How's A Man Supposed to Dance?

[RazeByFire]

Seriously. How am I supposed to dance with a woman on the dance floor at a club? Nothing in my life has ever prepared me for this. Just jog in place- Sure even I can do that but really-boring!

How does one learn? And one must be able to, not everyone is born with a sense of rhythm. Can't even learn from my true teacher-TV. Naturally, only women are shown dancing center frame. So what can I do?

I am considering asking a good female friend of mine to try to teach me, but I thought I might try this first. Our relationship is somewhat... complicated at the moment. I'm not sure I want her to know that I totally clueless in this area.

 

[SweetErika]

How about a class, like maybe a dance fitness-type class at a local gym? There are also DVDs if you'd prefer, but I'm guessing a class would be much easier to follow, learn, and practice. AND apart from learning and getting in better shape, you may meet some ladies to go out and practice with!

 

[prevacid]

well first what kind of club/dancing are you going??? theres rave, hip-hop, raggae, latin, ballroom or just a bar where you can dance to whatever music is on??

start-off by flicking your fingers and moving your head up and down(like nodding) together with the music. the key to dancing is to synchronice your movement to a beat in the music. every music have a beat or tempo that keeps repeating and that's kinda like the cue for your movement.....

 

[RazeByFire]

I've thought about taking a class Erica. No matter what kind of dance class I take it might help me develop a better sense of rhythm.

 

[BarnabySchmidt]

before you dance, ask yourself, "Am I a tough guy?" If you are, follow Norman Mailer's advice and don't dance. (Taken from his book titled, "Tough guys don't dance.")

That is what I did and I realized, I am a tough guy, therefore I shouldn't dance. So now I don't dance.

If you happen to be not so tough, just get out there and shake your body. When you loosen up and aren't so self-conscious, you will dance well.

If all fails, try to start a conga line. Even a tough guy like me has started one of those!

 

[averageblonde]

If you are at a club, just go up to a girl, and start moving. You don't really need a rhythm. Just know how to use your hips. Get behind the girl and start grinding against her and she'll let you know how you should move. It should come naturally.

 

[eudaemonia]

Austin is a pretty hip place. I'd be very surprised if there weren't as many places where you can learn any number of social dance styles, such as swing, rhumba, salsa, hustle, etc., as there are in the slightly smaller city where I live. Swing, rhumba and cha cha are relatively easy to learn because the beat/count is always the same.

Check the alternative weekly in Austin for clubs that offer a rotating style of dance each night of the week, and also check out your daily paper's weekend entertainment section. Social-dance clubs generally offer an hour-long lesson so you can learn a few steps, and then several hours of live music or a good DJ where you can practice your new moves to your heart's content.

Ask a female friend to go with one night a week for a few weeks, or place an ad on craigslist.org in your city. I defy you to *not* find someone willing to take you up on such an ad. Women *CRAVE* men who will ask them to dance/take them dancing. Trust me on this!

 

[Huggles]

I have much the same problem.. I really dislike this "jiggling about" kinda dancing..
I feel like I look like a right idiot..

Anyway.. a friend introduced me to a dance style called "Ceroc".. You might find people teaching it in your area... google for it..

It's a stylish blend of jive, dirty dancing and latin, some call it a Modern Jive.. It has set moves, but is performed free style.. I've found it pretty easy to learn so far.. And basically, the guy leads, and the girls get all the cool looking spins and moves..

Worth a look.. it's very social.

 

[mrpenis]

before you dance, ask yourself, "Am I a tough guy?" If you are, follow Norman Mailer's advice and don't dance. (Taken from his book titled, "Tough guys don't dance.")

That is what I did and I realized, I am a tough guy, therefore I shouldn't dance. So now I don't dance.

If you happen to be not so tough, just get out there and shake your body. When you loosen up and aren't so self-conscious, you will dance well.

If all fails, try to start a conga line. Even a tough guy like me has started one of those!

LMAO!! I hear ya. Never fails when your out with the buddies having a few, the only guys that look okay dancing are either gay or so friggin drunk that they're doing it to make fun of the other guys out there dancing

From a "manly-man" stand point, your better off letting her get down with her girlfreinds and "maybe" doing the slower stuff with her. I've never ever in all the years had my lack of initiative to dance stop me from being a person, and often, you'll be doing yourself a favor for saving face instead of looking like a fool...but there's got to be the ones that the rest of the place watches and snickers at so...let whitey get his groove on LOL!!

 

[EJFan]

Get behind the girl and start grinding against her and she'll let you know how you should move. It should come naturally.

see... this is my problem... in this situation, i cum naturally too.

 

[Carmenica Diaz]

Here’s a shock – women judge men by the way they do or don’t dance!

