I have this friend.....

[DVS]

Fear is paralyzing at times.

And, this isn't just fear. It's a precisely calculated fear...a total controlling fear. He knows what he needs to do to produce this fear, so she doesn't cause him any trouble. The extreme isolation, the total control and the constant intimidation creates a helpless feeling that is difficult to understand, unless you experience it for yourself. It takes your sense of worth and smashes it.

You begin to exist and feel just as the worthless creature he says you are. He says nobody wants you but him. Nobody can help you but him. In time, subconsciously, you feel you can't exist without him. Consciously, you want to leave, but your subconscious keeps telling you it's not possible to leave, because he's the only one that can help you. He's your only hope of survival. Your subconscious mind has been brainwashed.

In actuality, he's your worst nightmare and hammering that into your brain is the only way to fight back. His constant control and intimidation has to be countered by opposing feelings of hope from the outside. In a way, it's like the battle of good and evil.

 

[LittleJade]

And, this isn't just fear. It's a precisely calculated fear...a total controlling fear. He knows what he needs to do to produce this fear, so she doesn't cause him any trouble. The extreme isolation, the total control and the constant intimidation creates a helpless feeling that is difficult to understand, unless you experience it for yourself. It takes your sense of worth and smashes it.

You begin to exist and feel just as the worthless creature he says you are. He says nobody wants you but him. Nobody can help you but him. In time, subconsciously, you feel you can't exist without him. Consciously, you want to leave, but your subconscious keeps telling you it's not possible to leave, because he's the only one that can help you. He's your only hope of survival. Your subconscious mind has been brainwashed.

In actuality, he's your worst nightmare and hammering that into your brain is the only way to fight back. His constant control and intimidation has to be countered by opposing feelings of hope from the outside. In a way, it's like the battle of good and evil.

This is EXACTLY what it's like. Exactly.

I'm so glad I'm not with him anymore.

 

[HottieMama]

And, this isn't just fear. It's a precisely calculated fear...a total controlling fear. He knows what he needs to do to produce this fear, so she doesn't cause him any trouble. The extreme isolation, the total control and the constant intimidation creates a helpless feeling that is difficult to understand, unless you experience it for yourself. It takes your sense of worth and smashes it.

You begin to exist and feel just as the worthless creature he says you are. He says nobody wants you but him. Nobody can help you but him. In time, subconsciously, you feel you can't exist without him. Consciously, you want to leave, but your subconscious keeps telling you it's not possible to leave, because he's the only one that can help you. He's your only hope of survival. Your subconscious mind has been brainwashed.

In actuality, he's your worst nightmare and hammering that into your brain is the only way to fight back. His constant control and intimidation has to be countered by opposing feelings of hope from the outside. In a way, it's like the battle of good and evil.

DVS..you are right on the money with this....

 

[Kajira Callista]

And, this isn't just fear. It's a precisely calculated fear...a total controlling fear. He knows what he needs to do to produce this fear, so she doesn't cause him any trouble. The extreme isolation, the total control and the constant intimidation creates a helpless feeling that is difficult to understand, unless you experience it for yourself. It takes your sense of worth and smashes it.

You begin to exist and feel just as the worthless creature he says you are. He says nobody wants you but him. Nobody can help you but him. In time, subconsciously, you feel you can't exist without him. Consciously, you want to leave, but your subconscious keeps telling you it's not possible to leave, because he's the only one that can help you. He's your only hope of survival. Your subconscious mind has been brainwashed.

In actuality, he's your worst nightmare and hammering that into your brain is the only way to fight back. His constant control and intimidation has to be countered by opposing feelings of hope from the outside. In a way, it's like the battle of good and evil.

sounds like a sadist

 

[HottieMama]

Has nothing to do with being a sadist and has everything to do with being an emotionally/psychologically damaging and abusive fuck.

 

[DVS]

sounds like a sadist

A sociopath does often have what seem like sadistic traits, but a sadist doesn't have sociopathic thoughts. The sociopath's method of intimidation can seem sadistic, but pain isn't one of his satisfactions. Pain is just a way of controlling someone.

 

[Kajira Callista]

A sociopath does often have what seem like sadistic traits, but a sadist doesn't have sociopathic thoughts. The sociopath's method of intimidation can seem sadistic, but pain isn't one of his satisfactions. Pain is just a way of controlling someone.

now it sounds like a dominant lol

 

[Kajira Callista]

Has nothing to do with being a sadist and has everything to do with being an emotionally/psychologically damaging and abusive fuck.

do you know this person being discussed?

 

[HottieMama]

do you know this person being discussed?

No, do you? Judging from what was posted though, this has about as little to do with D/s or BDSM as Sunday Mass.

 

[Kajira Callista]

No, do you? Judging from what was posted though, this has about as little to do with D/s or BDSM as Sunday Mass.

and that is your opinion

 

[DVS]

now it sounds like a dominant lol

Come on, now. I know you're just funnin' with me. These things are sometimes difficult to explain.

I seriously don't think you'd prefer a relationship with a sociopath over a nice strict sadistic Master. Yes, they seem to have similar methods in their actions, but the thoughts behind those methods are very different, even if the results their actions seek seem the same.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Come on, now. I know you're just funnin' with me. These things are sometimes difficult to explain.

I seriously don't think you'd prefer a relationship with a sociopath over a nice strict sadistic Master. Yes, they seem to have similar methods in their actions, but the thoughts behind those methods are very different, even if the results their actions seek seem the same.

*bats lashes and says nothing*

 

[Netzach]

and that is your opinion

You know, it read ok till I got to "and secretly she went to a therapist"

?

If she's not unhappy in the relationship, why secret? Is that big a secret from your owner not the sign of a problem?

If she's globally not happy, it doesn't sound like a very GOOD M/s one to me.

 

[Kajira Callista]

*shrug* there are tons of not good relationships in this world D/s M/s or other.
My intent was to bring forward a dynamic in the relationship that everyone that posted overlooked.

 

[Netzach]

*shrug* there are tons of not good relationships in this world D/s M/s or other.
My intent was to bring forward a dynamic in the relationship that everyone that posted overlooked.

If that is the dynamic she wants, I imagine she might also tell the well intentioned around her to please fuck off about it, not look to confide in them. I'm just not seeing it there.

 

[Kajira Callista]

If that is the dynamic she wants, I imagine she might also tell the well intentioned around her to please fuck off about it, not look to confide in them. I'm just not seeing it there.

maybe she likes to whine or maybe she wants him to be the bad guy. we really will never know. i just get kinda tired of henny penny and friends stuff that goes on when there is a post like this and often wonder if the post was not made for exactly that reason.