Interesting article on polyamory

[PennyThompson]

I will gladly spank you. I dont care if you
comprehend anything, as long as I can whack your naked cheeks till they turn pink and radiate heat, stinging enough to get you aroused.

Ope, found one

 

[Abramelin123]

Ope, found one

Im a spank addict. Any time, anywhere, anyone

 

[liliput1]

A body can accommodate more than one insertion at a time, you know

Gee I wonder where we could find some literature on that. No, no, don’t tell me. It’s right on the tip of my tongue. Lit something.

 

[dave's thing]

Thanks to those that had some serious advise/comments. Very thought starters. Actually, the sexual part of don't give a rats ass about. Was more then social, "scheduling " .

 

[Bramblethorn]

While looking for info about poly relationships i found this thread. So Iam going to ask an question of any body who is involved in such a relationship. My daughter just announced that she is moving in with her 2 gf. The 3 are very much in love and do many things together. When they are over visiting they are clearly a trio.... picks, hugs, dishes, similiar tates in food and clothing etc. I am quite happy for them but also worried about jealousy, differences and personality conflicts. Fuck it is hard enough with just one other, is it twice as tough with 2 others?
I would really like to seriously discuss this with someone experienced either here or privately

It depends very much on the people. If people are immature, selfish and/or bad at communication, all the things you're worried about can easily blow up in a poly relationship. If they're more sensible and mature, it's not necessarily harder with three than with two.

(Apart from the scheduling stuff. I like to believe some community college somewhere out there is running a "Scheduling for Polyamory" night course.)

 

[dave's thing]

It depends very much on the people. If people are immature, selfish and/or bad at communication, all the things you're worried about can easily blow

(Apart from the scheduling stuff. I like to believe some community college somewhere out there is running a "Scheduling for Polyamory" night course.)

Lol
Good life lessons

 

[Comshaw]

"...the day I realized just how much stuff about other people’s lives was none of my fucking business."

The best god damn quote ever!!!


Comshaw

 

[big_cane_sugar]

Polygamy is good for everyone except poor men, and it has always been the de facto mating practice. Monogamy is a fraud perpetrated against poor men to try to prevent them from understanding their situation.

 

[PennyThompson]

Polygamy is good for everyone except poor men, and it has always been the de facto mating practice. Monogamy is a fraud perpetrated against poor men to try to prevent them from understanding their situation.

Counterpoint: Im acquainted with a messy poly triad and the guy is a total fuckboi who can't hold down a job and has zero money

 

[Experimentalist]

Counterpoint: Im acquainted with a messy poly triad and the guy is a total fuckboi who can't hold down a job and has zero money

He seems to have found a good set up

 

[big_cane_sugar]

Counterpoint: Im acquainted with a messy poly triad and the guy is a total fuckboi who can't hold down a job and has zero money

We'll see how long they're willing to keep paying his bills lol. Lots of examples of lonely women putting up with lazy, exploitative, and abusive men. If those women have the option of being exploited and abused by a guy who buys them things, they vote with their feet.

 

[TheRedChamber]

Polygamy is good for everyone except poor men, and it has always been the de facto mating practice. Monogamy is a fraud perpetrated against poor men to try to prevent them from understanding their situation.

I've seen this argument made and even under ideal circumstances (where, for example, a poor woman has a genuine choice between being the 1st spouse of a poor man or the nth spouse of a rich one)...it still draws an enormous...eh, maaaaaybeee from me.

More relevant for today's society is that large numbers of poor angry men with nothing to lose is rarely good for anybody.

 

[PennyThompson]

I've seen this argument made and even under ideal circumstances (where, for example, a poor woman has a genuine choice between being the 1st spouse of a poor man or the nth spouse of a rich one)...it still draws an enormous...eh, maaaaaybeee from me.

More relevant for today's society is that large numbers of poor angry men with nothing to lose is rarely good for anybody.

But wait... I thought women were simultaneously irrational nymphs driven by hormones and emotion, and also purely mechanical economically-motivated algorithms that can be hacked with the right pick-up lines

 

[Bamagan]

But wait... I thought women were simultaneously irrational nymphs driven by hormones and emotion, and also purely mechanical economically-motivated algorithms that can be hacked with the right pick-up lines

Perhaps the latter is a coin-operated feature?

 

[TheRedChamber]

But wait... I thought women were simultaneously irrational nymphs driven by hormones and emotion, and also purely mechanical economically-motivated algorithms that can be hacked with the right pick-up lines

Ah, Sense and Sensibility: The Incel Generation.

