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[YourCaptor]

Question for the gang here...

If someone you care about is obese and unfit and not actively taking steps to remedy the situation, should you say anything to them? If so, what? And how?

I have a friend who I am genuinely concerned about, health wise. If they keep up their current eating habits and lack of exercise, they're going to have very significant health problems down the road - and five miles down the road, not five hundred. I love this person like a sibling and wouldn't want to say anything to hurt them but it hurts me to see them like this, and I worry.

Will they just have to figure things out for themselves?

Thoughts?

She probably knows, and chances are she knows more about it than you, but that's obviously not changing her habits.

Tell her what you are saying here. Like, "I want to talk to you about something, it's a sensitive subject and I worried it may hurt your feelings. It's important though, so understand this is not meant to be mean. I'm worried about your weight causing you health problems in the near future." Then let her take it in, process it, and discuss.

And talking about it is just talk. You should invite her out to go with you when you do something active or healthy and show her the ropes. You know like the new kid on the block. The block being healthy living.

 

[Cattypuss]

Question for the gang here...

If someone you care about is obese and unfit and not actively taking steps to remedy the situation, should you say anything to them? If so, what? And how?

I have a friend who I am genuinely concerned about, health wise. If they keep up their current eating habits and lack of exercise, they're going to have very significant health problems down the road - and five miles down the road, not five hundred. I love this person like a sibling and wouldn't want to say anything to hurt them but it hurts me to see them like this, and I worry.

Will they just have to figure things out for themselves?

Thoughts?

As an overweight person I would say leave well alone. Nobody is more aware of the health and lifestyle impact of a weight problem than the fat person themselves. NOBODY wants to be fat. NOBODY is unaware that they are fat or of the consequences of being fat.

Best thing you can do for this person? IMO, wait until (if/when) they volunteer that they are unhappy being so fat/unfit and gently ask if there's anything you can do to help.

The biggest support I have EVER had in my attempts to get thinner and fitter is my current boyfriend, who loves and desires me at ANY weight. The confidence boost that that gives me is what has allowed me to start getting thinner and fitter. Many many fat people are overeating because they lack self-esteem.

 

[TarevaChine]

Question for the gang here...

If someone you care about is obese and unfit and not actively taking steps to remedy the situation, should you say anything to them? If so, what? And how?

I have a friend who I am genuinely concerned about, health wise. If they keep up their current eating habits and lack of exercise, they're going to have very significant health problems down the road - and five miles down the road, not five hundred. I love this person like a sibling and wouldn't want to say anything to hurt them but it hurts me to see them like this, and I worry.

Will they just have to figure things out for themselves?

Thoughts?

I believe the best thing you can do is invite them to go for a walk with you and/or invite them over and serve a healthy lunch. IMO, these little things are more likely to help than to hurt someone's feelings. Even though your intentions are for the right reasons, people are very sensitive when it comes to this subject.

 

[Keroin]

Thanks for the replies to my question you guys.

I think the advice to stay quiet about it is probably the wisest avenue. The only reason I considered saying anything is because we live a long distance from each other so I can't be there in person to suggest fitness activities we could do together, etc.

I guess I'll just have to wait and hope.

CP, I think you're right about the self esteem. On the surface this person comes off as 100% confident but there are a lot of other clues to suggest otherwise.

 

[intothewoods]

Question for the gang here...

If someone you care about is obese and unfit and not actively taking steps to remedy the situation, should you say anything to them? If so, what? And how?

I have a friend who I am genuinely concerned about, health wise. If they keep up their current eating habits and lack of exercise, they're going to have very significant health problems down the road - and five miles down the road, not five hundred. I love this person like a sibling and wouldn't want to say anything to hurt them but it hurts me to see them like this, and I worry.

Will they just have to figure things out for themselves?

Thoughts?

Is this a man or a woman? Sometimes men are better at taking these things, but it depends on the person of course.

I would give it a shot, say that you're concerned about the person's health, encourage small changes, see if there's some reason that they're stuck that you can help with, etc., but most likely it won't make a huge difference. Maybe I'm wrong, and I hope I am, but every time I've tried this with friends it hasn't made a difference.

 

[Keroin]

Is this a man or a woman? Sometimes men are better at taking these things, but it depends on the person of course.

I would give it a shot, say that you're concerned about the person's health, encourage small changes, see if there's some reason that they're stuck that you can help with, etc., but most likely it won't make a huge difference. Maybe I'm wrong, and I hope I am, but every time I've tried this with friends it hasn't made a difference.

Man. I also suspect nothing I can say will make a difference...and I'm usually so optimistic about things.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I have lost 32 lbs since Jan 1st. I have 5.6 lbs to go to reach my 1st goal. Which is the weight I was when I got married. My end goal is 10 lbs less then that.

The weight has not come off as quickly as I would have liked but I have enjoyed the way it has come off. I either go for a brisk 40 minute walk outside everyday or use my treadmill while watching old episodes of Mad Men. I add in some yoga, some free weights some stretching and I am coming along nicely.

