prepare for the marriage and obviously wouldn’t be in a position to check her mails that frequently any suggestions from people of lit to keep things as cheerful as she being? I got 53 days until the D-day anything to kind of remind her that the days are reducing and its going to be very soon.

I thought of sending greeting cards but I not a guy who sends cards

So any suggestion?

 

[wicked woman]

What's your living situation? That might help set the scenario.

Off the top of my head...if you don't live together...can you give her a call first thing in the morning? Perhaps be her alarm clock...talk to her first thing in the morning...start both your days off with a smile. Doesn't have to be a long call.


Or what about leaving notes where she'll find them later? Maybe in her bed, bathroom, a pocket of her clothes, in her knap sack/brief case/lunch.

All sorts of things you can do.

btw welcome to Lit.

 

[EJFan]

i love WW's notes idea, and i, too, welcome you to lit.

this is something i did once and it went over well. you have 53 days 'til the wedding... why not use that time to compile a daily journal of what you're thinking and doing (either the both of you or just you, yourself). maybe you could include some momentos like cocktail napkins from a restaurant, movie ticket stubs, little things like that. then when the wedding rolls 'round, you could give it to her.

there are great little books in hallmark-type stores that you can use for this project.

i'd imagine you're looking for some more daily type things, but i think this is a great long-term idea.

 

[Silver_Star]

How about a daily Egreeting?

 

[nicesweet_m24]

well thanks for the suggestion and yes to answer the question wicked woman we dont live together *currently* actually stay miles apart, so chances of leaving notes is out of the question. calls are already frequent either she waking me up or vice versa

I like to idea of EJFan of writing a day by day account and have thought of it but then i keep thinking why or how or what to write the good stuff or exactly whats going on everyday. any site that allow blogs/notes but with a privacy filter that allow only her to see it?

i am looking at a daily type thing but kinda clueless what the next thing i want to do. already set up with sending her some reading material she would adore *her fav comic strip collection* to send to her that going to keep her smiling until the wedding for sure but what else.

i was thinking of roses serenade for the last 7 days before wedding delivered everyday saying words like 7 days remaining, 6 days remaining 5 days remaining and so on but thats for those 7 days

going to defientely use that suggestion of egreeting but again she wont access her mails daily so then it wud be bad

any other suggestions? 53 days and counting

 

[SweetErika]

Welcome, and what a lucky woman she is to have such a loving, romantic spouse!

The journal idea is great..******* would be good for now, but I would also love to have it in a real journal for posterity. I'd like to have things like his feelings about the wedding, when he thought about me, etc.

If you don't care for greeting cards, how about a postcard with a picture of something/place that reminds you of her and a nice little message about how you're thinking about her or a memory you share that makes you both smile and feel good. Or just a note on sationary or a simple card.

I think it'd also be neat to get a package at the beginning of the week with a note to read or something memorable for each day. Maybe a reason why you can't wait to marry her each day, like 53 out of the million reasons I love you.

 

[mystic_maiden32]

pillowmail.com?

 

[mystic_maiden32]

pillowmail.com?

 

[sxylegs]

well thanks for the suggestion and yes to answer the question wicked woman we dont live together *currently* actually stay miles apart, so chances of leaving notes is out of the question. calls are already frequent either she waking me up or vice versa

I like to idea of EJFan of writing a day by day account and have thought of it but then i keep thinking why or how or what to write the good stuff or exactly whats going on everyday. any site that allow blogs/notes but with a privacy filter that allow only her to see it?

i am looking at a daily type thing but kinda clueless what the next thing i want to do. already set up with sending her some reading material she would adore *her fav comic strip collection* to send to her that going to keep her smiling until the wedding for sure but what else.

i was thinking of roses serenade for the last 7 days before wedding delivered everyday saying words like 7 days remaining, 6 days remaining 5 days remaining and so on but thats for those 7 days

going to defientely use that suggestion of egreeting but again she wont access her mails daily so then it wud be bad

any other suggestions? 53 days and counting

Im not trying to put a damper on things.....but do you plan on doing these things after you are married......people are strange.....if you do this and dont continue after you are married she will expect you to remain the same person and she will wonder what she did for you to stop being romantic.......so if you arent going to continue afterwards, maybe you should slow down a little.....only do bigger things once a week....

 

[EJFan]

Im not trying to put a damper on things.....but do you plan on doing these things after you are married......people are strange.....if you do this and dont continue after you are married she will expect you to remain the same person and she will wonder what she did for you to stop being romantic.......so if you arent going to continue afterwards, maybe you should slow down a little.....only do bigger things once a week....

this is a good point.

i think you sound like a great couple and it's so cool that you do these things and think so highly of your SO to take the time.

i think that, regardless of romanticism dying down after marriage, it could be that if you persist TOO much with the creative, romantic gifts, that once you run out of ideas (and you will at SOME point) your SO may take it the wrong way.

i'd recommend pacing yourself a bit... go for quality and not quantity. these things tend to be appreciated more when they're not every-day occurences.

 

[Zergplex]

Zergplex Says

One great idea is to start takig pictures of you and her every few days, and compile them into either a collage or photo album to give to her as a wedding present. I think that would be an increadibly sweet thing to do, I a similiar thing for my anniversery with my darlings and it went over well.

-Zergplex

 

[nicesweet_m24]

Well I don’t know if I am overdoing it.

How would you know if something you’re doing is overdoing it anyway?

I mean definitely it would slow down once she on a break to prepare for the marriage

Nothing new is what makes me wonder what the next thing. After all being married is a big step and want to make thing perfect that why the thoughts flow.

But now u people have me in thought if I have overdone it and her expectation could be dampened in the future but we both have a mutual trust and love so I shouldn’t be worried in areas like them

Already she is shocked when I decided to reveal past relationship with her and took her a bit of time to accept that it was well and truly in the past. I just told her in so that she wouldn’t have to hear it from another person.

Anyway thanks for the suggestions will think of something new

 

[peachykeen]

Go to a craft store and get a bunch of those little satin rose things that are on thin twisty-wire stems. (Don't worry if you don't know what I am talking about - just go to a craft store and ask for them just like I described and the shop assistan will know.)

The, each day, or every couple of days whatever, leave one somewhere shere she will find it. For example, twist one around the steering wheel of her car. The strap of her purse. The handle of the refigerator door. Her toothbrush. That kind of thing - everyday spots she'll be sure to find it.

 

[nicesweet_m24]

Hey that's a good suggestion for the twisty rose’s thing, but I think i forgot to mention we don't stay in the same state so doing that would be a bit difficult.

But that's a wonderful thought for something I am definitely going to be using after the marriage to keep the surprise going.

Thanks