How to spot a dom?

[Xswfx]

what do you want out of a Dom?

like a person who is dominant in the relationship. not a paid dom.

 

[barefootgirl69]

The best way to meet someone is simply by getting to know people. I bet there are people you know who are in the lifestyle. No, not everyone in the LS is already in a relationship, they could be between partners.

Someone mentioned finding a local group on Fetlife, and that's a great start. Attend a Munch - which is a generic dinner where you meet and talk to people.

Take your time getting to know anyone before jumping into submitting for them.

 

[J D Danger]

nada

you have been given good advice by people who most likely have more real life..club and BDSM experience then I do

so I will simply echo what they have said

if I were you I would learn what I could of the BDSM scene local to you(if there is one)

Fet life can be a good resource although you will have to navigate around the content creators and sex workers

but there are some very good groups that could lead you to munchies and other gatherings that are just regular people with kinks trying to be a part of a community

 

[seekingAlpha]

When spotting a Dom:

• Communicate first: ask for number of expected reps, lift-off preference, and failure cues.
• Use a stable stance with hands ready (under the armpits for squats, hovering just below the bar for bench).
• Only touch the bar when the rep is truly failing.
• Give the minimum help needed for them to complete the rep — never steal it.

Your job is safety and support at this time, not being submissive, and not lifting the weight for them. Let them push their limits while staying protected.
Spot perfectly, and you’ll earn the highest gym praise: a quiet “good girl,” and then you will be used and shared like a piece of worn out gym equipment while everyone watches.

 

[average_red]

I suspect that you are asking the wrong question, it probably would help to first ask what kind of Dom you want, and then try to drill down to the characteristics that you can use to identify potential matches.

I recommend using people from the opposite gender to advise you. We generally don't see the opposite genders behavior objectively enough to recognize what traits are indicators of other traits.

 

[Thomas_Hardy]

How would i ever spot a dom in the wild? Lol! Its so hard to tell!! Im sexually submissive , and i have attracted mostly vanilla or switch people my whole life.

Often, it's opaque allusions that are dropped, there to be pick up in convo by anybody attuned to kink.

My most memorable come on in this way happened at a dance, we had been dancing for a while and got talking about jobs and why we chose them. She began reflecting on why she chose medicine, and it went a bit like ..