I need help, handjobs...

[RadicalEdward]

okay so my significant other was jerking me off but she could not get me to cum. Now I could feel like I was about to explode but still nothing gave. I felt bad because she felt like she was doing something wrong. I KNOW for a fact that she was doing something right, but i'm afriad there is something wrong with the plumbing. I don't know.

Here is what I think, we where clothed and some times my penis would come in contact with my shirt. I never liked the feel of clothing against my penis so that could be wrong.

I don't know what is wrong

yay for sounding like a 14yr old

 

[Casey811]

Don't feel bad, I could never cum from a handjob alone.
(with my OWN hand I can rather)

One exception: When the woman whispers naughty talk in my ear, then I can. Maybe next time ask her to do that

 

[therockap1]

okay so my significant other was jerking me off but she could not get me to cum. Now I could feel like I was about to explode but still nothing gave. I felt bad because she felt like she was doing something wrong. I KNOW for a fact that she was doing something right, but i'm afriad there is something wrong with the plumbing. I don't know.

Here is what I think, we where clothed and some times my penis would come in contact with my shirt. I never liked the feel of clothing against my penis so that could be wrong.

I don't know what is wrong

yay for sounding like a 14yr old

There's nothing wrong, I've only cum once from a handjob. Much prefer a bj

 

[Tele2047]

I can't cum (yet) from handjobs or blowjobs, but could it be nerves? Were you holding back for fear of um, embarassing yourself or hitting her or anything? If the shirt's the problem, pull it up or take it off

 

[Eilan]

I'm not a guy, so y'all can take what I'm saying with a grain of salt.

I'm gonna agree with the other posters. You don't have anything to feel bad about, and neither does your SO. Some men don't cum from hand jobs; some don't cum from blow jobs. Perhaps it's nerves, the shirt issue, whatever, but it really doesn't matter. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, and it doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with your SO's technique.

Is it possible that you're just used to how YOU do things when you masturbate? While the things your SO does might feel really good, she's probably not doing exactly what you do to get yourself off. As you said, what she's doing isn't bad--it's just different.

You might want to try masturbating in front of her, just so she can see what you do. Some people are a little shy about doing this, but my hubby and I love masturbating for each other. It can be really, um, informative.

Good luck!

 

[canuckfreak]

I've never been a sure thing with a hand job, but I've had some success -in my experience a proper hand job subscribes to the same hand movement as a top notch blow job - that being the inverse twisting motion. Thing with a hand job is that it needs to be a light touch for it to work, which is not something a lot of gals grasp.

It is worth noting that a circumsized guy will not have as much luck with HHJs as non - the mechanics just dont make as much sense.

 

[AppleBiter]

Well, I'm no man, but I have fucked one for 9 years (which must count for something ) so, I'll just share my experience with you. Sometimes, when I give him a blow job or a hand job -- and it's completely random -- he gets really close, but can't cum. That has happened during sex every once in a great while, as well. He'll just get really close, but not be able to cum. I've even had that happen to me in some circumstances. There's nothing wrong w/your plumbing, it's perfectly natural. As we like to say in our bedroom, when that happens, "Sometimes, you get screwed." (Yeah, yeah. We're witty. )

Anyway, we'd all like to have a mind-blowing orgasm every time we're stimulated, but sometimes it just isn't in the cards. It sucks -- there's no denying that. But, it happens. The best way to deal with it is just to try, try again. Usually, we found that the next time, everything is back to normal.

Good luck w/this!

AppleBiter

 

[SweetErika]

Well, I'm no man, but I have fucked one for 9 years (which must count for something ) so, I'll just share my experience with you. Sometimes, when I give him a blow job or a hand job -- and it's completely random -- he gets really close, but can't cum. That has happened during sex every once in a great while, as well. He'll just get really close, but not be able to cum. I've even had that happen to me in some circumstances. There's nothing wrong w/your plumbing, it's perfectly natural. As we like to say in our bedroom, when that happens, "Sometimes, you get screwed." (Yeah, yeah. We're witty. )

Anyway, we'd all like to have a mind-blowing orgasm every time we're stimulated, but sometimes it just isn't in the cards. It sucks -- there's no denying that. But, it happens. The best way to deal with it is just to try, try again. Usually, we found that the next time, everything is back to normal.

Good luck w/this!

AppleBiter

I'm a woman, but the getting really close and not getting over the edge happens to me all of the time...it's almost like it feels TOO good or I'm overwhelmed. The solution for me is to take a short break. After calming down a bit and resuming, the orgasm comes quickly.

But as everyone else said, don't worry about it. See it as a one-time thing, and think about all of the things you can both try to make it different next time.

 

[rocky_rhoade]

Sometimes I have to do a little coaching and a good mental fantasy usually does the trick for me. I have held out so long that she started to tire, but it just made her that much more determined. 20+ years of practice helps too! Don't sweat it.

 

[Pyro Paul]

unfortunatly its all technic here.

your body will always accept the pleasure of sex, but in a non lubricated situation (handjobs) it is harder for men to go to the peek. men can do it to themselves because they know how to apply the right preasure and speed inorder to maximize it. its harder for women to find this right mix inorder to maximize it for you.

you may not cum because of shyness and uncertanty. if you are getting a straight hand job only then it will be harder to do simply because of their inexperence.

the Best way to have it done, is have them stand behind you and jerk you off as if you where jerking yourself off. this feeling of comfort and the well known makes it easyer to blow. after doing that a few times then Their hands from infront will often work with more success.

other than that, its just years of practice that make women good at giving hand jobs.

 

[BarnabySchmidt]

Practice Makes Perfect

You gotta look at it this way: You know exactly how to jerk yourself off; you've probably been doing it since you were 10-12 years old. Depending on your age, this could be years, or decades of practice.

It's not realistic to expect your SO to give you a killer handjob unless either 1) She has had alot of practice elsewhere, or 2) You have given her extensive advice.

Myself, It took me a good while to teach my SO how to give me a proper handjob. Even still, I have better technique. For that reason, I prefer her to give me a blowjob, using her hand; or, to have sex.

Another thing. If you are "trying" to orgasm, expect that to have the opposite effect. Nothing prolongs orgasm like trying to have one.

 

[Feeblor]

my "friend" had a problem with this, It turned out to be something with one of his prescriptions. If you're taking medicine regularly check out the side effects.