IS cybering cheating if ?

[DiablosWhore]

So far all you have managed to do is accuse her of something you made up. That's a Discussion to you?

Sure is! In fact, that's exactly, precisely what a discussion forum is.

Oh, and the "accusation" was NOT made up, .....there's sufficient evidence in the thread if you check for it.

 

[EroticForYou]

Evidence?

Please do show us what we are missing. It seems to be your soapbox at this point. Is your life a series of "What-If's"... ???

 

[DiablosWhore]

Please do show us what we are missing.

Ah, so now we see your problem ....you can't fucking read by yourself! ;=)





Go back over the thread, if you can read, then you'll see the evidence. If you can't see it,........

 

[EroticForYou]

Still no "Evidence"

You might want to stick to Whoring. Keeping your mouth full might improve your reading skills with less judgement and more paying attention to details.

Still waiting on that "Evidence".

Have you read "How to Win Friends and Influence People"? Its a good read

 

[DiablosWhore]

Have you read "How to Win Friends and Influence People"? Its a good read.

So your recent forum behavior is what's recommended in "How to Win....."? Really? Are you sure that you read it? Or just looked at the pages? ;=)

 

[EroticForYou]

Still waiting for your "Evidence"...

Where's that so called "Evidence"?

As I said. Stick to Whoring. The good ones make great money and put that into a higher education.

I can assure you I'm not trying to become your "friend" or even "influence" you as the book suggests. Your life seems to be a plethora of "What-If's". A sure fire way to live your life outside the "Now".

We'll all be waiting patiently for your "Evidence".

 

[Cyndeveaux]

Oh, and the "accusation" was NOT made up, .....there's sufficient evidence in the thread if you check for it.

OMG...I missed the 'discussion'. Where is the so called 'sufficient evidence'? I just asked a simple question. I haven't cheated...never would. But he and I just have a difference of opinion on cybering. I won't say who feels which way...yet. I want honest opinions.

I don't want guys hitting me up asking me to cyber which appears how some are taking this. I was looking for some intellectual thoughts and opinions here.

Many people feel cybering is a form of cheating, PERIOD, no ands, ifs or buts about it. Others feel it's ok as long as the SO knows about it. And then there are those who tell their SO, go ahead cyber, have fun when I'm not around. So I was trying to find out what most people would say to my simple question, now questions.

Is cybering a form of cheating?

Is it cheating if he says, go ahead have fun when I'm not around?

 

[DiablosWhore]

OMG...I missed the 'discussion'. Where is the so called 'sufficient evidence'? I just asked a simple question. ...

And I gave you a simple answer.

... I haven't cheated...never would. ...

And yet you went public to ask the very question that you just now, emphatically, answered. So...?

... I was looking for some intellectual thoughts and opinions here.

And you seem to have gotten several opinions, right? So, ....what's the problem?

... But he and I just have a difference of opinion on cybering. I won't say who feels which way...yet.

But wait just a second! Up a couple of lines, you've stated emphatically that you were not and never would cheat. Now you're saying something different? What the fuck....?

... Is it cheating if he says, go ahead have fun when I'm not around?

I think myself and several others have stated ...no matter what we say, it won't change anything IF he says it's cheating. You shouldn't have bothered asking us, you should have asked him.

I wish only the very, very worst for you! I hope you BF kicks your ass out, takes all of you money and possessions, then pimps your ass out on the streets to fuck and suck for you meager existence.

I wish your BF only the very best ......and I hope he finds a woman who won't cheat on him, then come to some public forum and ask stupid questions.

And yeah, almost forgot, ......I hope it's raining like fuck there, and there's a big hole in the roof of you fucking house ....and all of your possessions are getting soaked and ruined.

 

[drinkz]

Query trolled hard. Could possibly be his only success in life. There's a reason why his wife left him.

 

[eyeshavya2]

so lets cyber

should this be a fun page

 

[DiablosWhore]

I didn't even read the rest of the thread... But, having seen your asshole responses all over the personals section, I don't need to. You are a poster-child for the world of juvenile anger issues. Seriously, you need professional help. It's obvious you've had (or been the cause of) some fucked up relationship and you come here to "vent" on whomever will engage you in your pathetic arguments.

And your response above is ....what? A sample of peace and goodwill for all mankind? An offer of love and giving and caring and charity for all of the society of humans?

Glass houses are not good to throw stones from, ya' know? ;=)

 

[EroticForYou]

Hahahahahahaha.....

I had hoped that MAYBE... Just Maybe.... This was all snark. Turns out the Whore is a Dumb as a Rock!

ROFLMAO

This Whore may qualify for the Top Ten Dumbest Responders of ALL Time!

OMFG HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Entertaining... But truly sad once you find out she spent her money on Bubblegum rather than an Education.

