gregy70
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U'know I already do the dishes most the time, maybe I should do them all the time & in sexy briefs
How to make her try another . . .
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U'know I already do the dishes most the time, maybe I should do them all the time & in sexy briefs
Thefamiliar
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Lol, im with all the others. She will stop giving ya any at all...its an insult to say the least.
What will work...porn. Just go for porn, or even the other way, tantric type sex. Anything that will engage her brain into the sex. There are even adult games for couples you could by.
Its not lack of feeling sexy that is an issue for most women, its a lack of feeling their man finds them sexy. What are you doing to make her moan? Seriously?
I wont bash the fantasy, but willing to let another man have what you alone can, makes me ask, how is the intamacy these days? Do you often hold her and just talk or laugh? No answer required, just think about it.
What will work...porn. Just go for porn, or even the other way, tantric type sex. Anything that will engage her brain into the sex. There are even adult games for couples you could by.
Its not lack of feeling sexy that is an issue for most women, its a lack of feeling their man finds them sexy. What are you doing to make her moan? Seriously?
I wont bash the fantasy, but willing to let another man have what you alone can, makes me ask, how is the intamacy these days? Do you often hold her and just talk or laugh? No answer required, just think about it.
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Actually, I don't think he wanted advice at all, but rather someone to egg him on into doing this.
I agree with you, I think he has some sort of cuck fetish or whatever and wants his wife to act it out....kind of like the kid who gives his mother a baseball bat for her birthday.
Rhslonewolf
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I can understand u wanting this as so do I. However I would have to agree with most on here. You can not force her into it. I'm currently trying to find a way to ask also. But the key word is ask if she would or want to.
Goey
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Asking for another to join you isn't a bad thing in itself. I think couples should be strong enough that they can talk about fantasies.
However, as sex is currently not going great at the moment this is not the time to ask. You need to have a good open (with each other not the world) sex life before you can start talking about such things. They are not a solution. You start talking about fantasies (such as another man joining) when the sex is amazing, not when it's crap.
However, as sex is currently not going great at the moment this is not the time to ask. You need to have a good open (with each other not the world) sex life before you can start talking about such things. They are not a solution. You start talking about fantasies (such as another man joining) when the sex is amazing, not when it's crap.
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DarkPleasures
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Actually, I don't think he wanted advice at all, but rather someone to egg him on into doing this.
That is very true. That's why he posted in Fetish originally. (He's one of several men posting their "problem" in Fetish "looking for advice".) Luckily Chargergirl put his thread where it belonged!
NippleMuncher
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That would be understandable, the old hose seems to be a bit of a drip.
That is very true. That's why he posted in Fetish originally. (He's one of several men posting their "problem" in Fetish "looking for advice".) Luckily Chargergirl put his thread where it belonged!
Sadly, it more belonged in the trash bin than in the HT forum.
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DarkPleasures
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Sadly, it more belonged in the trash bin than in the HT forum.
Well, I would agree with that statement too. If we're giving this man the benefit of the doubt and not judging him (as I know I am), "How To" is the right board due to this man seeking advice. It didn't belong in Fetish anymore than it would belong in Sexual Role Play.
Noor
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Yes, I remember someone who used to do that, quite fondly actually. He often would get interrupted. I have pictures somewhere too
NippleMuncher
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If we're giving this man the benefit of the doubt and not judging him (as I know I am), "How To" is the right board due to this man seeking advice. It didn't belong in Fetish anymore than it would belong in Sexual Role Play.
Agreed. The question is, however, did the judging start before or after the OP called us all "stigs", which my understanding is a bit of a slight. Me thinks he either wasn't getting the kind of advice or the wank fodder he was looking for. Maybe the wife should be looking for a new hose after all?
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DarkPleasures
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Agreed. The question is, however, did the judging start before or after the OP called us all "stigs", which my understanding is a bit of a slight. Me thinks he either wasn't getting the kind of advice or the wank fodder he was looking for. Maybe the wife should be looking for a new hose after all?
Honestly...
