How to write a threesome.

[HordHolm]

I'm struggling with a scene. I'm struggling with writing in general. I lost my job two years ago and have been doing what i can for cash around the district to support my family. So there has been little creative energy. Mostly just survival energy. But that has changed with a new 'transition to retirement' job and the security it brings. (Imagine this dirty old man as a school bus driver.... Please!)

But threesomes.

I've never had one.

I've had moresomes where it was just a bunch of us and we were all horny and the rules were suspended temporarily for situational reasons. But I'm struggling with writing an intimate threesome. Just three people who are into each other. FFM. F1 is instigator. M is her partner. F2 is a mutually adored friend.

To get myself writing again, I've opened my old folder of stories I started but finished in my head and lost interest in finishing in text and found a few that intrigue me. I'm endeavouring to give them an hour or so tapping at the keyboard to get the creative muscle pumping again. This particular one has me snagged because as they say, 'write what you know'. My family situation means that at this advanced stage in life it is not time for experimental threesomes.

The story is written in first person, the M part of said threesome. I'm trying to concentrate on his experience and convey that while being sensitive to the experience for the involved parties.

Got tips?

Got reading for me? Stories where my esteemed literoticans have tackled this well?

Got personal experience?

I'm familiar with writers block and tackling it like i usually do. Read a lot, write a little each day. But I'm not familiar with threesomes or writing them.

OP, there's a lot of good suggestions here, and I'll only add one more - someone else mentioned that readers don't necessarily want realism. I think that's a really important point, and I couldn't agree more: many (most? Maybe even a considerable majority?) don't necessarily want realism, but they will want verisimilitude. The story/situation/scene can be as far-fetched as you want, but should have internal logic - your readers want to believe that these characters, at this moment, are doing something believable in their environment. Realism, on the other hand, might not be so fantastical (in that it might not accord with the fantasy). Some readers might also be happy with the idea that something is awkward, uncomfortable in a way for the participants, for example first timers, in a way that is realistic, but I don't think you need to worry about strictly sticking to that kind of story/scene: if you want hot sex in an Ottoman harem, go for it. If you want everyone equally sexually liberated without any second thoughts, go for that too. Alternatively, if you want one of the characters to need some coaxing, that's also fine, with lots of 'excuse me's, and accidentally getting in each other's way (which is my experience of - fun - threesomes with strangers, and even with someone known to myself and partner).

 

[Imstillfun]

I have a few 3 some stories. My story “unexpected threesome” is a true story. Not as highly rated as others but may give you a more factual description. The others are all in the 4.6 range so I’ll assume written fairly well. They’re all written in the first person.

 

[Zootonius]

Good advice here. I'll add, write what feel good (pun intended.) There's endless ways a threesome can go, so it's hard to get it wrong. On the technical side, pronouns are a pitfall for the reader. And to avoid using names over and over, try descriptions, like the older woman, or our friend, or my wife, etc. It's a way to break up repetition.

 

[Candy_Kane54]

I would recommend third person ...

I'll see myself out now ...

 

[StillStunned]

I would recommend third person ...

I'll see myself out now ...

I have a story about a threesome described from the POV of the fourth person.

 

[anthrodisiac]

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The best part of this is they somehow felt the need to put "Yoda." As if anyone who didn't know the quote or recognize the image would have any idea who that is.

"Yeah, I know Yoda. But what's the picture and quote got to do with him?"

 

[BellaBestia]

My vignette/story, We is first person pov of the female 3rd but I think it could be written from any other perspective in that scenario - the husband watching, the wife receiving, or even an omniscient narrator above the action. It’s perhaps the effort of a shift of perspective and empathy of whomever the pov you choose more than drawing from an experience memory you don’t have.

 

[StillStunned]

The best part of this is they somehow felt the need to put "Yoda." As if anyone who didn't know the quote or recognize the image would have any idea who that is.

"Yeah, I know Yoda. But what's the picture and quote got to do with him?"

It's probably the SW fan equivalent of "QED", or "Amen".

 

[EmilyMiller]

The best part of this is they somehow felt the need to put "Yoda." As if anyone who didn't know the quote or recognize the image would have any idea who that is.

"Yeah, I know Yoda. But what's the picture and quote got to do with him?"

A little superfluous I agree

 

[anthrodisiac]

I recently tackled MFF for the first time. I had a lot of apprehension about it. The only threesome I'd been in was overwhelming, too much going on, and I spent most of it going over logistics and trying to figure out best approaches so everybody was happy (people pleaser, can't be helped).

