I suck! i need help lasting

[greentea]

Alright so heres my deal. Im 20 and the girl im with is the first person ive had sex with. And I suck i cant last worth anything.

The first time we had sex I came before I even entered her but i expected that. I got hard again and got a good minute into it and came again.

Now the second time I had mastubated earlier in the day. Then we had sex and Again i lasted about 30 seconds and i came. I stayed hard this time and then still only lasted about 30 seconds!

Fortunately I'm realy good at oral and can get her off easy enough. And she is understanding she told me that we just need to work on it. Which of course made me feel somewhat better.

But even still I want to know if theres any advice or exersises i can to to help the process along? I did a search on this and couldnt come up with much.


Someone please help i feel like such a failor


thanks everyone
greentea

 

[timmaah]

Alright so heres my deal. Im 20 and the girl im with is the first person ive had sex with. And I suck i cant last worth anything.

Don't worry so much... its pretty normal.. just get used to what happens when you get close to the edge.. and when you start to reach that point.... either pull out for a second or two.. or change up the pace... she'will understand

 

[Stiffy Says...]

Ever hear of Kegel Exercises?

Ok...sit in silence and peace for a moment....now, tense the muscles around your ass, base of your cock. You will notice there is one that makes your cock jump or shift. Try (subtly) just repeatedly clenching, holding and releasing this miuscle whenever you are sitting and no one will see your pants move around.

Also, try a condom...the thicker, the less senssation = the longer you will last.

Your issue is very common...don't sweat it...

 

[Stiffy Says...]

True Story

Ok so here is how m y first time went...

I was 22 (yes, older than many) and met this girl through a friend who I thought was HAWWWTTT!!!

When it came time about a month later, I was ready, ready to blow before I got out of my pants, but trying so hard to play it cool...

Well, a week before, a good friend of mine sat me down for some advice, as she knew we were gonna "get it on".

She told me, (Stiffy), I know you. You are gonna get all excited, you are gonne get inside for the first time, and shoot your load right there. Then yo uare gonna apologize profusely, regretting that you came too fast. it is normal, don't sweat it.


Guess what happened

 

[Vixandra]

Lucky guy, you've got a good girl who's willing to help you learn.
As long as you're willing to help her get off or go another round, I'm sure practice will help you get better.
They're right about a thicker condom too.

 

[Icingsugar]

Fortunately I'm realy good at oral and can get her off easy enough. And she is understanding she told me that we just need to work on it. Which of course made me feel somewhat better.

Then, honestly, you're better off than 9 out of 10 guys out there. You can satisfy the lady pretty well, she seems to care about you and is willing to stick with you and, well, practice.

She could be right, you know. You might just need to get used to it.

I didn't have that luck. I tried tp play cool and experienced and didn't tell the girl that I was completely new at it and nervous as hell. Well, it turned out she expected far more than that, was only in it for the sex, and dumped me in a second. Which is, by the way, about as long as I lasted.

My next gf was really cool about it, and patiently gave me thorough lessions in orals and the female anatomy. And lots of practice. It did the trick. Would say she made me a fairly average performer in the end.

 

[greentea]

Great Great I knew this would be the place to go for advice! Thanks alot everyone!


Yes this girl is definately not in it for the sex. And I have zero pr oblems getting up and going again. Also i am more then willing to go down on her to get her off. Actualy in the past I insist i get her off.



I definately feel alot better about this situation. Im grateful she doesnt seem to mind either. I'm going to try those exersises stiffy told me and i guess just hope that practice makes perfect. I'll try different positions next time too and maybee the condom. I did notice when i was on top i lasted slightly longer then this second time with her on top.


Again thanks alot, any more suggestions are welcome if you got em.

Greentea