My judgement began when I first saw the post in Fetish. I hang out in that board a lot, and probably annoy Chargergirl, and will let her know when I come across a "how to" or "personal ad" over there. There's a shit-load, sadly.I think the "advice seekers" who come to Fetish are doing so because they want people to say, "That is so hot! I would so totally do it myself, mate! Kudos!", etc.
In this board they'll get REAL advice from the many people over here. They don't want that!
Eilan
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I don't post on the Fetish Forum, but I do lurk there. I totally agree with your second paragraph.Honestly...
I think the "advice seekers" who come to Fetish are doing so because they want people to say, "That is so hot! I would so totally do it myself, mate! Kudos!", etc.
AtlantaGirl487
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If She's Not Ready, It's Not Gonna Happen.......
"Married4Willing", I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and treat you as a "genuine" post (even though part of me agrees with the above posting that it's a total fake).
Now, that being said, I think you need to ask yourself if this is nothing more than a fantasy; that is, you want to see your wife with another man. If it isn't, and you really want to share your wife then, if you approach her, completely cold, you're likely to get not only a "No" but a "Hell No".
The only think I could suggest is that you get some tasteful (well, RELATIVELY tasteful!) porno that features threesomes (MFM) and try to gauge her reaction to them. If it's negative, then brother, it's just NOT going to happen.
If you get a positive reaction from her, then again, you'd better think over the implications of what you're suggesting. Are you really prepared to agree to your wife having another man between her legs? Maybe it seems really erotic to you right now but, in speaking to other women and men who have "gone the distance", sometimes reality is a lot different from fantasy and it's not always a pleasant difference.
In the case of my husband and I, it has really worked out great. But, from what I've heard from other couples, well, it hasn't been so great.
Not trying to throw cold water on your plans, but "be careful for what you wish for".
"Married4Willing", I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and treat you as a "genuine" post (even though part of me agrees with the above posting that it's a total fake).
Now, that being said, I think you need to ask yourself if this is nothing more than a fantasy; that is, you want to see your wife with another man. If it isn't, and you really want to share your wife then, if you approach her, completely cold, you're likely to get not only a "No" but a "Hell No".
The only think I could suggest is that you get some tasteful (well, RELATIVELY tasteful!) porno that features threesomes (MFM) and try to gauge her reaction to them. If it's negative, then brother, it's just NOT going to happen.
If you get a positive reaction from her, then again, you'd better think over the implications of what you're suggesting. Are you really prepared to agree to your wife having another man between her legs? Maybe it seems really erotic to you right now but, in speaking to other women and men who have "gone the distance", sometimes reality is a lot different from fantasy and it's not always a pleasant difference.
In the case of my husband and I, it has really worked out great. But, from what I've heard from other couples, well, it hasn't been so great.
Not trying to throw cold water on your plans, but "be careful for what you wish for".
Using an outside person to stimulate a sex life that is wanting is a recipe for disaster IMO, because when that works it is a couple who already has a strong enough sex life/love life that it adds spice. A moribund sex life means something is wrong, and adding another person only will highlight that IMO, and yeah,it could end up with the wife exchanging one hose for another, so to speak (*love that analogy*). I think it would be much better to work on why the sex life is moribund, maybe introduce it as a fantasy thing at some point, long before every seriously thinking about doing it. I realize people read the loving wives section on Lit and think all wives are just dying to get some outside dick, but at least in my limited experience talking to women about it, many of them are afraid to because they are afraid they would be too tempted to take it beyond a threesome and they don't want to fuck up their marriage (as always, YMMV, that is just what I have seen).
blksoldier
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My wife had an uptight upbringing and although she has an attractive body (36c and nice curvy ass) and face, the most she did with one other guy before marriage was oral. It has been only us for the last 14 years and I see some diminishing excitementmay make her feel sexy and desired
and bring back the spice. I hope I could present her at least two options of fit guys that can last long and bring her to pleasure. so she can choose the one.
I would appreciate recommendations on how to convince her and on how to get candidates with the required characteristics. Thanks
Just ask yourself will I die if this doesen't happen in most cases the answer is no its not convincing its aboutmaking a choice dont bring unecessary stress into the relationship relax you have a lifetime to things. it will happen if its meant to be don't force things
