How to seduce a "taken" man...

[RedNightie]

Subject line says it all....

Any suggestions are much appreciated.

And no negative's please....I'm a member here (not a newbie) just trying to be anonymous....

 

[Bobmi357]

Subject line says it all....

Any suggestions are much appreciated.

And no negative's please....I'm a member here (not a newbie) just trying to be anonymous....

Since you're not a newbie....

Sorry, but when I say I'm taken, I mean it...

LOL! Couldn't resist. The real question is why would you want to? If you manage to convince him to cheat on his SO, then most likely some other woman will be able to convince him to cheat on you. Think about it.

 

[RedNightie]

No...see we've been on-again, off-again..and he's never cheated on me, even though he had the chances too. So, I don't think he would.

 

[LadyJeanne]

Same way you seduce any man, really - you learn who he is and what makes him laugh and what makes him feel good and then give it to him...admiration, validation, flirting, teasing, loving.

But, why would you want to? All his kisses should be for you if he's someone you care about.

 

[RedNightie]

But, why would you want to? All his kisses should be for you if he's someone you care about.

what do you mean?

 

[MiloDRemix]

You know... if a guy is really "taken" then you shouldn't be able to seduce him at all. And guys who cheat/dump their SO for other women...are generally guys that don't deserve a woman at all.

Sorry if that's negative.

 

[RedNightie]

No that's not negative...it's defiantely true...

Just doesn't apply to this situation.

 

[SkyyAngel]

OOhwie...I'm staying out of this one. Good luck though...

 

[RedNightie]

Thanks? I think?

 

[SkyyAngel]

Sorry...been in that situation before...but I have no answers.

 

[RedNightie]

Ahh...gotcha.....

 

[Guest]

I don't understand how this situation is special... but it is rather upsetting to me... being that my ex was always threatening to cheat on me... I think that's probably the most painful thing in the world, to think that your boyfriend is sleeping with someone else. May I ask why you would want to be sleeping with someone else's man? Is his current significant other okay with that?

Seems like it would be pretty easy to seduce a taken man, as long as he's a cheater.

Anyhow... that was very sweet, Milo...

 

[RedNightie]

Well I don't want to be sleeping with someones else's man...I'd hate being "the other woman" ....I've had that happen before....

I guess I just want him back with me. So perhaps Seduce to Keep would be a better title?

And I have no clue what she's okay with...and personally I don't really care. I know that sounds harsh but it's reality. She really doesn't deserve him.

 

[MiloDRemix]

being that my ex was always threatening to cheat on me... I think that's probably the most painful thing in the world

Yeah that was what this all made me think of. I had to spend hours listening to you cry because of that bastard . I figure unless you have an entirely open relationship with someone, it just isn't okay to sleep with other people.

I guess I just want him back with me. So perhaps Seduce to Keep would be a better title?
And I have no clue what she's okay with...and personally I don't really care. I know that sounds harsh but it's reality. She really doesn't deserve him.

Oookaay... first question: why did you break up with this guy in the first place? Second question: Why doesn't this other girl deserve him?

 

[RedNightie]

Cause I'm an idiotic moron. .... and she's a slut....and that's the NICE version.

Let's just say she's an ex-friend of mine from way back when and I know she's lied to him about stuff. He doesn't know I knew her though. and even if he did...I don't know if he'd believe me. Probably think I'm making it up because of jelousy but I'm not that cunning.

 

[MiloDRemix]

Is this one of those cases where you had a decent guy and then you dumped him for some reason... and now he has a new girlfriend so you're bitter and want him back just because he does have another girlfriend?

Has this girl done anything to him since they've been together or just things from 'way back when'?

I dunno. Seems like a bad deal all around to me. I'm just completely against the whole going after someone who is already taken concept. They're already taken. At most I would say try to be the guys friend and if the girl really is an evil slut, he'll realize it and maybe you can try dating again when they break off their relationship...

 

[RedNightie]

Well yeah I'm bitter but I want him back because I want him back..not just because he's "taken"....I'm not that moronic.

And I do know she's lied to him about stuff from way back when....but knowing her it really wouldn't surprise me if she had done anything that would hurt him.

And as for the waitign around....I'm just not a patient type o gal. Plus, it just kills me to even think about him getting hurt by her.

 

[RedNightie]

Perhaps we can nevermind the why's and just get to the how's?

Let's just say she's an evil bitch and I need to get him out of htere...and fast.

