I think i messed up

[flowenol]

my gf gave me the chance to eat her out the other day. This may not sound like a big deal, but Im talking about a girl who wouldnt let me finger her, who wouldnt even let me take off her pants. The first time i even saw her pussy was the day i ate her out.

I spent some time, but it didnt seem like she was enjoying it. I think it had alot to do with the fact that i didnt know what to do.

How do i keep her into the whole idea of eating her out? Afterwards when we talked, she didnt seem to interested. I really want to get this right and give her the most pleasurable experince she ever had. Ill pretty much do anything for her.

HELP!!

 

[Glynnis]

I'm not sure that this will be terribly helpful, but talking to your gf about the fact that you really want to do this for her might help...along with a good understanding of female anatomy and how it works...try this link, it gives pretty good explanations on the mechanics:

http://www.coolnurse.com/orgasm_female.htm

The problem, of course, is that every woman is a little different in how she experiences orgasm, so it might take a little experimentation to figure out what works for her.

 

[cocolacroix]

 

[PertPerth]

Don't stress too much at this stage - I used to be similar to your gal. I was even nervous getting naked while I was alone!
The biggest/most important thing is that she is feeling comfortable enough with you that she got nakie with you!
My only advice is don't push things, talk with her about it so you're both feeling comfortable, and be gentle. Oh, and have fun too

 

[BYObob]

How about some training?

Suggestion: Pick up the book "She Comes First". Read it and practice. Enjoy.

 

[playmiss]

The difference between oral sex I enjoy or do not enjoy is related to the guy's focus. It should be a trade. I am opening up to him a part of self that is very intimate and private, and in return he is giving me a special kind of attention. If he focuses on performing, it is not enjoyable, because he is actually focusing on himself. If he focuses on lots of little ways to give me attention, and on my responses, it is enjoyable. It has something to do with a guy's self-confidence, and my confidence in him. You have to develop that so she can have confidence in you, especially if she is shy or fearful. That has been my expeience so far (not that I am all that experienced).

 

[Ravin the Poet]

As playmiss said, a lot of it deals with confidence. If you are focusing on the hope you do well so she will let you do it again, you'll focus more on yourself rather then her, making it not as great as it could be. Remember you can take things very slow. Unless you're trying to run the mintue mile, then I'd say go very slowly, and you can judge by her reaction if she likes it or not. I haven't heard of to many women who will say no to extra long attention.

 

[Many Feathers]

I don't want this to sound trite...

my gf gave me the chance to eat her out the other day. This may not sound like a big deal, but Im talking about a girl who wouldnt let me finger her, who wouldnt even let me take off her pants. The first time i even saw her pussy was the day i ate her out.

I spent some time, but it didnt seem like she was enjoying it. I think it had alot to do with the fact that i didnt know what to do.

How do i keep her into the whole idea of eating her out? Afterwards when we talked, she didnt seem to interested. I really want to get this right and give her the most pleasurable experince she ever had. Ill pretty much do anything for her.

HELP!!

But just so happens I wrote my "How to story" on this very subject. Just click on the link in my sig line. Think it might actually help.

 

[rachelqueenT]

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[playmiss]

I recommend the best thing to do is to do what I realllllllly needed. Compliment your GF as often as you can without seeming weird, about how precious she is, and how gloriously exciting you find her pussy. Explain to her in detail exactly what you liked and why you liked it. It will make her feel so much better, I asked my ex to tell me what he liked, and it really helped so much.

So the next time, when my fears crept through, I would think back on the compliments he had given me, and push the fears aside. And it was great!

I really think that it is worth a try at least.

Rachel touches on something I feel very strongly also, and I think most females do feel about their SO. I want to be his treasure, as opposed to his object. Whatever he does with me must reinforce answering that need. If going down on me, or any other intimate activity for that matter, is not within that context (or if I am just unsure if it is or not) then I begin to have all kinds of self-doubts, much as Rachel describes about herself in the beginning. I know I am his treasure and he just cannot get enough of me--when I feel that, he can do no wrong (well, almost, lol).

playmiss

 

[rachelqueenT]

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[playmiss]

Thank you for your kind comment, Rachel. I was only saying what your own posting suddenly provoked within me as I was reading it. You kinda unlocked something I felt when I first read this thread a few days ago but did not know how to express.

 

[TARK1]

The difference between oral sex I enjoy or do not enjoy is related to the guy's focus. It should be a trade. I am opening up to him a part of self that is very intimate and private, and in return he is giving me a special kind of attention. If he focuses on performing, it is not enjoyable, because he is actually focusing on himself. If he focuses on lots of little ways to give me attention, and on my responses, it is enjoyable. It has something to do with a guy's self-confidence, and my confidence in him. You have to develop that so she can have confidence in you, especially if she is shy or fearful. That has been my expeience so far (not that I am all that experienced).

These words are so true, I may have to needlepoint them on a pillow.

 

[Cathleen]

I'll echo the thoughts about self-doubt, nervousness and communicating. It would seem talking with our SO about our sexual needs, wants and thoughts would be easy but it's the opposite. (A sort of oxymoron.) Also it ought to be noted that such discussions are best done outside the bedroom. We all have fears, doubts and insecurities so acknowledging that might make for better communication.

In addition to all of the above good thoughts/advice, THIS thread will give you lots too!

I hope you both will enjoy learning about each other physically and emotionally.

I noticed a lot of new posters, that's great. Welcome to Lit.