Howcome girls almost NEVER ask guys out?

[Private_Label]

are there any real answers besides a simple "they're shy"?lol

Left overs of cultural conditioning from the pre 1960/70's when good girls didn't do anything so forward. To ask a a guy out was almost like saying you were a slut who was begging to be taken advantage of. I didn't make the rules, I just report on how they look from my POV. I grew up in the late 60's early 70's and if I had ever asked a guy out I think I would have shocked my grandmother to death - because "good girls just do not do that sort of thing."

Cultural conditions has also instilled in girls (still, but in much subtiler ways) that they should not be the aggressor (i.e. confident one who makes the first move). It's almost the dating "glass ceiling." Few women manage to crack it, and those that do are seen as somehow... different from all the other girls - sometimes this is in a bad light and sometimes this is in a good light. Sometimes the girl is afraid that she will scare the boy off by taking a chance and admitting that she likes him (you remember in school when groups of friends would pass along this important information, "Sally likes George, and wishes he would ask her out." but "George is more interested in Janet, so Sally shouldn't bother trying to get George to ask.")

 

[sexyjenn]

I would have to agree with most of the posts so far.

I would like to say that girls should forget the whole gender-role thing and go ahead and ask, don't be shy now If you don't ask you'll never know, nothing worse than regrets it's worse than rejection.

 

[M's girl]

I know from experience that guys are as much shy and hesitant as us girls can be. No one wants to be turned down so it's almost always a gamble. I have asked boys/men out, sometimes after I established they at least liked me very much. Once I realized it would be as risky for them as it would be for me it was easier to make myself do it. I think it helped that I was never turned down though (and I'm not even close to being Miss America / Holland, just so you know) and the ones I asked out turned out to become long-time relationships.

I agree also that women have a role in encouraging the men. If I like someone I will certainly let him know. That goes for friendship as well as a potential relationship. There's nothing wrong in telling someone you like them (men or women and coming from both genders!). How can anyone not like it when someone says to them they are liked or loved! I used to be somewhat shy when someone would compliment me but at one point I decided it was a nice gesture that deserved an equally nice respons. If more people knew how to take compliments more people would be encouraged to give them...

.... oh, haha, and the world would be a better place