I Want to Have a Lesbian Experience

[HottieTottie90]

Hey everybody, I'm new to the site but I was hoping someone would be able to give me some advice on this. I've been interested in having a sexual encounter with a female for as long as I can remember. The problem is, I have no idea how to go about this. I'm very shy and it's hard for me to make friends in the first place, even though I do attend a large university. I'd rather not initiate such an interaction with the friends I already have because I know they aren't up for it and I wouldn't want to make things awkward. Because I want to make the experience special I'd prefer a one-on-one encounter (as opposed to a threesome) and for it to be another straight female who's never had a lesbian experience either. Thanks for taking the time to read this and I'd appreciate any advice or personal experiences!

 

[Naked_moonlight]

Hey, welcome to Lit! Hope you enjoy it!
If you lived near me Id suggest me me me!!! But as Im presuming you don't...
Ok so other suggetions; maybe try an Internet dating site and make what you want very clear? Or go to a gay club and just see who's around? It's hard to find a suitable person I know. I'm pretty mug hoping Ill meet a similar person myself...

 

[SweetErika]

You shouldn't have any trouble finding another single woman to hook up with. Place some ads, meet for coffee or a drink, and go from there if you click. OKCupid is completely free and has a fair number of women who like women, so that might be a good place to start. Make sure you create a good profile that shows you're genuinely interested in meeting the right woman and post some pics (if your face is obscured in them, offer face pics w/ further contact).

I would strongly suggest being a little more openminded, however. Women who want sex with other women usually aren't straight, they're bi-curious, bisexual or lesbians. In the W4W community, "straight" is often code for "in denial" or "confused" and "won't follow through." I'm sure you can understand why a lot of women don't want to put time and effort into meeting someone who is really uncertain and/or insecure with their sexuality. A lot of women have no problem with women who are sure of what they want, determined to follow through and simply inexperienced, though.

Therefore, you should probably look for someone who's bi-curious or bi, and doesn't mind that you're inexperienced. Chances are, those women aren't going to have a ton of experience either, and you'll have a much better shot at meeting ladies who are secure in themselves and willing to follow through with you. That's important because you probably don't want to spend a bunch of time meeting someone who's so nervous that she's too afraid to show you she likes you or make any kind of move.

In your ads, also make it clear what type of relationship you're looking for (one nighter, friends w/ benefits, NSA, etc.) and that you won't respond to men or couples who are seeking a third. Avoid words like "straight" and don't be afraid to say something like, "While I'm secure in who I am and what I want, I'd love to meet a woman who's more assertive and isn't afraid to make the first move."

I hope that helps some!

 

[WaitWhatt]

Sort of the same thing here. I want it but not sure how to get it. It's harder for me since there's only very few things that turn me on about women. I wouldn't want friends or anyone knowing either. It'd be a secret kept burried in a closet until I wanted to open it again. LOL. I wouldn't even want to meet someone in my general area out of fear of anyone finding out. I'd fear meeting someone who lives on the next street over or someone that works somewhere I frequently shop at. I rather drive a bit further and meet at a hotel. Pathetic paranoia, I know.

The last time I tried posting an ad went so bad that I haven't really tried again. I was specific in what I wanted but some women are as perverted as men and some of the IMS I got were just yuck. I'm not interested in a 3some either nor much in the giving oral area.

And like someone else already said.."straight" isn't the word. At least admit it and say you're "bi-curious". It's one thing to let your family and friends believe you are "straight" but it's not going to go well when trying to find someone to hook up with.

 

[HottieTottie90]

Thanks for the responses everybody! Yeah, I've always had some hesitance towards online dating because there are some creeps out there but as popular as it's become it can't be too bad. But I'd definitely have to show my picture only on request just in case someone I know was on the site too

 

[old_scratch]

I've been interested in having a sexual encounter with a female for as long as I can remember. The problem is, I have no idea how to go about this. I'm very shy and it's hard for me to make friends in the first place, even though I do attend a large university. I'd rather not initiate such an interaction with the friends I already have because I know they aren't up for it and I wouldn't want to make things awkward. Because I want to make the experience special I'd prefer a one-on-one encounter (as opposed to a threesome) and for it to be another straight female who's never had a lesbian experience either. Thanks for taking the time to read this.