The scene I did was a guy hooking up with a pair of wives (lizards), and I decided to kinda toss him in the deep end. They had more or less a mind meld, worked very well together without needing a lot of communication, while the guy was left navigating the interaction. One was semi-dominant, one semi-submissive; chill bassist boss and subby trophy wife vibe. The goal was to overwhelm the MMC so he was forced to stop thinking so much about things and be in the moment (part of his character arc and a goal he'd been struggling with over the series), just embrace fucking them.

You've gotten a lot of good advice. Particularly about asymmetries and dynamics, as well as balancing realism and vibe so it feels real to the reader. The only thing I'd throw in is consider the people's relationships to one another. Are two of them involved? Does a pair know each other really well, and the other is a third being thrown in? A threesome is a great way to explore complex interpersonal dynamics, which makes it trick, but also offers an opportunity to really show who these people are in relationship to one another.

It's probably not your speed: anthro lizard wives x human male. And it's 14k, almost 9k of sex (which still blows my mind; not sure how that happened). But, for shits 'n giggles: Once You Go Anthro Ch. 06: Slyss/Vim.

 

[BearNextDoor]

I can only throw my own out there, which I tried to make cozy and warm and just a tiny bit silly. These three were strangers before they were thrown together, so it might not quite align with your thoughts.

Threesome with an Artist

 

[TheIntrepidBoyager]

I have had threesomes and moresomes, and to be honest, I'm not really a fan, because it's hard to concentrate on more than one person at a time and someone's leg/arm/hair is always in the way. It tends to end up as A and B while C watches/cheerleader/narrates/strokes them a bit, then changing places.

The interesting part is how A, B and C feel about all this, at least to me. Other authors stick to a fantasy where a threesome is a mark of success (a MFF one for a man, generally), and having it is the goal, so as long as the man gets off surrounded by tits, reality is irrelevant.

...

This is basically my real life experience as well. They can surely be fun but my encounters have never been as fluid as porn and our imaginations make them out to be.

 

[EmilyMiller]

This is basically my real life experience as well. They can surely be fun but my encounters have never been as fluid as porn and our imaginations make them out to be.

Precisely my experience with attempted DP. Awkward, strange angles, too many limbs, unfulfilling for all three parties, embarrassed guys, too much giggling, charley horses. Hats off to porn stars for making it look easy and sexy, I found it to be neither. YMMV.

 

[Bramblethorn]

This is basically my real life experience as well. They can surely be fun but my encounters have never been as fluid as porn and our imaginations make them out to be.

A couple of the poly relationships I'm in started out with group stuff, but mostly settled down into two-at-a-time activity after that. It's easier to organise and saves having to deal with that "third wheel" situation.

I agree with @Kumquatqueen that for a lot of people it seems to be a prestige thing, where they think having a threesome will somehow make them cool. But I have had several threesomes and I am still lightyears away from being cool.

 

[TheWritingGroup]

The Writing Group story that's really "about" a threesome (as opposed to including one) is Unicorn.

And it isn't about a threesome, really. In a way, it's a friends-to-lovers romance between a couple and their good friend. And it's about how plans never quite work out, no matter how smart you are. And it's about how people over "a certain age" are still sexy and sexual.

My point being: maybe don't focus entirely on the sex part.

 

[liliput1]

The best part of this is they somehow felt the need to put "Yoda." As if anyone who didn't know the quote or recognize the image would have any idea who that is.

"Yeah, I know Yoda. But what's the picture and quote got to do with him?"

Yoda’s 800 years old. He’s gotten his freak on somewhere in there.

 

[HordHolm]

I have had threesomes and moresomes, and to be honest, I'm not really a fan, because it's hard to concentrate on more than one person at a time and someone's leg/arm/hair is always in the way. It tends to end up as A and B while C watches/cheerleader/narrates/strokes them a bit, then changing places.

The interesting part is how A, B and C feel about all this, at least to me. Other authors stick to a fantasy where a threesome is a mark of success (a MFF one for a man, generally), and having it is the goal, so as long as the man gets off surrounded by tits, reality is irrelevant.

From my stories, Trio of Non-Monogamies is an emotional threesome (MM-F), this chapter of Educating Laura has a threesome in a small tent (M-F-M), but I've not a actually written a MFF one, I don't think, though two happened and were mentioned briefly at the end of Naked Bisexual Lube Wrestling (a story of 10 women, and one man not wanting to be thrown out of the party).