A man who can dance well (it is a prelude to sex after all) is one step closer to my knickers.

Learn but don’t be a robot – show feeling and passion as well as, above all, a sense of rhythm.

Norman Mailer was a slug of a writer and an even worse man.

 

[mrpenis]

Here’s a shock – women judge men by the way they do or don’t dance!

A man who can dance well (it is a prelude to sex after all) is one step closer to my knickers.

Learn but don’t be a robot – show feeling and passion as well as, above all, a sense of rhythm.

Norman Mailer was a slug of a writer and an even worse man.

I used to think that too years ago when I straight up did'nt give a fock what I looked like out there-most was "dirty dancing" bump and grind crap that anybody can do, but the gals that really could shake it were often horrible in the sack. I'm sure the same goes the other way as well.

All of the partners I've had over the years, it's always the quite ones that blew me away with freakiness and skillz LOL. Like most other braggers, just cuz they put on this big production does'nt mean they know what they're doing when it comes down to it.

 

[blondi84]

Whenever I go out, I always dance with the men that look confident. When you really look at someone, everyone looks like a spaz trying to dance. Unless you are a super graceful person, who practices in front of a mirror, like in ballet or something. Mainly have a couple drinks, listen to the song for a minute to get the rythym of it down, and act like you know what your doing. Dont try anything complicated though, or you will fall on your ass, speaking from experience.

 

[RazeByFire]

\ Mainly have a couple drinks,

Problem being that I don;t drink. BUt I have considered asking a female friend to try to teach me. As well as taking classes. Hopefully I will soon have someone to dance with. Hehe

Thanks for all the replies.

 

[phoenix1224]

Here’s a shock – women judge men by the way they do or don’t dance!

A man who can dance well (it is a prelude to sex after all) is one step closer to my knickers.

Unfortunately, how a man dances isn't a good indicator of how he'll be in bed... It's just another one of those old wives' tales.

I've heard woman talk about men they've been with and I actually heard these exact words once: "He was horrible in bed... I just don't understand it, he's a great dancer."

And take me, for example. I can't dance to save my life... But I'm a great lover.

 

[flamingpeach]

I've always thought that a guy gets bonus points just for going out there with me and trying. Guys arn't supposed to be able to dance. When I'm dancing with a guy, all I expect is that his feet might be able to find the beat, he doesn't try to impress me by trying to look like he actually can dance, and that he has a good time checking out how hot I look on the dancefloor! If you look at any club dance floor when the night is hopping, that's what 90% of the guys will be doing, so I don't think it's neccessary to do much more. Just don't do the "white guy overbite". Looks so silly...

 

[Valley Lilly]

Just let yourself go. Doesn't matter if you don't do it well enough... if you enjoy it, that's enough.

 

[M's girl]

..... Guys arn't supposed to be able to dance.

They aren't?

I like guys who dance and know what they are doing.
Heck, I like guys who know what they are doing, period.

 

[ggoof]

beer, helping white boys dance

http://www.freakshop.com/lp/product...ssionid=CBE369F39BAB4BD43F5CD7116E3A9D69.jvm1

this t-shirt is so true.


PS: I wish I could dance :-
)

 

[Ravin the Poet]

Just go out, and watch how other guys dance and mimic what they do. Or say who gives a fuck, and do what you think is right.

Ravin

 

[SpankyMcCranky]

When I started going out I was pretty self concious about dancing. I have NO idea. Then I realised that most people don't really. Just have fun. Nod your head, do the twist, tap your foot, BE CONFIDENT

 

[Ravin the Poet]

When I started going out I was pretty self concious about dancing. I have NO idea. Then I realised that most people don't really. Just have fun. Nod your head, do the twist, tap your foot, BE CONFIDENT

Yeah thats basically it. No one is going to be like "Oh my god you can't dance" because they probably suck themself. Hell a friend of mine is the WORST dancer in the world, and I can't even descirbe how bad he is, but when we go out he has a great time and doesn't give a fuck.

But that guy can play one mean air guitar!!

Ravin

 

[blondi84]

When I started going out I was pretty self concious about dancing. I have NO idea. Then I realised that most people don't really. Just have fun. Nod your head, do the twist, tap your foot, BE CONFIDENT

Don't do the twist.

 

[DanHarr]

imagine Clint Eastwood and Justin Timberlake. now think about which one would dance and which would not. Now ask yourself - am I Clint Eastwood, or am I Justin Timberlake?

well, who are you, punk?

 

[RazeByFire]

If I were to ask myself who was more likely to get laid: a loner dedicated only to dispensing a sort of rough justice or a dancing pretty boy-well, actually neither of those are really appealing, are they.