inexperienced girlfriend

[mickwannabe]

Hey everyone. I was hoping to get some advice about something. My girlfriend and I recently started to explore eachother sexually. While I have only been with one woman, she has never been with anyone. So, what happens is that I have some idea of what she will like to have done to her, but she seems clueless as to how to make me feel good.

For example after I fingered her the other night, she wanted to try to give me a handjob. As awesome as it was to have her stroking me, I just couldn't cum. I don't know whether it was the weather, being in a car or what, but it didn't work. No matter how much I explained to her how it wasn't her fault, I could tell she was a little dissapointed that I could make her feel good, but she could not return the favor. No matter how much I told her it wasn't a big deal, or that I got more pleasure by making her cum, she was still a bit sad.

Now, after that long preface, my question is this: Is there anything I could do to help? I hate having her feel bad because I didn't cum. Also, do you have any pointers for her? Like some advice to help her with handjobs or blowjobs? Any responses would be greatly appreciated.

 

[Mermaid]

Hey everyone. I was hoping to get some advice about something. My girlfriend and I recently started to explore eachother sexually. While I have only been with one woman, she has never been with anyone. So, what happens is that I have some idea of what she will like to have done to her, but she seems clueless as to how to make me feel good.

For example after I fingered her the other night, she wanted to try to give me a handjob. As awesome as it was to have her stroking me, I just couldn't cum. I don't know whether it was the weather, being in a car or what, but it didn't work. No matter how much I explained to her how it wasn't her fault, I could tell she was a little dissapointed that I could make her feel good, but she could not return the favor. No matter how much I told her it wasn't a big deal, or that I got more pleasure by making her cum, she was still a bit sad.

Now, after that long preface, my question is this: Is there anything I could do to help? I hate having her feel bad because I didn't cum. Also, do you have any pointers for her? Like some advice to help her with handjobs or blowjobs? Any responses would be greatly appreciated.

Hey Mick,

Try doing a search for handjobs or blowjobs, I'm sure there's a bunch of info here to help you out already.

The other thing you might want to mention, is that you are used to YOUR OWN hand doing the work, so she's going to feel different, and neither of you can expect her to do it the way your own hand or your former lady's hand would. Your brain might just be getting used to her technique.

Thirdly, there are books out there that would help a lot. "She Comes First" and "He Comes Second" are great, and you could read them at the same time and try out the techniques.

And as with anything....

PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE

How's that for homework?

Mer

 

[mickwannabe]

Thank you for the advice. I did mention to her that my cock was used to the way I did things, not her hand. That seemed to help her some. I will definately look into those books, thanks a bunch.

 

[Siberiant]

I've only had 1 girlfriend that could make me cum from a handjob. All the others I masturbated for while they did other things to me, sat on my face, or rubbed my balls. Just take control and ask her if she will lick your balls while you jack off You'd be suprised how many woman will get off on it.

 

[mickwannabe]

So...that wouldnt be weird to masturbate while she does other things? That thought had crossed my mind,but I wasn't sure how that would play out.

 

[Siberiant]

So...that wouldnt be weird to masturbate while she does other things? That thought had crossed my mind,but I wasn't sure how that would play out.

Honestly, I've done that with atleast 5 different women, and they all loved it. Just include them in the process and it will all go smoothly.

 

[Mermaid]

So...that wouldnt be weird to masturbate while she does other things? That thought had crossed my mind,but I wasn't sure how that would play out.

I've made out with a boyfriend while he masturbated...

It started with me giving him a hand job... but again, different hands... so it took a long time. My hands got tired, and he just had me kiss him while he finished. He said it was really intense.

Or maybe you could both use your hands simultaneously... Make it very sensual...

 

[Alyx]

Take responsibility for your own pleasure! No, that doesn't mean jack off when she's not around. It does mean using your mouth for something other than kissing and/or sex (i.e. talking!). TELL her how you want to be stroked, sucked, etc. Put your hand over hers and SHOW her how to do it, while explaining about pressure, timing, etc.