I've been writing a chapter of Bradley the nice American with Rachel and Emma, but it's focusing on whether he can be lured into BDSM and not much WHGOGA.

Interestingly, Mrs HoldHolm had a single FFF experience some years ago that came about accidentally in the midst of a larger gathering (not sure it really qualifies for OP if there's a 'party' going on). What she said about it, though, was that it was much more A + B + C than A + B with C and then swap. All the women involved had male partners, and all of them had experience of a threesome with men involved before that accidental FFF. Talking to her about it last night, she mused that perhaps it was fun because it was a sexual experience that removed their men: its very difference made it fulfilling. She's very sad that the opportunity for a repeat performance never arose (life has this damned habit of getting in the way).

 

[anthrodisiac]

Yoda’s 800 years old. He’s gotten his freak on somewhere in there.

I mean, obviously. How else did Grogu come about?

 

[HordHolm]

Precisely my experience with attempted DP. Awkward, strange angles, too many limbs, unfulfilling for all three parties, embarrassed guys, too much giggling, charley horses. Hats off to porn stars for making it look easy and sexy, I found it to be neither. YMMV.

It's also a testament to the editor - just think how much, "no, wait, you first," and "hang on, I've got cramp," and, "more lube! More lube!" ends up on the cutting room floor (or recycling bin these days).

 

[liliput1]

It's also a testament to the editor - just think how much, "no, wait, you first," and "hang on, I've got cramp," and, "more lube! More lube!" ends up on the cutting room floor (or recycling bin these days).

Sexy af: a naked man with long hair leaning over you

Not even a little sexy; a naked man with long hair whose hair you’re kneeling on while he says, “ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow!”

 

[Rollinbones]

Well, my deep and sincere thanks. I had six hours to myself today and spent a lot of that reading your suggestions and stories. Then I went for a walk which lets my mind wander. When I got home a three thousand word threesome scene fell out of my head into a word document. I'd been stuck at that part of that particular story for over a year now. I didn't know how to get my characters through it.

But after all of your help, they pretty much wrote it themselves and surprised me with a few bits and pieces.

One of the last pieces of advice I gleaned before I sat at a keyboard was not to shy away from the sex scenes but to approach them with curiosity. To wonder how the characters feel. To wonder how the acts play out. To wonder how the mechanics of the situation work. To wonder who put what where and how it felt. And that in particular seemed to unblock the scene and let the characters tell me how it unfolded.

It still needs a lot of tidying up. I have to go back through my story and seed things about the characters and to give them more individual voices so that the scene reads more easily. But it's out. And now the rest of the story can happen.

Again, my deep and sincere thanks.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Well, my deep and sincere thanks. I had six hours to myself today and spent a lot of that reading your suggestions and stories. Then I went for a walk which lets my mind wander. When I got home a three thousand word threesome scene fell out of my head into a word document. I'd been stuck at that part of that particular story for over a year now. I didn't know how to get my characters through it.

But after all of your help, they pretty much wrote it themselves and surprised me with a few bits and pieces.

One of the last pieces of advice I gleaned before I sat at a keyboard was not to shy away from the sex scenes but to approach them with curiosity. To wonder how the characters feel. To wonder how the acts play out. To wonder how the mechanics of the situation work. To wonder who put what where and how it felt. And that in particular seemed to unblock the scene and let the characters tell me how it unfolded.

It still needs a lot of tidying up. I have to go back through my story and seed things about the characters and to give them more individual voices so that the scene reads more easily. But it's out. And now the rest of the story can happen.

Again, my deep and sincere thanks.

Yay! This place being positive

 

[MrPixel]

Precisely my experience with attempted DP. Awkward, strange angles, too many limbs, unfulfilling for all three parties, embarrassed guys, too much giggling, charley horses. Hats off to porn stars for making it look easy and sexy, I found it to be neither. YMMV.

You made me think of a foursome scene I wrote a couple of years ago:

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Emily lifts up from her cunni on Jan, who's starting to squirm in reaction to the stimulation. She's definitely not pulling away. "Like that's a problem, Steven? Oo! I know that cock!" Em giggles.

"You'd better!" Jackson laughs as he strokes into his wife from behind.

"Jackson? Me?" Susan requests.

"Fuck or lick?"

"You're in Emily. How about I switch around for a good lick."

"Okay. Don't kick anybody in the..."

"OW! Fuck, Susan!" Emily cries.

"...head."

"Sorry!"