Intro to Cybering

[msurfin]

Hey, I'm new to this site and sort of came to join due to a few curiosities. The first being cybersex, something I think I could enjoy but not sure if it is "normal." If there's anyone who could give me an idea of what to expect, or would like indulge me (that would be you ladies ) I would be very thankful. IM me if you want.

Thanks

 

[Xenolan]

I used to enjoy indulging in a little cyber here and there, and the one constant I found was laziness. A typical Cyberencounter for me would go like this:

> I run my tongue over your sweet, hardened nipples, the feel of your firm tits against my face getting me hot and ready for more...
> oh yeah
> A tiny dribble of pre-come emerges from the head of my cock... I need you to lick it off for me!
> ok im licking
> Come on, suck my cock good... I'll be sure to return the favor if you let me come in your mouth!
> ok cum 4 me
> Tell me how it feels to have me fucking your face... does it make you feel like a nasty slut?
> y

One can see how this gets old in a very short time. Those who can cyber properly are few and far between. And, one must gloss over the fact that 95% of those who claim to be female are actually male.

 

[TBKahuna123]

OK, I don't know much about Cybering but I do know one thing: Never send a PM to a lady you have never talked to before that just says "Hey wanna fuck?" I've gathered from recent threads that this is frowned upon.

 

[His_pita]

^^^^^That's just because we want a little bit of originality before we commit to cyber fucking.

 

[BelleDragoness]

Nothing worse than being rudely interupted by some stranger PMing you and wanting to know your ASL and if your feeling horny.

And I know the feeling too Xenolan about lazy typers who just dont get into responding to what you've written. My favourite is doing a guy over and he starts sentences with capitals then the capitals disappear, then the words get shortened down to monosylables, then all they type is mmmmmmmmmm ugh ugh. Cracks me up big time.

Msurfin. Get use to typing with one hand buddy. Type exactly what you imaging yourself and your cyber partner doing and dont type something about "sucking your titties" whilst your partner is sucking your balls..think of the physical limitations of a body (unless your a contortionist)..LOL. Wait until your partner responds before jumping to the next position and be descriptive in how you describe the sexual act your engaged in.

Cyber sex means taking your time.

 

[msurfin]

Thanks everyone for responding so quickly....I hope I put what you guys said to good use.

 

[FurryFury]

Cyber can be great! It can be hot and addicting. I miss it. After a while it gets boring though.

You might find this thread amusing or interesting.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=344484

Have fun. I wish I could start fresh and feel that constant hungry heat again.

Fury

 

[human_male]

OK, I don't know much about Cybering but I do know one thing: Never send a PM to a lady you have never talked to before that just says "Hey wanna fuck?" I've gathered from recent threads that this is frowned upon.

No you don't do that. What you do is PM someone and say something like "Hi I'm new to cybering, I don't know how. Would you mind doing it with me just to show me what to do? "

 

[FurryFury]

No you don't do that. What you do is PM someone and say something like "Hi I'm new to cybering, I don't know how to do it. Would you mind doing it with me just to show me what to do? "

*snickers*

Fury

 

[BelleDragoness]

No you don't do that. What you do is PM someone and say something like "Hi I'm new to cybering, I don't know how. Would you mind doing it with me just to show me what to do? "

OMG its you! How many times have I booted you out of my chat room for saying that to me?..LMAO

Guys that has to be the lamest pick up line in cyber..

 

[human_male]

OMG its you! How many times have I booted you out of my chat room for saying that to me?..LMAO

Guys that has to be the lamest pick up line in cyber..

For your information I only cyber with my daddy.

 

[KarenDee]

Guys that has to be the lamest pick up line in cyber..

Either that or "My wife isn't interested in sex any more."

Errr, if SHE'S not interested in you (and she knows you better than anyone), what makes you think a total stranger is going to fall for that lame excuse?


Her: "I'm sitting here, playing with my pussy, slowly rubbing my clit back and forth with my finger, it's getting so wet and I all I think about is you stroking your cock and wanting to slip it inside me!"

Him: "mmm nice"

Her: "Is that it?"

 

[FurryFury]

Either that or "My wife isn't interested in sex any more."

Errr, if SHE'S not interested in you (and she knows you better than anyone), what makes you think a total stranger is going to fall for that lame excuse?


Her: "I'm sitting here, playing with my pussy, slowly rubbing my clit back and forth with my finger, it's getting so wet and I all I think about is you stroking your cock and wanting to slip it inside me!"

Him: "mmm nice"

Her: "Is that it?"

LOL!

Preach it!

*giggles*

Fury

 

[jadefirefly]

I can really offer no more than anyone else here, did, only to reiterate... for the love of GOD, SAY something!

Nothing is more annoying than things going well, and then suddenly, you go totally silent except for 'mmmm o ya'.

There's a real mood-booster.

 

[Texguy84]

^^^^^That's just because we want a little bit of originality before we commit to cyber fucking.

Nice shoes. Wanna fuck?

 

[jadefirefly]

Nice shoes. Wanna fuck?

Ahh, the cousin to "Wanna go back to my place for pizza and a fuck?"
*SMACK*
"What, you don't like pizza?"

 

[Eilan]

I've always wondered about cybering, seeing as how women tend to be "wordier" then men when it comes to oral and wrtten communication (there ARE exceptions!).

 

[midwestyankee]

I've always wondered about cybering, seeing as how women tend to be "wordier" then men when it comes to oral and wrtten communication (there ARE exceptions!).