What you have posted here is the right way to go about finding the woman you are looking for. Your message comes across as a woman who is open and honest about her feelings and desires, and the woman you are looking for will feel the same way and respond to your honesty.

You used the phrase “another straight female”. Don’t let anyone suggest that you change this to Bi, Gay, or anything else; this is a perfect description of how you feel about yourself, and the woman you seek will feel the same way. After all, the experience you seek is about your desire, not what someone else thinks you should desire.

The body of your post is perfect, I wouldn’t suggest changing anything; however, I would suggest adding a couple of things.

One: your general location, not a specific location that someone may be able to guess who you are, but a general location that will tell the women you seek that she is close enough to meet you.

Two: A discreet way to contact you, such as suggesting a private PM on this web site, or a private email address known only to you on other web sites.

I would suggest posting this, (or similar messages), on free web sites where you can create your own page, (such as Yahoo Personals, perhaps Facebook, Plenty-O-Fish, and other free dating web sites). A Google search will turn up a number of free dating sites. Although I would suggest staying away from Craig’s List Personals, there seems to be a lot of predators cruising that web site.

Don’t think of the Internet as a place to find a date, rather think of the Internet as a place to meet someone you may want to date. Be patient and be discreet, and sooner or later the woman you are looking for will see you message and contact you.

I would say good luck on your search, but I don’t think you will need it. You would be surprised at how many women have the same desire as yourself, but are afraid to reach out for fear that other’s may label or belittle them. You will find the woman you are looking for.

 

[HottieTottie90]

What you have posted here is the right way to go about finding the woman you are looking for. Your message comes across as a woman who is open and honest about her feelings and desires, and the woman you are looking for will feel the same way and respond to your honesty.

You used the phrase “another straight female”. Don’t let anyone suggest that you change this to Bi, Gay, or anything else; this is a perfect description of how you feel about yourself, and the woman you seek will feel the same way. After all, the experience you seek is about your desire, not what someone else thinks you should desire.

The body of your post is perfect, I wouldn’t suggest changing anything; however, I would suggest adding a couple of things.

One: your general location, not a specific location that someone may be able to guess who you are, but a general location that will tell the women you seek that she is close enough to meet you.

Two: A discreet way to contact you, such as suggesting a private PM on this web site, or a private email address known only to you on other web sites.

I would suggest posting this, (or similar messages), on free web sites where you can create your own page, (such as Yahoo Personals, perhaps Facebook, Plenty-O-Fish, and other free dating web sites). A Google search will turn up a number of free dating sites. Although I would suggest staying away from Craig’s List Personals, there seems to be a lot of predators cruising that web site.

Don’t think of the Internet as a place to find a date, rather think of the Internet as a place to meet someone you may want to date. Be patient and be discreet, and sooner or later the woman you are looking for will see you message and contact you.

I would say good luck on your search, but I don’t think you will need it. You would be surprised at how many women have the same desire as yourself, but are afraid to reach out for fear that other’s may label or belittle them. You will find the woman you are looking for.

Thank you, I appreciate it I set up an account on plenty of fish however I had to change my location to my hometown because there wasn't enough results in the city I go to school in, which is a little frustrating because it means I'll have to wait a bit longer but I guess I've waited this long so a little longer won't hurt! And you give me confidence that I will get the response I hope for!

 

[old_scratch]

Thank you, I appreciate it I set up an account on plenty of fish however I had to change my location to my hometown because there wasn't enough results in the city I go to school in, which is a little frustrating because it means I'll have to wait a bit longer but I guess I've waited this long so a little longer won't hurt! And you give me confidence that I will get the response I hope for!