He won't go out with me...already asked. So I'm switching to the sex to get him back (or rather make him realize how much he misses me ). I know he's still attracted to me....so I just want some ideas on the seduction without him knowing he's being seducted.

All I've gotten so far is a PM to "invite him over, wear a dress, and play video games..."

Probably not the most intelligent of the Lit'ers out there and I don't play video games and he probably hasn't played any in a long time eitehr...lol. Perhaps Pong..

 

[Guest]

It sounds to me like you're just trying to rationalize your own selfish desires...:
*but knowing her it really wouldn't surprise me if she had done anything that would hurt him.
*I'm just not a patient type o gal. Plus, it just kills me to even think about him getting hurt by her.
*Let's just say she's an evil bitch
Real love isn't motivated by selfishness. If you asked the guy out and he said NO, take a subtle hint... he doesn't want to be with you. As it stands, you seem more like you'd be the one trying to hurt him...

 

[romanticdrifter]

A man's point of view

As a relative newbie here, I am not sure my comments are useful but...

I find it odd that you are more concerned about yourself, getting him back and making sure the evil bitch doesn't have them than you are with the man in question or his feelings.

Am I the only one here that wonders why you have not mentioned how he might feel about all this? How he might feel about you? How you might have hurt him? Why he has taken refuge with the evil bitch?

Perhaps the best way to win him back would be to begin actually caring about him in the first place. Or are his feelings not your concern?

Inquiring minds...

 

[romanticdrifter]

It sounds to me like you're just trying to rationalize your own selfish desires...:
*but knowing her it really wouldn't surprise me if she had done anything that would hurt him.
*I'm just not a patient type o gal. Plus, it just kills me to even think about him getting hurt by her.
*Let's just say she's an evil bitch
Real love isn't motivated by selfishness. If you asked the guy out and he said NO, take a subtle hint... he doesn't want to be with you. As it stands, you seem more like you'd be the one trying to hurt him...

Tania dear...

Like minds....

 

[MiloDRemix]

He won't go out with me...already asked. So I'm switching to the sex to get him back (or rather make him realize how much he misses me ).

Maybe you should read that over a few times... print it out and carry it with you for a while, and really think about it. Because it's too...too much... for me to even begin to comment on.

Switching to the sex to get him back... because when you don't have an emotional connection and a guy doesn't want to be with you... all you have to do is lift up your skirt and everything will be okay. <--sarcasm.

 

[romanticdrifter]

Maybe you should read that over a few times... print it out and carry it with you for a while, and really think about it. Because it's too...too much... for me to even begin to comment on.

Switching to the sex to get him back... because when you don't have an emotional connection and a guy doesn't want to be with you... all you have to do is lift up your skirt and everything will be okay. <--sarcasm.

Agreed.

Some men are that shallow. I even know some.

But not the kind you want to be with!

 

[Guest]

Tania dear...
Like minds....

::nods:: I'm glad to see I'm not the only one on this wavelength...

Kind of going along with what Milo just said about 'lifting up your skirt and everything will be okay'. I already mentioned my ex. He used to knock me around, threaten to cheat on me/break up with me... and I thought 'if I just give him great sex then everything will be okay and he'll want to be with me.' NOT TRUE. SO HORRIBLY NOT TRUE. And your situation is worse than mine because there's another person involved...

Having sex with someone won't fix your problems... it will probably, in fact, create more problems and prolong a bad situation.

 

[RedNightie]

No no no you guys have it all wrong.

Sorry I'm trying to fill in as many of the blanks as I can but he knows I come here...I don't think he visits but just in case...

He said no basically because he's with her. If he wasn't with her...he'd say yes.

I did hurt him and I know...but he understand what happened and we've both forgiven and forgotten.

And I am concerned about his feelings. If he found out what she was doing to him then he'd hurt. What's so wrong with trying to stop that from happening? He's not the most intelligent man in the world and hard-to-say is a bit gullible.

What if I had just asked "I want to seduce this guy I know...how would I go about doing that?" Would you guys just be a LITTLE bit more accomadating.

You'er assumptions (that I would probably make too if I were you) are wrong. all I'm asking for is some help here. I realize how bad you guys are to "newbies" and I try not to be that way and not ask stupid questions that automatically make people look down on me but you guys don't know the full background (i've alredy mentioned wy).

All I'm asking is for a little help. If I could do it on my own I would. he's forgiven me, i've forgiven myself, and I want him back.

Help me with that.