Husband caught cheating

[pointless]

oh, you poor thing.

 

[cowslinger64]

oh, you poor thing.

You opinion sure seems to carry a lot of weight.. With yourself.

 

[pointless]

You opinion sure seems to carry a lot of weight.. With yourself.

and other people with three digit iqs.

 

[JoyDyan]

oh, you poor thing.

Judging by all the grammatical errors in your profile and the nature of your stories...I feel safe in risking your low opinion of me. I'm not after the approval of the lowest common denominator.

But thanks for the input.

 

[cowslinger64]

and other people with three digit iqs.

Ok query.


You're not smarter than anyone, obviously.

 

[pointless]

Judging by all the grammatical errors in your profile and the nature of your stories...I feel safe in risking your low opinion of me. I'm not after the approval of the lowest common denominator.

But thanks for the input.

yeah, that's not telling, you silly fucker.

ugh, these people.

 

[JoyDyan]

yeah, that's not telling, you silly fucker.

ugh, these people.

What? I'm supposed to think you have some kind of superior intelligence when you can't even put together a correctly punctuated sentence?

Excuse me, but if you are going to put yourself in a position of judging people, you'd better make sure your own house is in order first.

 

[cowslinger64]

yeah, that's not telling, you silly fucker.

ugh, these people.

What? I'm supposed to think you have some kind of superior intelligence when you can't even put together a correctly punctuated sentence?

Excuse me, but if you are going to put yourself in a position of judging people, you'd better make sure your own house is in order first.

Lol.. but but but people with THREE iqs think he's smart!!


Another pompous windbag... must be a query alt. MUST be.

 

[pointless]

i attack your opinions while you attack my punctuation and admit to doing research on me in an attempt to get at me. what fun.

 

[cowslinger64]

i attack your opinions while you attack my punctuation and admit to doing research on me in an attempt to get at me. what fun.

No... you talked out your ass about a show. A show that some find funny and somehow you are the judge of what's funny. You're nobody but a troll on a message board dude. If you're even a dude.

btw...your username matches your opinions perfectly.

 

[pointless]

Lol.. but but but people with THREE iqs think he's smart!!


Another pompous windbag... must be a query alt. MUST be.

three digit IQs. as in a score of a hundred or more. basically average or higher. so not you is basically what i'm saying.

 

[cowslinger64]

three digit IQs. as in a score of a hundred or more. basically average or higher. so not you is basically what i'm saying.

Your iq isn't doing you any good here.


Your iq means nothing to anyone but you... and after seeing you post, it's no where near as high as you were led to believe... looks like the 20 bucks you paid for the answers went to waste.

 

[JoyDyan]

i attack your opinions while you attack my punctuation and admit to doing research on me in an attempt to get at me. what fun.

Yep, because your opinion doesn't mean jack to me if you're an idiot. And the research I could manage was pretty limited, since your writing was so awful that I could read only a tiny bit til my brain felt like it was getting slapped with an imbecile stick.

You might have a three-digit IQ, but it doesn't count if it's only 100. So yes...if you attack my opinions, I'm going to check out whatever part of you I can to see if I should give merit to YOUR opinion. I didn't find any reason to do so.

 

[jomar]

Obviously he is in the wrong for cheating. But I don't know how anyone can make suggestions without knowing the intimate circumstances.

One question popped to mind as I read the original postings. What does "I am always there for him" mean? I think that a lot of women formulate what they think a man wants or should want in their own mind. Or they take their opinions from pop culture or their mom or their friends......anybody but the man himself.

The only way to be there for him sexually is to listen to what he wants. Seek to understand with a completely open mind, place NOTHING out of bounds and try very hard not to judge what you hear. Disregard everything that every other person has ever told you about what a man wants - ESPECIALLY what your mom, gfs and the pope have to say on the matter. If you catch yourself even thinking about saying "that is just the way I was raised", you aren't saying "I am there for you." You are saying "I want to believe I am there for you, but it comes with conditions and constraints."

Whether you chose to accommodate his desires is another matter. You may find that he is a selfish douche bag who doesn't deserve you. Or you may find that the things that he really wants are the ones you have put off limits and you need to rethink why you have done that and whether that situation is sustainable.

I don't mean to make this sound like it is in any way your fault - it isn't. However, a lot of women have a tendency to de-legitimize the aspects of men that they don't like or find unappealing. That is just self delusion. It doesn't change him one iota but it does make him feel shame - and the first woman who comes along who doesn't make him feel that way can look pretty damned appealing.

I'll give you an extreme. I know a lady who found out her husband had a brief affair when their kids were getting to early adult age. We went through all of the usual recriminations after which I asked her what their sex life was like. It had been close to non-existent since the kids were born. The early post child birth years were tough then after that she didn't like her body and then and then and then - it was almost 20 years later and their marriage was sexless. Each individual excuse was valid on its own......but no sex for almost 20 years? I asked her if he would have wanted to marry her if he knew there would be no sex for decades. The answer was no. His betrayal needed to at least be seen in the context that she hadn't kept her commitment to him.