Perhaps if there is someone in or close to your hometown, you might meet them when you go home for a visit.

Having confidence in yourself is the key to fulfilling your desires.

 

[SweetErika]

And you give me confidence that I will get the response I hope for!

Yep, listening to a guy (I'm assuming from the posts) who clearly has no idea what he's talking about but gives you validation is definitely a better bet than listening to other women who have experience in this area.

Good luck with that.

 

[HottieTottie90]

Perhaps if there is someone in or close to your hometown, you might meet them when you go home for a visit.

Having confidence in yourself is the key to fulfilling your desires.

Yeah, that will probably be my best bet, I really wanted my first experience to be with someone I went to school with but beggars can't be choosers

 

[old_scratch]

Yeah, that will probably be my best bet, I really wanted my first experience to be with someone I went to school with but beggars can't be choosers

You might run a Google search on your university to see if there are any discreet dating sites connected with your school. Sometimes students create their own web sites for dating. It's a long-shot, but you never know until you try.

 

[HottieTottie90]

Yep, listening to a guy (I'm assuming from the posts) who clearly has no idea what he's talking about but gives you validation is definitely a better bet than listening to other women who have experience in this area.

Good luck with that.

But I did listen to everyone else. I created accounts on two dating websites, posted a picture of my body that didn't include my face, and mentioned that I was looking only for women and not men or 3somes (just like you said.) So please know that I'm taking what everyone is saying into consideration and acting upon it how I believe is appropriate in order for me to get the results I desire.

 

[HottieTottie90]

Yep, listening to a guy (I'm assuming from the posts) who clearly has no idea what he's talking about but gives you validation is definitely a better bet than listening to other women who have experience in this area.

Good luck with that.

But I did listen to everyone else. I created accounts on two dating websites, posted a picture of my body that didn't include my face, and mentioned that I was looking only for women and not men or 3somes (just like you said.) So please know that I'm taking what everyone is saying into consideration and acting upon it how I believe is appropriate in order for me to get the results I desire. Also someone saying "good luck but you will probably not need it" is a lot more encouraging than a sarcastic "good luck with that." Please remember that this is something I've been trying to pursue for a long time but I've had no luck with so any motivation helps.

 

[HottieTottie90]

Ugh I apologize for the duplicate message, my computer was taking forever so I sent it again and I don't know how to delete it

 

[SweetErika]

But I did listen to everyone else. I created accounts on two dating websites, posted a picture of my body that didn't include my face, and mentioned that I was looking only for women and not men or 3somes (just like you said.) So please know that I'm taking what everyone is saying into consideration and acting upon it how I believe is appropriate in order for me to get the results I desire. Also someone saying "good luck but you will probably not need it" is a lot more encouraging than a sarcastic "good luck with that." Please remember that this is something I've been trying to pursue for a long time but I've had no luck with so any motivation helps.

Fair enough. I just don't think calling yourself straight or saying you're seeking a straight woman will help you in your pursuit at all, so you'll have much better luck if you veer (or have already veered) away from that idea.

And, as you have found, you DO need good luck! Finding the right match is usually really tough for most of us. I really wasn't being sarcastic in wishing you luck; it was more that I thought you'd need extra luck if you were going to take a much harder path.

If what you've been trying hasn't been working, change your approach. Just on what you've said, it sounds like you need to gather some courage and put yourself out there more. You don't need to shout your sexuality/desires from the rooftop, but if you're too focused on hiding, you will very likely miss who you're looking for.

 

[HottieTottie90]

Fair enough. I just don't think calling yourself straight or saying you're seeking a straight woman will help you in your pursuit at all, so you'll have much better luck if you veer (or have already veered) away from that idea.

And, as you have found, you DO need good luck! Finding the right match is usually really tough for most of us. I really wasn't being sarcastic in wishing you luck; it was more that I thought you'd need extra luck if you were going to take a much harder path.

