Husband caught cheating

[fairyqueen]

This is a serious thread. I'm asking for advice. Please do not post or pm unless you are being serious. Long story short I just found out that he's been cheating on me for about 2 months. I do love him but I don't know what to do??!? Anybody have any advice?

 

[John Doe]

You have two options: leave him or stay with him.

I suggest that if you decide to leave him then hire a P.I. to get proof that he's cheating and take him to court for every penny he has.

If you decide to stay with him then start taking it up the ass.

 

[fairyqueen]

He's says he's sorry, that he did it because she looks like a porn star and she approached him. Which obviously makes me feel like shit! I want to be with him but I dont know where we can go from here.

 

[John Doe]

He's says he's sorry, that he did it because she looks like a porn star and she approached him. Which obviously makes me feel like shit! I want to be with him but I dont know where we can go from here.

He sounds like a dickhead.

 

[fairyqueen]

I know I've been thinking that too! I really wish this was all a bad dream. I really want to kick both their asses!!!! Im not saying I'm perfect but I've always been there for him! I just don't know what to do! I know I'm rambling but I'm pretty confused, hurt and upset right now.

 

[blunt_trauma]

stop being a coward.
dump him.
move on.

 

[butters]

he's been cheating on you for eight weeks

he's broken his vows
he's broken your trust
he's broken your heart


ask yourself why you'd want to stay with someone who can do this to you.

and would he still be shagging it if he hadn't been 'found out'?

and why's he placing all the blame onto the woman? he's chosen to fuck her, time and time again. you don't even know what he told her - whether he said he was single, or you were crap in bed, and so on...

i am not posting these things to hurt, though they likely will - brutal honesty is what you need now. YOU DESERVE BETTER. IF you decide to forgive him (and that's a powergame in itself) will he repay you with devotion or cheat again when opportunity presents itself? a lot depends on the man, of course. to stay only because 'I love him' is hard but following the path of least resistance. never mind staying, his arse should be booted to the curb for treating you so badly. then, when he's not within your daily circle, perhaps make cool decisions about your lives. it's almost impossible to do that when he's in your house, your room, your bed...

 

[blunt_trauma]

''it's not my fault! she was hot and she let me!!''

so the next time some hotter-than-you comes on to him?

 

[fairyqueen]

I know the truth hurts!! I agree with everything thats been said. I just wish this hadn't happened, i guess there are alot of things that I need to think about. It's never going to be the same I do know that!

 

[blunt_trauma]

excuses that wouldn't make it ok but that i could empathise with:

-you were abusive towards him
-there was a long term dysfunction in your sex life
-he grew emotionally close to a woman over time
-he was having a breakdown

excuses that just tell you he's a selfish pig:

-she was hot and she asked me

 

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[4est_4est_Gump]

Does he hold elective office?

Does he have money?



Do you live in a single-, or double-, wide?

 

[fairyqueen]

He's not abusive, he's been going thru his "midlife" crisis for about a year now. I thought we were trying to work thru that but then I found this out.

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

Insure him and then run him over with his new sports car...



It was an accident.

Shit Happens!

 

[SgtSpiderMan]

Would you be able to trust him again?

 

[fairyqueen]

I truly don't know, I've been thinking that all night. We've been married 4 years and up until this point I thought we had a good marriage. I want to hurt him like he's hurt me, but at the same I just couldn't do that to him. Funny right?

 

[SgtSpiderMan]

I truly don't know, I've been thinking that all night. We've been married 4 years and up until this point I thought we had a good marriage. I want to hurt him like he's hurt me, but at the same I just couldn't do that to him. Funny right?

Does he want to still be married?

 

[fairyqueen]

He says he loves me and he doesn't want a divorce.

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

He says he loves me and he doesn't want a divorce.

Why wouldn't he want to keep all his stuff, a house-cleaner, cook, sex device AND his mistress???



OF COURSE HE FUCKING LOVES YOU!!!

Probably loves the front doormat too!

 

[bluemoves01]

Its ok run with it he probably wont leave you, we never do. Everybody likes a bit on the side. Forgive him.

 

[Pakiville]

I can grill you a spam sandwich bro...right after I wash these dishes bro...lol

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

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[pink]

why aren't pissed? I'd be beyond pissed off.

 

[HoHoBomb]

This is a serious thread. I'm asking for advice. Please do not post or pm unless you are being serious. Long story short I just found out that he's been cheating on me for about 2 months. I do love him but I don't know what to do??!? Anybody have any advice?

if he fucked someone else for 2 months, you should fuck 2 different people for 4 months.

 

[blunt_trauma]

Why wouldn't he want to keep all his stuff, a house-cleaner, cook, sex device AND his mistress???



OF COURSE HE FUCKING LOVES YOU!!!

Probably loves the front doormat too!

so true.
he can have it all.
a few boohoos and she'll forgive the lot.