How to seduce your wife

[harddrivet]

OK, lets have a discussion on how to seduce your wife.
What works and what doesn't?

 

[fgarvb1]

Let me meet your wife and I'll find out and report back!



Seriously I can't help you here. Mine gets in the mood when she does and NOTHING I do has any effect. Trust me I have tried everything known to mankind short of drugs.

 

[fille]

Easy. You only have to do two things, but you have to do them consistently:

(1) Be thoughtful about your relationship, thinking of things you can do to make her life easier.

(2) Let her know you find her very sexy and desireable, and not just when you want to have sex.

These are the two things that make most women feel like making love with their husbands. These are also the two things that will make her NOT be interested if you fail to do them on a regular basis.

 

[acamstar]

spend some time just kissing her, and taking your time, I know some guys don't enjoy that a lot, but most women do.

 

[sheath]

OK, lets have a discussion on how to seduce your wife.
What works and what doesn't?

If she doesn't feel wanted...if she doesn't feel like the center of your world...if she doesn't feel like you couldn't live without her...

Then nothing on the planet will work to seduce her.

Seduction is all in the mind, baby.

S.

 

[sunfox]

Do some housework.

Nothing turns me on like a man washing dishes or vacuuming. Damn.

 

[Bobmi357]

OK, maybe I'm dense, but seduce your wife? Ummm isn't she supposed to be a willing, even eager perhaps, partner?

When I think of the word "seduce" I tend to think about someone planning a very careful campaign to get someone else to bed. Usually a newly dating couple, not your own spouse.

Yeah a candlelight dinner, maybe a bath together surrounded by candles, some romantic music playing, but thats all fun stuff, its a way of showing her you really do appreciate her and what she does. Its a way of acknowledging her place in your world. But its not really a seduction.

Now if you're really asking what makes your wife horny for you.... well beat me with a stick and drag me out with the trash cuz I haven't the foggiest clue. I have enough trouble trying to figure that out myself.

I would swear that with the exception of the fact that men and women are capable of making baby humans, we're really two different species with a common language. You know the saying, women are from venus, and men are confused by that.

 

[Nightblade]

OK, maybe I'm dense, but seduce your wife? Ummm isn't she supposed to be a willing, even eager perhaps, partner?

When I think of the word "seduce" I tend to think about someone planning a very careful campaign to get someone else to bed. Usually a newly dating couple, not your own spouse.

Yeah a candlelight dinner, maybe a bath together surrounded by candles, some romantic music playing, but thats all fun stuff, its a way of showing her you really do appreciate her and what she does. Its a way of acknowledging her place in your world. But its not really a seduction.

Now if you're really asking what makes your wife horny for you.... well beat me with a stick and drag me out with the trash cuz I haven't the foggiest clue. I have enough trouble trying to figure that out myself.

I would swear that with the exception of the fact that men and women are capable of making baby humans, we're really two different species with a common language. You know the saying, women are from venus, and men are confused by that.

why couldn't seduction also apply to someone's spouse? i mean, isn't seduction in and of itself supposed to be an ultimate act or element of desire? all those things you mention above, that are fun for you and acknowledging her place in your world...well, that could very well be considered seduction...and yes, you'd be acknowledging her place in your world, i thought that's one of the biggest points to seduction...to express just how wanted and desired she is...

it's fun, yes, but can also be enticing, teasing...stimulating...and conducive to becoming lost in a frenzy of passion and sexual desire...seduction can be what you allow it to be, and should ESPECIALLY be enjoyed between married couples, i think...

as to what makes her hot-n-bothered, and how to go about seducing her...well, that's unique to each and every woman...not every woman is the same, nor will she find the same things seductive as other women...that'll be between the couple in question, and what their needs and wants are...

just my ignorant opinion...

 

[PhilLusty]

Do some housework.

Nothing turns me on like a man washing dishes or vacuuming. Damn.

this always gets my wife!!!!! when i do the dishes and clean the house , its easy to get her all hot and horney!!!!

and I believe every woman loves to be seduced regardless if its your spouse or not, I bought her a bunch of clothes and boots for christmas, she loved them, a couple of complete outfits, and it worked to my advantage for days she was seduced and horney, so as one said above, they like to be the center of your world!!!!!
good luck

PHIL

 

[Noor]

I never seduced a wife or a husband for that matter but my advice, based on no experience at all , is to go back to being the person she originally fell in lust with or at least try and recreate the situation.

One of my married friends says if she came home to a spotlessly clean house with dinner on the table, the kids off at grandmas or somewhere, had time to relax, sit on the porch with her husband, play her guitar, and not be pressured to do anything, she would probably jump his bones before the night was through, unless of course she was already so tired that she fell asleep immediately after dinner, then she's probably jump him in the morning.

I also think really good chocolate and maybe strawberries wouldn't hurt

 

[Parklife]

Easy. You only have to do two things, but you have to do them consistently:

(2) Let her know you find her very sexy and desireable, and not just when you want to have sex.

Best piece of advice i've read so far... this has been a key in almost every relationship I've been in. Letting her know and making her feel sexy and desireable leads to many great things.

Of course, buying that fake latex nurses outfit might be your way of letting her know she's sexy but it might not be how she wants to find out. So, be aware of what makes her feel special. Which I guess is what fille's #1 is about: "Be Thoughtful"

 

[CelticFrog]

Okay... at this point, relating to fille's response, I have to plug Gregory Godek's 1001 Ways To Be Romantic for every day use.

It's the simple things. Really, it is.

When J cooks me dinner without even asking what I want to do for dinner or something to that effect, it's awesome.

When J does the little things, he gets the most response. The big thing about the little things is that they have to be consistent, like anti-inflammatory medication, to be effective.