Yes, there are exceptions. The whole concept of cybering fascinates me for a number of reasons. One of the more interesting is that while it can be almost completely anonymous, there is also an element of trust involved. Or maybe it's just a suspension of disbelief if you're cybering with someone whom you do not know. When cybering with someone you know a little, you have to trust that what's being said (i.e., written) is real. Otherwise, it's just words on a screen that could have no meaning whatsoever.

I guess my contribution here is that cybering would work best when it is real, when the emotions and feelings and sensations being conveyed are honest.

 

[FurryFury]

Yes, there are exceptions. The whole concept of cybering fascinates me for a number of reasons. One of the more interesting is that while it can be almost completely anonymous, there is also an element of trust involved. Or maybe it's just a suspension of disbelief if you're cybering with someone whom you do not know. When cybering with someone you know a little, you have to trust that what's being said (i.e., written) is real. Otherwise, it's just words on a screen that could have no meaning whatsoever.

I guess my contribution here is that cybering would work best when it is real, when the emotions and feelings and sensations being conveyed are honest.

True, but consider this, what about cybering with someone you actually do know? That is something I haven't done much of. A last frontier perhaps.

Imagine sitting across the table having a meal with a person who is a good friend and your husband, kids, other friends, knowing what you typed to one another the night before and how hard you both came?

Incidentally, I have found some men who have WONDERFUL words. Too bad so many of them equate cyber sex with wanting to own one.

Fury

 

[SweetErika]

I've always wondered about cybering, seeing as how women tend to be "wordier" then men when it comes to oral and wrtten communication (there ARE exceptions!).

I met a woman once who basically wrote Lit-length stories, 4-8 sentence IM entries with minute detail including dialogue (with quotes like, "Oh yes! I'm coming!"), when she cybered. So much detail can be neat, but it takes so damn long to write all of it that it gives your partner sufficient time to cool off, and can make it difficult to respond.

I guess my contribution here is that cybering would work best when it is real, when the emotions and feelings and sensations being conveyed are honest.

It's definitely personal preference, but I wholeheartedly agree, Yank. I'm not in the habit of cybering, though I will do (or a variation of) it with certain people I know well and care about on occasion. For me, it generally only works when it's an addition to, or in anticipation of, real-life encounters.

 

[midwestyankee]

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It's definitely personal preference, but I wholeheartedly agree, Yank. I'm not in the habit of cybering, though I will do (or a variation of) it with certain people I know well and care about on occasion. For me, it generally only works when it's an addition to, or in anticipation of, real-life encounters.

I would think that in many ways this would make for the ultimate cybering experience. You would know each other well enough to be in synch and also could explore new territory if you chose. Besides, one of the limitations of cybering must be its sterility (after all, you're sitting at a keyboard in front of a monitor and not lying comfortably together. Knowing the person on the other end of the electron stream would reduce that quite a bit, I would think. I can also imagine that you'd be able to "hear" your partner as the words appear on your screen, which would be another plus as it would virtually add another level of sensation to the experience.

 

[KarenDee]

Maybe I'm in the minority here, but instead of cybering, I'd much rather read (and write) a long message or short story, something to be read from beginning to end. And like Erika mentioned, I'd rather it be something that is an exciting prelude to sex with the person you're closest too, an additional form of arousal. I think perhaps I'd be less inclined to cyber, but more willing to exchange an erotic story with someone. That way I feel less involved with that person, and I find I can place myself in the story and have my own fantasy about the #1 person in my life. I'm letting someone else turn me on, but I feel more of a connection to my real life lover and don't feel the pressure involved in keeping a stranger "on the edge of orgasm."

Does anyone else feel this way, that you'd rather read a story written expressly for you, rather than to type short sentences and try to maintain a certain state of arousal?

Maybe I'm just weird!

 

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[M's girl]

Maybe I'm in the minority here, but instead of cybering, I'd much rather read (and write) a long message or short story, something to be read from beginning to end. And like Erika mentioned, I'd rather it be something that is an exciting prelude to sex with the person you're closest too, an additional form of arousal. I think perhaps I'd be less inclined to cyber, but more willing to exchange an erotic story with someone. That way I feel less involved with that person, and I find I can place myself in the story and have my own fantasy about the #1 person in my life. I'm letting someone else turn me on, but I feel more of a connection to my real life lover and don't feel the pressure involved in keeping a stranger "on the edge of orgasm."

Does anyone else feel this way, that you'd rather read a story written expressly for you, rather than to type short sentences and try to maintain a certain state of arousal?

Maybe I'm just weird!

I'm not sure if plus one (me) or two (me and M) gets us out of the minority range but it's what M and I do frequently. We have online contact, either through IM or e-mail on a daily basis (while we live together) and it often is a prelude to sex in the evening. I could never do this with someone I was not romantically involved with (or if I was not in a relationship wanted to be involved with in RL later on) however...

 

[FurryFury]

A long story full of sex is great for jacking off.

Cyber is more of a personal thing yet, less than phone or cam.

I rarely touch my body during cyber, well, when I used to do it. Yet it would excite me enough that sometimes I came from the words alone. Of course I didn't just write sex with another person, I created a whole story with characters and shit because I'm made that way. At first it felt safer doing it from a character's POV.

It was hard to transition to doing it as "me." In fact, that might have been why it ultimately got boring. I'd rather see things from a character's eyes, feel them through her skin than my own.

The whole thing was a sexual awakening for me and I am most grateful for this accidental thing that came out of role play. I am more myself now, my body has been reclaimed now than I have been in twenty years.