If what you've been trying hasn't been working, change your approach. Just on what you've said, it sounds like you need to gather some courage and put yourself out there more. You don't need to shout your sexuality/desires from the rooftop, but if you're too focused on hiding, you will very likely miss who you're looking for.

Well I'm sorry for the misunderstanding but yes, in my "About Me" I neglected to use the word "straight." This is what it says copied directly from my profile and I'd love to hear feedback if I should change something even though I've already received a couple of messages from interested women: "I am a 20 year old student looking for another female to have a little fun with. I am completely inexperienced with women and while it would be nice to hook up with another woman who is inexperienced, it is not necessary. I will provide pictures on request. I am NOT interested in men or couples seeking a third. Hit me up, I'd love to hear from you!" And for my first date I put: "I'd enjoy meeting up at a restaurant or coffee shop to get to know one another better. While I'm not looking for anything too serious, it is important for me to feel connected to and comfortable around the woman I have this experience with." I wanted to keep both relatively short so there's still room for conversation. I believe the label of "straight, bi-sexual, bi-curious" or anything else is pretty irrelevant, as long as I make clear what I'm looking for from the member of the same sex.

 

[old_scratch]

Well I'm sorry for the misunderstanding but yes, in my "About Me" I neglected to use the word "straight." This is what it says copied directly from my profile and I'd love to hear feedback if I should change something even though I've already received a couple of messages from interested women: "I am a 20 year old student looking for another female to have a little fun with. I am completely inexperienced with women and while it would be nice to hook up with another woman who is inexperienced, it is not necessary. I will provide pictures on request. I am NOT interested in men or couples seeking a third. Hit me up, I'd love to hear from you!" And for my first date I put: "I'd enjoy meeting up at a restaurant or coffee shop to get to know one another better. While I'm not looking for anything too serious, it is important for me to feel connected to and comfortable around the woman I have this experience with." I wanted to keep both relatively short so there's still room for conversation. I believe the label of "straight, bi-sexual, bi-curious" or anything else is pretty irrelevant, as long as I make clear what I'm looking for from the member of the same sex.

In my opinion, your message/post is perfect; I wouldn't change anything. It says exactly what you have in mind and anyone reading it will recognize that. The fact that you have already received responses proves that.

 

[bisexualsmoker]

I'd love to have a lesbian experience too.
All I can do is wish you the best.

 

[HottieTottie90]

I'd love to have a lesbian experience too.
All I can do is wish you the best.

Thanks!! Good luck to you too

 

[mrtomthumb]

I would like to have a lesbian experience also...

but i am a guy ..so you have a much better shot than me.

sorry.

on a serious note these threads come up allot and I cant imagine it is as hard as it is made out to be..it is so much more socially acceptable now.

it is just as much a shy thing as anything i would think. somewhat similar to what most guys face trying to find a girl who will like them.

Soooo many of the women that are on this site are really looking to interact with other women. you have a much better chance HERE..for sure.

good luck.

 

[infinity706]

It isn't that it's hard. It's the fact that so many women work hard trying to keep it a secret that it makes is far more difficult than it has to be. As far as openly bi/lesbian women, it's not really that hard.

 

[mrtomthumb]

I concur

It isn't that it's hard. It's the fact that so many women work hard trying to keep it a secret that it makes is far more difficult than it has to be. As far as openly bi/lesbian women, it's not really that hard.

this seems to be a very true statement.

now ladies ,,,go eat some pussy!

I am sure the sports pep talk thing will not be effective in this case but worth a shot.

 

[CNYCarol]

Here's a necklace I bought on Amazon, if you want to be subtle, wear it over a colorful blouse.

I'm VERY out so I wear it with a Dark top, and it gets plenty of attention.

I also have a dark blue bikini with the double female symbol embroidered in yellow onto it.

Think it through, there are plenty of ways to advertise you are "on the hunt", choose the one thats best for you.

http://www.amazon.com/Lesbian-Penda...9CDO/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1290628580&sr=8-1