I just compared romance to arthritis meds.

I need help.

Ang

 

[Noor]

When J does the little things, he gets the most response. The big thing about the little things is that they have to be consistent, like anti-inflammatory medication, to be effective.

I just compared romance to arthritis meds.

I need help.

Ang

No, you don't, you just need better meds

Seriously, any of us who take NSAIDS on a daily basis understood exactly what you meant, now if horny partners could only get it....

Noor, in love with Vioxx
and tired of the dreaded flu!

 

[sunfox]

I never seduced a wife or a husband for that matter but my advice, based on no experience at all , is to go back to being the person she originally fell in lust with or at least try and recreate the situation.

One of my married friends says if she came home to a spotlessly clean house with dinner on the table, the kids off at grandmas or somewhere, had time to relax, sit on the porch with her husband, play her guitar, and not be pressured to do anything, she would probably jump his bones before the night was through, unless of course she was already so tired that she fell asleep immediately after dinner, then she's probably jump him in the morning.

I also think really good chocolate and maybe strawberries wouldn't hurt

Good post, Noor, and I agree.

There's a lot to be said for simply giving your wife the chance to be the person she was before kids/bills/constant laundry.

It's the little things my man does that makes me want him more. Not the in depth seduction scenes, really.. that feels set up to me. But him bringing home a rose to me for no apparent reason, or the time he brought me a book I really wanted, without me asking for it. Just because. I love that.. it reminds me of why I love him so much, and helps me to remember that couples need that time together after the kids are in bed, when it's just them.

Seduce the mind, and the body will follow.

 

[Keleigh]

There's a lot to be said for simply giving your wife the chance to be the person she was before kids/bills/constant laundry.


Oh my, you can't even begin to realize how true this is! Sometimes I myself even forget that I am someone other than their mom, or his wife. That I am a person of my own, and I have to tell you, when I feel like me, and am not so exhausted from chasing a gradeschooler and a toddler around, it takes very little to seduce me. I always tell my husband that his doing the dishes is the best aphrodisiac in the world, but he doesn't seem to get it. It takes one little thing off my plate, and often times frees up a half hour for me to really relax. And relaxed... I am a who new woman.

 

[CelticFrog]

He just let me read 157 pages in Word. And then let me write some early thoughts on those pages. And THEN let me write something completely unrelated to what was on those pages. The whole time, I was oblivious to what he was doing... my mind gets kind of one-trackish if I'm 'working' with my happy words...

Anyhow, I just looked up because a wooden spoon was shoved in my face and found myself tasting homemade barbecue sauce. I looked into the kitchen and Lo! There was a dinner being prepared. Oh, the surprise and awe.

Days like this I remember why he is so awesome.

Ang

 

[kiwis29]

Okay from a wife, how do you seduce your husband? Mine works 15 hour days and we have three kids and I also work..Finding the time for intimate relations is sometimes impossible. I am 30 and he is 26 and we have sex like maybe 5 times a month..Isn't that terrible..Any ideas????

 

[fille]

Best piece of advice i've read so far... this has been a key in almost every relationship I've been in. Letting her know and making her feel sexy and desireable leads to many great things.

Of course, buying that fake latex nurses outfit might be your way of letting her know she's sexy but it might not be how she wants to find out. So, be aware of what makes her feel special. Which I guess is what fille's #1 is about: "Be Thoughtful"

If she knows you think she is sexy and desireable all the time, no matter what she is wearing, then she might just be hot to wear the latex nurse outfit. I know I would.

 

[pogogirl]

I am not married but was in a relationship that almost lasted longer then some marriages. Anyway of course him helping out around the house was always a big turn on but he wasn't very romantic and he could have easily suduced me by doing something romantic. Like turn off the tv and get some slow music on. Grab me and just start dancing with me. This might sound corny to some but I always wished he would have done that.

 

[ABN_Ranger]

Sometimes... when I walk through the house in uniform she gets all worked up. What can I say... some gals dig guys in uniform.

 

[pogogirl]

Sometimes... when I walk through the house in uniform she gets all worked up. What can I say... some gals dig guys in uniform.

Umm what kind of uniform?

 

[ABN_Ranger]

Camo kind... with lots and lots of little patches sewn on, she really loves seeing me in my dress uniform, something about all the silver badges and medals. I don't get it... but oh well i'm a guy.

 

[sheath]

Sometimes... when I walk through the house in uniform she gets all worked up. What can I say... some gals dig guys in uniform.

*cough*

Ahem.

Some women are just lucky enough to be married to former Army Rangers/Air Force slackers.



Welcome to Flirtation Central, J. You are gonna like it here.

S.

 

[ABN_Ranger]

Yeah yeah yeah, I be warned... I can take it... I'm tough and if it gets too bad... well i'll just sit in a corner and cry like a 6 year old who just found out they eat the easter bunny in Germany.

 

[Sybarist]

Being reminded how much he loves me, and that he still finds me attractive after all the time we have been together is very nice and everything... It leads to a greater willingness in me to wash the damn dishes, make dinner, iron his work clothes, and make the lunch exactly the way he wants it day after day after day.. I don't consider that seduction, it's appreciation, and I deserve it. It's not sexy, but it's necessary, and without it I'd be gone..

Him taking the actual time to sit on the couch with me, watch TV, talk about the day... Touching me, taking my hand, rubbing my neck or my feet, paying "special" attention to me when I am not expecting it. Telling me I am sexy, that I turn him on, showing me- Hell that is what you are talking about, and it gets me every single time!!

........ of course, I do have the higher sex drive in my partnership. There are days when he just has to breathe a few times and I'm up for it!!!


Syb.