Communication seems to be a lost art for some reason. I don't know your dick, or the way you like it stroked or sucked. From the sounds of it, neither does your girlfriend. So how could I give you useful advice in reaching orgasm? How can your girlfriend make you cum without that information? The only person with the answers here is you.

The next time you fool around with your girlfriend, take an active roll in your own pleasure and TEACH her what you want. Most women are more than happy to take instruction when learning how to pleasure their men.

Think of it this way. If you can't TALK about sex, why the hell are you HAVING sex? Seems pretty simple to me.

Good luck!!

 

[Bluewolfcry]

WHy don't you put your hand on top of hers and show her how hard you like to be squeezed, how fast, and what type of strokes?????

If she has never had experiences with hand jobs before it will be a little difficult for her to know what to do!

PLus with every new partner i have i always ask them to show me what they like!!!!!!!!! So then I know what to do by mimicing what i have seen!

She will only get better with practice!!! So help a girl out, let her explore your dick.... she doesn't have one and i am sure she is a little curious about yours!

Good luck!

 

[Lynxie]

WHy don't you put your hand on top of hers and show her how hard you like to be squeezed, how fast, and what type of strokes?????

If she has never had experiences with hand jobs before it will be a little difficult for her to know what to do!

PLus with every new partner i have i always ask them to show me what they like!!!!!!!!! So then I know what to do by mimicing what i have seen!

She will only get better with practice!!! So help a girl out, let her explore your dick.... she doesn't have one and i am sure she is a little curious about yours!

Good luck!

Exactly what I was going to suggest. She's new to this and isn't going to know right off the bat what turns you on. That's for you to teach her. Guide her hands with yours, show her where and how you like to be touched. Tell her what feels good. If you think she's going to slow, tell her to go faster, and vice versa. I know it's always a huge turn-on for me when my husband takes an active role while I'm giving him a handjob or blowjob. Next time, you might even want to try masturbating without her touching you. It will accomplish two things - she'll get to see how you like to make yourself cum, and you'll get to come in her presence.

Most importantly, remember that communication is key. It's a big responsibility to be someone's first sexual experience - make sure that you talk about everything you're doing and that you're both comfortable and okay with it all.

 

[drummer34]

I had a helluva problem getting my wife to hit the right spot but eventually she succeded. The keyword is "Talk" tell her what to do, show her, and get her to under stand that it is NOT her fault that you don't cum. Patience my friend, patience.
BTW she should do the same amount of talking when you "work on" her.

 

[mickwannabe]

Thank you all for your advice. I have talked to her more, and we are being more open about all of this. She gets it now that it certainly IS NOT her fault that I didn't cum, and that there is always next time to have more fun.

I think we have decided to try some lube next time, and I'll be sure to be much more vocal. I also think the first time was just a bit of a shock for her, never having even seen one before, lol. Oh, and drummer34, she was about as quiet as a church mouse when I was "working" on her. The most I got out of her was a few quick "yeah's", sometimes like five in a row. We were cuddling while I did this, and my "free" hand was holding hers. When she started cumming all she could do was breath really heavilly and tap my hand over and over. I thought it was really cute. Anyway, thanks again for the advice everyone.

 

[Ezzy]

Communication is the answer.

If you don't tell her what you like, or she doesn't tell you... you will go blindly in circles possibly doing things the other does not like while saying nothing to each other about what turns you on or off.

Learn to talk to each other, and when all else is said and done "GET A ROOM!" You will have more room, and be able to stay warm and dry while making out, or just talking in comfort while cuddling.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

My wife has becaome an absolute master at giving hand jobs to me. She can bring me off quick or string me out for as long as she wants. The longest she's strung me out for was nearly an hour.

If you want to, have your girlfriend PM us with an e-mail that my wife can reply to. I know she enjoys bragging about her techniques, but rarely gets to.