If what he wants is to start his day with a BJ, you can exhaust yourself doing everything else under the sun but you have no beef when he still isn't happy. He told you what he wanted - give him the BJ or don't but don't bullshit yourself by ignoring the request and substituting something else without regard to his desires.

That was certainly heartfelt. I thank you on her behalf.

 

[jomar]

what is your opinion on dane cook?

He get major points on his internet marketing. And he's an ok actor.

 

[Garnate]

He get major points on his internet marketing. And he's an ok actor.

He needs to stick to acting.

And he needs to let me sleep with him.

 

[bambikiller]

Options:
You only been married for 4 years.
1st marriage for both, 2nd, 3rd.
Doesn't matter.
Finances & happiness would you be better with him than without him.
That's the only real question.
Kids? that's a whole other dimension.
I was bitching about my marriage on this forum and a lot of people said just divorce her.
They don't know shit, it's always easy to give advice, more so if it's bad.
I've been through a couple of marriage councilors, it might help.
My little advice is to find out why he strayed.
Does he not want to be married. You said you put out. Is he looking for something you won't do. maybe he likes to get pee'd on or whatever. Maybe he is going through a midlife crises and needed the extra bust to his ego.
Only you can decide what you want to do.
But if you don't think you can trust him ever again then you might as well get a divorce.
That's my unsolicited 2 cents worth of advice.

 

[jomar]

...

And he needs to let me sleep with him.

I do a good impression. If I visit NOVA soon...?

 

[subdued_passion]

Ok query.


You're not smarter than anyone, obviously.

Hey, query has a black alt!!



Family guy is awesome. Don't be a hata cause you don't get the humor. If you like, we can splane it to ya, reeeeeeeeal slow.


you seem to be quite the condescending bitch.

So anyone who thinks you're a moron is a query alt? And calling Lady F a bitch is probably why LC called you a misogynist. I could be wrong but that is what your words convey.

Judging by all the grammatical errors in your profile and the nature of your stories...I feel safe in risking your low opinion of me. I'm not after the approval of the lowest common denominator.

But thanks for the input.

can you please post a link to your stories/writing so we can decide how much stock to put in anything you say?

What? I'm supposed to think you have some kind of superior intelligence when you can't even put together a correctly punctuated sentence?

Excuse me, but if you are going to put yourself in a position of judging people, you'd better make sure your own house is in order first.

So according to you intelligence is measured solely based on English language skills?

 

[JoyDyan]

can you please post a link to your stories/writing so we can decide how much stock to put in anything you say?




So according to you intelligence is measured solely based on English language skills?

Slinger is perfectly capable of addressing those statements, so I'll let him speak for himself.

As for me... no, I don't have any links to post. I do not wrote fiction, since I'm well aware of my creative limitations, and I know I'm not good at coming up with story ideas; however, if you'd like a writing sample, I'm happy to forward you any of the number of papers I've written in the last few years in preparation for my Master's degree. I'm sure any one of them would suffice to assure you that you can, indeed, put stock in what I say.

No. Intelligence is not solely measured in language skills. Unfortunately for Pointless, though, it's usually a pretty good indicator for the lack thereof when those skills are poor.

The point of this being, of course, that you can be defensive all you like. .. but I wasn't the one who put myself in charge of judging whether other people's sense of humor was moronic or not. If Pointless doesn't want to be judged on such a superficial basis, I would suggest that he/she stop doing it to everyone else.

 

[cowslinger64]

So anyone who thinks you're a moron is a query alt? And calling Lady F a bitch is probably why LC called you a misogynist. I could be wrong but that is what your words convey.

Who gives a crap what you think? Didn't you butt your nose into something a while ago that didn't concern you? Are you the board police or something?

I'm not looking for your opinion, your thoughts or your concern.


I said that about her because it pertained to the situation. I like Family guy and garnate had said the same, then those two douchebags decided that anyone that did was a moron. Fuck them. I don't answer to either of them, or you.


LC is another story... I'm sure a busybody like you has the time to figure it all out. I'm probably the least misogynistic of anyone on this board. I also have no problem speaking my mind, which you may have noticed. You will also notice, that I don't speak to you... perhaps you can return the favor.

BTW....watching joy hand pointless his ASS... was fuckin awesome.

 

[CandiCame]

So did you guys settle your cartoon-based disagreements yet? This place heated up like a comic shop on Wensday.

 

[Mr_Jon_Thon]

I would have never guessed watching cartoons without your spouse was cheating.

 

[Aquagal]

I would have never guessed watching cartoons without your spouse was cheating.

Hello, nice to see you back from wherever.

 

[pointless]

So did you guys settle your cartoon-based disagreements yet? This place heated up like a comic shop on Wensday.

well, yeah. family guy still sucks, dane cook is still an unfunny douche and life goes on.