The best part was just recently being able to go to Acadia National Park with hubby and spend hours every day hiking the moderate trails without gasping for breath. It is such a beautiful place in the Fall.

How I lived and lost wt this year is how I can live the rest of my life. I love ice cream and will never give it up. I just didn't eat it as often. That pretty much has been my diet changes--portion control and moderation for the not so healthy stuff.

Slow and steady.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

I have lost 32 lbs since Jan 1st. I have 5.6 lbs to go to reach my 1st goal. Which is the weight I was when I got married. My end goal is 10 lbs less then that.

The weight has not come off as quickly as I would have liked but I have enjoyed the way it has come off. I either go for a brisk 40 minute walk outside everyday or use my treadmill while watching old episodes of Mad Men. I add in some yoga, some free weights some stretching and I am coming along nicely.

The best part was just recently being able to go to Acadia National Park with hubby and spend hours every day hiking the moderate trails without gasping for breath. It is such a beautiful place in the Fall.

How I lived and lost wt this year is how I can live the rest of my life. I love ice cream and will never give it up. I just didn't eat it as often. That pretty much has been my diet changes--portion control and moderation for the not so healthy stuff.

Slow and steady.

I'm glad you're making good progress


Keroin, I hope you can figure out something to help your friend. I'm in a similar situation with some friends, but I just have to keep quiet. It's frustrating.

 

[intothewoods]

Man. I also suspect nothing I can say will make a difference...and I'm usually so optimistic about things.

I've just seen a lot of people attempt interventions with their friends without it making a difference. The person has to want to make the change. On the other hand, maybe all of these efforts plant the seeds. I don't know. I think it's worth saying a little something, but not going overboard.

I have lost 32 lbs since Jan 1st. I have 5.6 lbs to go to reach my 1st goal. Which is the weight I was when I got married. My end goal is 10 lbs less then that.

The weight has not come off as quickly as I would have liked but I have enjoyed the way it has come off. I either go for a brisk 40 minute walk outside everyday or use my treadmill while watching old episodes of Mad Men. I add in some yoga, some free weights some stretching and I am coming along nicely.

The best part was just recently being able to go to Acadia National Park with hubby and spend hours every day hiking the moderate trails without gasping for breath. It is such a beautiful place in the Fall.

How I lived and lost wt this year is how I can live the rest of my life. I love ice cream and will never give it up. I just didn't eat it as often. That pretty much has been my diet changes--portion control and moderation for the not so healthy stuff.

Slow and steady.

Nice! I'm in a plateau at the moment over my last 5ish pounds or so, and I'm hoping that this is just a slow and steady journey.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Does 50 million sneezes over two days count as a work out? My abs sure are sore from the effort

 

[bhndblueyes88]

Does 50 million sneezes over two days count as a work out? My abs sure are sore from the effort

According to Answers.com, about 3 calories are burned with a sneeze. So 50 million sneezes is QUITE a work out

 

[YourCaptor]

Thanks for the replies to my question you guys.

I think the advice to stay quiet about it is probably the wisest avenue. The only reason I considered saying anything is because we live a long distance from each other so I can't be there in person to suggest fitness activities we could do together, etc.

I guess I'll just have to wait and hope.

CP, I think you're right about the self esteem. On the surface this person comes off as 100% confident but there are a lot of other clues to suggest otherwise.

Is she the type to ask for help?

 

[Keroin]

Is she the type to ask for help?

"He". And no, not as a general rule.

 

[Cattypuss]

Damn killer flu keeping me from gym

Try to walk doggy but the cold air just sets me off coughing uncontrollably so I'm restricting it to 20-min strolls

 

[bhndblueyes88]

Damn killer flu keeping me from gym

Try to walk doggy but the cold air just sets me off coughing uncontrollably so I'm restricting it to 20-min strolls

The killer rain is what's putting me off right now. I JUST got over a cold and I'm still feeling a little bleh. I really don't even want to walk the distance between my apartment and the apartment gym. I'll just do some weights before bed -_-

 

[cfuhrer]

One word:

Bronchitis

 

[FurryFury]

*huggles*

One word:

Bronchitis

 

[Keroin]

So, I have fought the good fight. It has been almost a year since my back injury, and I have stayed as active as I can manage...occasionally paying the price for that activity. I have had injections and Xrays and ultrasounds, ART treatments, chiro, acupuncture, acupressure, massage, etc, etc, etc. Last night, still awake and in more pain than I can describe, at dark o'clock, I almost did the unthinkable and cried. Out of pure frustration.

I didn't, but it was close.

Tomorrow my ART therapist is starting me on "The Buchberger System" which is a serious of exercises designed to strengthen the rotator cuff and scapula. By Cod I hope it works. If it doesn't...?

If it does, it may be helpful for others out there dealing with back/shoulder pain. I'll keep y'all posted.