 

[SweetErika]

You've gotten great advice, and I agree communication is the answer. Might I suggest (since you're just about as inexperienced as she is) that you approach this with the message of wanting to learn about her too? For example, instead of showing and telling her what you like, tell her you want to learn about her body and ask if she'll help you first. My thought is that if you come on a little too strong with the teaching approach, she may feel incompetent and live in fear of not doing anything right. So, by admitting you don't know much either, making it more cooperative, and focusing on learning about eachother, you'll be more successful at communicating and both of you can enjoy giving and receiving pleasure without anxiety.

 

[morgothsmate]

Hey everyone. I was hoping to get some advice about something. My girlfriend and I recently started to explore eachother sexually. While I have only been with one woman, she has never been with anyone. So, what happens is that I have some idea of what she will like to have done to her, but she seems clueless as to how to make me feel good.

For example after I fingered her the other night, she wanted to try to give me a handjob. As awesome as it was to have her stroking me, I just couldn't cum. I don't know whether it was the weather, being in a car or what, but it didn't work. No matter how much I explained to her how it wasn't her fault, I could tell she was a little dissapointed that I could make her feel good, but she could not return the favor. No matter how much I told her it wasn't a big deal, or that I got more pleasure by making her cum, she was still a bit sad.

Now, after that long preface, my question is this: Is there anything I could do to help? I hate having her feel bad because I didn't cum. Also, do you have any pointers for her? Like some advice to help her with handjobs or blowjobs? Any responses would be greatly appreciated.

 

[morgothsmate]

Re: Re: inexperienced girlfriend

I take it she is a Women over the age of consent?
If so go down on her lick her from where her crack starts "near ger pubic mound" down to her ass.
Spend some time in the zone around her clit just above her "hole"

While you are licking her clitoris " spelling the alphabet with your tongue, lol"
Put one or 2 fingers up her.
Maybe tickle her Butt, if she is clean out of the shower maybe give her butthole a quick lick.
It will all flow on from there, next thing you kown its a 69er with both cumming.

All the best

 

[Undomiel]

Yup took a good few weeks of fooling around before I finally made my boyfriend cum. And he still hasn't made me cum. But we are talking about it a lot.

 

[fntguy]

Inexperienced girlfriends becomes experienced girlfriends with time. If you really love her, have some patience will ya?

 

[lisasmurf]

hello Mick

yes for one,,not in a car

when u was in like 2nd or 3rd grade
did you have a show and tell

will your back

it can be fun to be WATChed masturbate for her

just tell to watch,
then stop have her do for a couple minutes, then take over

try time so its in her hands when you pop

don't be a 40 sec popper
if you don't wants cum egde it
stop 20 sec before the fire works start

Hey everyone. I was hoping to get some advice about something. My girlfriend and I recently started to explore eachother sexually. While I have only been with one woman, she has never been with anyone. So, what happens is that I have some idea of what she will like to have done to her, but she seems clueless as to how to make me feel good.

For example after I fingered her the other night, she wanted to try to give me a handjob. As awesome as it was to have her stroking me, I just couldn't cum. I don't know whether it was the weather, being in a car or what, but it didn't work. No matter how much I explained to her how it wasn't her fault, I could tell she was a little dissapointed that I could make her feel good, but she could not return the favor. No matter how much I told her it wasn't a big deal, or that I got more pleasure by making her cum, she was still a bit sad.

Now, after that long preface, my question is this: Is there anything I could do to help? I hate having her feel bad because I didn't cum. Also, do you have any pointers for her? Like some

advice to help her with handjobs or blowjobs? Any responses would be greatly appreciated.

Alyx
you so so right
Communication
Communication
Communication

you'll find it work thur out life at home, at work and before sex

i find talking about sex in bed doesn't work out to good

other then oh yes or oh no
or ouch!!

a good hand job i think in like in the living rm or under a dinning table and a nice resturant yes thats right..

i found i tend to be to low
a guy like just under his cock head

no the head but just under it
tips if youe finger show be on the underside

if you doing him dry

kiss it a little

have suck just under that penis head

good start for a Bj but that anotehr class

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