 

[magicalmoments]

I've only ever met one "group" marriage. They were a 1 female, 2 male relationship living together in what they called a polyamorous marriage. As I understood it, the two guys were bisexual and into each other and they were both into the lady, so to speak! They shared a large kingsize bed and they were faithful within their group of 3 people, they didn't screw around on each other. They had been together a few years when I met them. They were members of a the local nudist club when my wife and i joined and their situation was known and accepted by the club. As I got to know them I learned that one of the guys and the woman were legally married the other guy was a later addition to the marriage. there were no kids. They were all in their mid 30's. I lost touch with them a couple of years after we met when I relocated to a different city. So I don't know what happened to them in the longer term.

 

[liliput1]

Counterpoint: Im acquainted with a messy poly triad and the guy is a total fuckboi who can't hold down a job and has zero money

I knew one of those, they finally got tired of his bullshit.

Boy should have been 1) in therapy the entire time and 2) smuggled out of state to get him away from his mommy. She fucked him up but good.

And this coming from a guy whose subtitle is 'hot mess'.

 

[NaughteeDragon]

While looking for info about poly relationships i found this thread. So Iam going to ask an question of any body who is involved in such a relationship. My daughter just announced that she is moving in with her 2 gf. The 3 are very much in love and do many things together. When they are over visiting they are clearly a trio.... picks, hugs, dishes, similiar tates in food and clothing etc. I am quite happy for them but also worried about jealousy, differences and personality conflicts. Fuck it is hard enough with just one other, is it twice as tough with 2 others?
I would really like to seriously discuss this with someone experienced either here or privately

Assuming you aren’t poly and are curious about the viability of relationships, I highly recommend picking up “The Polyamorists Next Door“ by Elisabeth Shelf. I really enjoyed it when I was doing some story research.

 

[liliput1]

While looking for info about poly relationships i found this thread. So Iam going to ask an question of any body who is involved in such a relationship. My daughter just announced that she is moving in with her 2 gf. The 3 are very much in love and do many things together. When they are over visiting they are clearly a trio.... picks, hugs, dishes, similiar tates in food and clothing etc. I am quite happy for them but also worried about jealousy, differences and personality conflicts. Fuck it is hard enough with just one other, is it twice as tough with 2 others?
I would really like to seriously discuss this with someone experienced either here or privately

Is there any relationship without regrets? Where we don’t end up hurting the people we most want to protect?

We can’t put all or relationship eggs in one basket. It’s rare for one person to fill all of your emotional needs and rarer still for that to remain so after ten years. For some the best friend fills the gaps. For others it’s lives of quiet desperation. For poly people there’s a wider palette of mixing and matching. Like dates, and sex acts.

The big thing to watch out for with three people is equality, and factions. If two of them consistently oppose the other on a variety of topics then it can turn a bit toxic. It’s okay if two of them agree on how clean the kitchen needs to be. If two of them agree on Thai food, Pizza. Vacations. It’s not okay if it’s the same pair and the third is made to feel lesser because of it like an accessory. There are many arrangements where one party is kept at arm’s length but that person has to be up for that and they may be surprised by how it feels when it’s real versus on paper.

 

[dave's thing]

Is there any relationship without regrets? Where we don’t end up hurting the people we most want to protect?

We can’t put all or relationship eggs in one basket. It’s rare for one person to fill all of your emotional needs and rarer still for that to remain so after ten years. For some the best friend fills the gaps. For others it’s lives of quiet desperation. For poly people there’s a wider palette of mixing and matching. Like dates, and sex acts.

The big thing to watch out for with three people is equality, and factions. If two of them consistently oppose the other on a variety of topics then it can turn a bit toxic. It’s okay if two of them agree on how clean the kitchen needs to be. If two of them agree on Thai food, Pizza. Vacations. It’s not okay if it’s the same pair and the third is made to feel lesser because of it like an accessory. There are many arrangements where one party is kept at arm’s length but that person has to be up for that and they may be surprised by how it feels when it’s real versus on paper.

All very valid points. A couple of them o wondered about.
I have realized the fact of getting different aspects of needs fulfilled by more then one person since I was mid 20s. I achieved this by dating 3 women, who all knew about the others. I had at one point in my life considered a poly relationship but saw far more potential negatives then positives. Lately though I have seen so many success stories it has made me curious