How to seduce a "taken" man...

[Guest]

Okay, my reaction to you has nothing to do with the fact that you might be a 'newbie'... I don't judge people based on how many posts they've made... I don't even look at that crap.

"What if I had just asked "I want to seduce this guy I know...how would I go about doing that?" Would you guys just be a LITTLE bit more accomadating."
No, I would have told you exactly what we have told you. Try to be his friend. FRIEND.

"He said no basically because he's with her. If he wasn't with her...he'd say yes." But he IS with her and he DID say no, therefore it is a NO.

You've hurt him... this guy said no to getting back together with you... the only thing you want to do is have sex with him in the hopes that it will make everything in your life 'all better'.

GAH.

 

[MiloDRemix]

I realize how bad you guys are to "newbies"

Funny... I sure didn't realize that we hate on newbies. I think this has more to do with your chosen subject and the fact that we see it as a trainwreck. A pathetic oncoming trainwreck.

We aren't 'bad to newbies' anymore than we are being 'bad to you'...we are being honest.

Seducing a guy who said no to dating you and who already has another girlfriend... is lame. Plain and simple. Lame.

 

[LadyJeanne]

I posted before I saw the details. This is still true:

Same way you seduce any man, really - you learn who he is and what makes him laugh and what makes him feel good and then give it to him...admiration, validation, flirting, teasing, loving.

But I thought you were asking about seducing a married man or sumthin', so this no longer applies:

But, why would you want to? All his kisses should be for you if he's someone you care about.

Loving someone is about giving of yourself to them. If he doesn't respond to that, then he's not coming back to you. He might resond to the sexual pull, but he won't stay.

 

[Guest]

We aren't 'bad to newbies' anymore than we are being 'bad to you'...we are being honest.

I love newbies... more people to play with

 

[RedNightie]

nevermind then...forget I asked.

for the people who were at least trying to help me.

If it's an oncoming trainwreack I'm still the one taking the chance. And I wam willing to take that chance to save him...and "us". That is all...goodnight.

 

[fgarvb1]

Listen up RED it is pretty damn simple if he is a man.

Flirt with him, and then tell him what you want.

Either he will or he won't, there is no maybe.

But I gather there is more to this story.

It sound like you are playing for keeps and that is a whole new ball game.

If you take the short cut you are screwed either way.

Sounds like what you really want to do is to win his love and take him away form this other woman.

 

[Guest]

We were all trying to help you... we all just didn't say things you wanted to hear. I'm sorry that you don't see the obvious flaws in all of this... because there's a good chance that they'll be smacking you in the face soon.

 

[MiloDRemix]

If it's an oncoming trainwreack I'm still the one taking the chance. And I wam willing to take that chance to save him...and "us". That is all...goodnight.

Am I the only one who feels really bad for this guy? lol. I just pray to God that there's someone around to save him from you, RedNightie... cuz that's when he's really going to need some help.

Thank God I'm not you, buddy. Whatever you do, don't go and play the videogames.

 

[fgarvb1]

If you want to want to have a serious relationship with this man let the train wreak happen.

Be there for him. Warning: Do NOT fuck him. (yet)

Tell him how you feel about him, expect nothing in return. Tell him after he gets on his feet again that you would like it very much if you two could try dating again.

You would be amazed how often this works. I'd guess about 50% of the time or better.

 

[Guest]

Thank God I'm not you, buddy. Whatever you do, don't go and play the videogames.

LMAO. "When Pong turns deadly... tonight on Lit."

 

[Bridget69]

Personally, I wouldn't want to be involved with a man who's in a relationship, even if he'd claim to be unhappy with that person or what not. Trust is a big issue for me, so while I wouldn't want it done to myself, I also wouldn't want to do it to someone else.I suppose the only way to seduce a taken man is if he's willing as well.

 

[SkyyAngel]

If you want to want to have a serious relationship with this man let the train wreak happen.

Be there for him. Warning: Do NOT fuck him. (yet)

Tell him how you feel about him, expect nothing in return. Tell him after he gets on his feet again that you would like it very much if you two could try dating again.

You would be amazed how often this works. I'd guess about 50% of the time or better.

That sounds like the best advice yet....wish I'd had you around when I was in my situation.

 

[dollface007]

He said no basically because he's with her. If he wasn't with her...he'd say yes.

I know you'll probably think that I'm being unhelpful and hating on you for whatever reason, but in all seriousness....

The above statement doesn't hold water. If he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you and not her. Simple as that. You cannot seduce someone who doesn't want you. Believe me, Ive tried.

 

[MiloDRemix]

Believe me, Ive tried.

Who hasn't... lol. You have to get rejected a couple times before it sinks in. Then you feel stupid. Or at least I felt stupid.

 

[Nightbird]

This isn't going to be a popular answer Red but it's my two cents worth and how I See it.

Quite frankly after reading your post especially the newer ones two things come to mind... First your very bitter and jealous.. Second you sound a hell of a lot like a stalker.

My advice to you is let him go and get on with your life.

nevermind then...forget I asked.

for the people who were at least trying to help me.

If it's an oncoming trainwreack I'm still the one taking the chance. And I wam willing to take that chance to save him...and "us". That is all...goodnight.

 

[ReadyOne]

Re: A man's point of view

As a relative newbie here, I am not sure my comments are useful but...

I find it odd that you are more concerned about yourself, getting him back and making sure the evil bitch doesn't have them than you are with the man in question or his feelings.

Am I the only one here that wonders why you have not mentioned how he might feel about all this? How he might feel about you? How you might have hurt him? Why he has taken refuge with the evil bitch?

Perhaps the best way to win him back would be to begin actually caring about him in the first place. Or are his feelings not your concern?

Inquiring minds...

If there's going to be a good solution, then the above post tells where to find it.

 

[Mary Hall]

I hate cheaters, they`re the scum of the Earth, find someone who isn`t attached for fuck sake

 

[FinePhilly]

Sex might get him, but it isn't going to keep him.

Sooner or later he'll leave for the same reasons he's not with you now.

Get over it.

 

[vargas111]

I don't see any way but to be his "friend" and wait for her to hurt him enough to open his eyes. It may not happen immediately, but you have to pe patient.

The better he is, the longer it's likely to take him to leave the "bitch." Sorry. but guys can be insanely loyal, too.

Cheers

 

[fgarvb1]

That sounds like the best advice yet....wish I'd had you around when I was in my situation.

Why thanks.

What relationship situations I haven't experienced, I have watched or heard about.

 

[nikki3791]

Re: Re: How to seduce a "taken" man...

You know... if a guy is really "taken" then you shouldn't be able to seduce him at all. And guys who cheat/dump their SO for other women...are generally guys that don't deserve a woman at all.

Sorry if that's negative.

Well said, and so very true.
Nikki

 

[MissTaken]

I have to register my two cents, even though others have probably done so far more articulately.

How to seduce a taken man....

DON'T.

You have yet to post anything that does more than justify your own self interests and you have expressed this without any consideration for him.

He makes his own choices. In truth, you are actually asking , "How do I manipulate someone I claim to care for into being with me and giving up what he has indicated makes him happy?"

Bad Ju Ju.

Any relationship that begins with manipulation will end and not in a pretty way.