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Them maybe give a guy a chance at that and not jump to thoughts that every guy out here is a perv.

To be fair if you received some of the pm's the women of lit have to put up with on a daily basis then you would be thinking the majority are pervs too.
 
Them maybe give a guy a chance at that and not jump to thoughts that every guy out here is a perv.

I'm sorry, where did it say in the Terms of Service on Lit that I was required to give any guy "a chance?"

You either interest me, or you don't.

You don't. Deal with it.
 
To be fair if you received some of the pm's the women of lit have to put up with on a daily basis then you would be thinking the majority are pervs too.

Yes very true but their are guys out here that arnt. Some want to get to know someone. Not send a pm to a woman looking to get to know them to get back I'm not interested in you or getting you off like someone who posted above has done in past.
 
I'm sorry, where did it say in the Terms of Service on Lit that I was required to give any guy "a chance?"

You either interest me, or you don't.

You don't. Deal with it.

What she said. You can't base your happiness here on whether a woman responds to your entreaties or not. If you have fun on threads that appeal to you, your personality will come through, and that's how women will know you, and how some are more likely to be interested in you. Ernestness and manners are not enough.

I don't think you're a bad guy at all, and I have seen several guys who had a rough patch like you turn it around and become liked. Good luck. :)
 
Yes very true but their are guys out here that arnt. Some want to get to know someone. Not send a pm to a woman looking to get to know them to get back I'm not interested in you or getting you off like someone who posted above has done in past.

My advice would be to try and get to know them a little on the boards first. I was in no way implying you were a perv, I don't know enough to comment on that.
 
What she said. You can't base your happiness here on whether a woman responds to your entreaties or not. If you have fun on threads that appeal to you, your personality will come through, and that's how women will know you, and how some are more likely to be interested in you. Ernestness and manners are not enough.

I don't think you're a bad guy at all, and I have seen several guys who had a rough patch like you turn it around and become liked. Good luck. :)

^^^^ this. :heart:
 
Lit's a lot like RL. Sometimes you get shot down, sometimes you connect and hit a home run. But there's never a reason to force the issue if that happens, just move on.

I've been shot down many times here before. Sometimes things even changed later too. Maybe the timing wasn't good and they were involved elsewhere, maybe someone needed to see you around more or interact more before they felt comfortable.

If I go to a business function and don't know anyone, I don't try to force myself into conversations. That just doesn't work. But I do hang out in one place and often someone else is there alone and will walk up and say hi. So there is someone here for everyone, it just takes time and patience sometimes.
 
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