In any case, I broke down and begged for drugs today. I'm currently hopped up on muscle relaxants and pain killers. The pain remains but it is like white noise now. Whew. I hate complaining about shit like this but I am ready to Hulk-smash something.

 

[cfuhrer]

So, I have fought the good fight. It has been almost a year since my back injury, and I have stayed as active as I can manage...occasionally paying the price for that activity. I have had injections and Xrays and ultrasounds, ART treatments, chiro, acupuncture, acupressure, massage, etc, etc, etc. Last night, still awake and in more pain than I can describe, at dark o'clock, I almost did the unthinkable and cried. Out of pure frustration.

I didn't, but it was close.

Tomorrow my ART therapist is starting me on "The Buchberger System" which is a serious of exercises designed to strengthen the rotator cuff and scapula. By Cod I hope it works. If it doesn't...?

If it does, it may be helpful for others out there dealing with back/shoulder pain. I'll keep y'all posted.

In any case, I broke down and begged for drugs today. I'm currently hopped up on muscle relaxants and pain killers. The pain remains but it is like white noise now. Whew. I hate complaining about shit like this but I am ready to Hulk-smash something.

There's nothing wrong with venting or crying. In a way, that's what this thread is for.
Here's hoping you feel better soon.

 

[intothewoods]

So, I have fought the good fight. It has been almost a year since my back injury, and I have stayed as active as I can manage...occasionally paying the price for that activity. I have had injections and Xrays and ultrasounds, ART treatments, chiro, acupuncture, acupressure, massage, etc, etc, etc. Last night, still awake and in more pain than I can describe, at dark o'clock, I almost did the unthinkable and cried. Out of pure frustration.

I didn't, but it was close.

Tomorrow my ART therapist is starting me on "The Buchberger System" which is a serious of exercises designed to strengthen the rotator cuff and scapula. By Cod I hope it works. If it doesn't...?

If it does, it may be helpful for others out there dealing with back/shoulder pain. I'll keep y'all posted.

In any case, I broke down and begged for drugs today. I'm currently hopped up on muscle relaxants and pain killers. The pain remains but it is like white noise now. Whew. I hate complaining about shit like this but I am ready to Hulk-smash something.

Oh man, that sucks. I had no idea it was that bad. I hope the new exercises work. What did the doctors you've seen say? Do they have any suggestions?

 

[bhndblueyes88]

So, I have fought the good fight. It has been almost a year since my back injury, and I have stayed as active as I can manage...occasionally paying the price for that activity. I have had injections and Xrays and ultrasounds, ART treatments, chiro, acupuncture, acupressure, massage, etc, etc, etc. Last night, still awake and in more pain than I can describe, at dark o'clock, I almost did the unthinkable and cried. Out of pure frustration.

I didn't, but it was close.

Tomorrow my ART therapist is starting me on "The Buchberger System" which is a serious of exercises designed to strengthen the rotator cuff and scapula. By Cod I hope it works. If it doesn't...?

If it does, it may be helpful for others out there dealing with back/shoulder pain. I'll keep y'all posted.

In any case, I broke down and begged for drugs today. I'm currently hopped up on muscle relaxants and pain killers. The pain remains but it is like white noise now. Whew. I hate complaining about shit like this but I am ready to Hulk-smash something.

Good Luck, Keroin! Rootin' for yah!

 

[FurryFury]

Keroin, *HUGS* sometimes you NEED to cry. I'm sure you know that. Rent a sad movie and let it out. Also muscle relaxers can be a wonderful thing, I use them a few times a year and they can be a wonderful relief.

 

[gypsy*seer]

I hate complaining about shit like this but I am ready to Hulk-smash something.

I'm pullin' for ya', K!
Although there is something to be said for the muscle relaxant/good cry technique...
It's very hard to relax the body (even the specific muscle group) as a whole, which (hugely) helps to enable blood flow the the sore areas.

But I'm not telling you anything you don't already know.
It's difficult, but I believe that the more that you try, the easier it will get with time.

Shootin' out the good Karma fairy to you...

 

[Keroin]

Thanks so much for the good wishes and sympathy guys. My regular doctor was out of town when the test results came back, so I had to see a locum who didn't have anything useful to say except that there were no tears to be seen. I'll start my exercises then get in to see my doc as soon as possible. No idea what's next as far as tests or treatment but I'll do whatever it takes.

And, yes, thank Cod for the muscle relaxants. I decided to just Cowboy up this morning and by 2pm I gave up that silly notion and went to the walk-in clinic, tail between legs, lol.

Thanks for letting me vent. That alone helps. As did the very wonderful massage L gave me before dinner tonight.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I'mma going to vote for Hulk-Smashing!



I've been off the gym again lately. Had a few weeks off for exams, then just got lazy. I also lost a bit of weight, so felt ok about not going.

But, but, but, I have to keep going, for slightly speedier weight loss and for fitness. Think of the fitness!

*does some mental cheerleading moves and rah rahs and go-team! woos*