 

[DiablosWhore]

should this be a fun page

Ha! It already is a fun page. It's been a fun page for a couple of days now. Where have you been?

Is it cheating if you fuck 4,056 men over a weekend while your husband is away on business? Or is it okay if he never finds out about it? I think its cheating .....because she went over the 4,000 men limit. ;=)

 

[tonyp]

yes and no

Having a chat about erotica or some thoughts and fantasies nope.

But getting online, getting off with someone by direct chat, ie role playing, cam etc yes.

Its a thin line I know but I do think the 1st one we do all the time and we need to be individuals , and know thyself to be a good partner. Besides you may bring something new into the relationship that might workwell...lol

 

[DiablosWhore]

Having a chat about erotica or some thoughts and fantasies nope.

But getting online, getting off with someone by direct chat, ie role playing, cam etc yes. ...

Well, perhaps, but don't you think the BF is the one who should be making that judgment? Just because a bunch of people on LIT dot com says it's okay, doesn't make it so in his mind .....and his opinion is the one that counts. ...don't you think?

 

[Cyndeveaux]

Wow....

And I gave you a simple answer.

And yet you went public to ask the very question that you just now, emphatically, answered. So...?

And you seem to have gotten several opinions, right? So, ....what's the problem?

But wait just a second! Up a couple of lines, you've stated emphatically that you were not and never would cheat. Now you're saying something different? What the fuck....?

I think myself and several others have stated ...no matter what we say, it won't change anything IF he says it's cheating. You shouldn't have bothered asking us, you should have asked him.

I wish only the very, very worst for you! I hope you BF kicks your ass out, takes all of you money and possessions, then pimps your ass out on the streets to fuck and suck for you meager existence.

I wish your BF only the very best ......and I hope he finds a woman who won't cheat on him, then come to some public forum and ask stupid questions.

And yeah, almost forgot, ......I hope it's raining like fuck there, and there's a big hole in the roof of you fucking house ....and all of your possessions are getting soaked and ruined.

The above post has to be the NASTIEST post I've ever seen on any forum. I'm going to guess you've been hurt badly in the past from someone cheating on you. I'm sorry that you had to go through that. Honestly, I think some therapy to handle your anger issues would go a long way.

FYI, my b/f has been watching this thread. We are only at the discussion level at this time. We BOTH agreed to post this here mutually, not thinking we'd get a response that was so vile.

You stated that I got opinions, (and yours was not so 'simple') yes but just a few..and each one that doesn't agree with you, you attack in a follow up post.
Then went on to say it should be up to us (me and bf), but we have differing opinions. We both just want to know if cybering in general with consent of the partner would be considered cheating. Simple yes/no question. Thank you to those that have already gave your opinions! Have a great day!


Is it cybering cheating if the s/o is aware of it?

 

[Tyler_D]

Is it cheating if he says, go ahead have fun when I'm not around?

"Cheating" is doing something behind your partner's back that you both have agreed not to do. If your partner is giving his consent to have fun when he is not around than it is absolutely not cheating.

You and your partner decide the boundaries of your relationship. Nobody else should decide them for you. If you or he feel like you are cheating than you probably shouldn't do it. If you both feel good about it and it is enhancing your relationship than stop worrying what others think and just enjoy it!

 

[Doog_kuron]

We live in a very diverse world where people's concepts of right and wrong are pretty topsy turvy depending on where you live, what you were brought up as, what your beliefs are. It's a very grey existence and is seldom black or white. So is cybering cheating? I don't think there is a straight forward yes or no answer. Instead I would suggest if all parties involved know about it, are happy doing it then no it isn't cheating. To cheat is to try and achieve something in a dishonest fashion.

On the other hand if one of the parties feels it is, then it's a no, no.

 

[photobuff56]

With permission no, without permission yes its called emotional cheating. If the person your cheating on finds out it can and will effect them.

 

[DiablosWhore]

.... So is cybering cheating? I don't think there is a straight forward yes or no answer. Instead I would suggest if all parties involved know about it, are happy doing it then no it isn't cheating. To cheat is to try and achieve something in a dishonest fashion.

On the other hand if one of the parties feels it is, then it's a no, no.

Well, haven't you forgotten any outside spectators? Surely the two people directly involved might agree, thus ....TO THEM... it's not cheating. But unless they announce their agreements on the activity, then those on the outside might still believe that it's cheating. Parents, In-laws, children, neighbors, co-workers, bosses, etc. Lots of people involved, .......so it's NOT just between the two directly involved.

Is it cheating if the outside does NOT know of the agreement? In no one tells Mommy and Daddy, does Mommy and Daddy think it's cheating? Hmmm?

 

[Doog_kuron]

Well, haven't you forgotten any outside spectators? Surely the two people directly involved might agree, thus ....TO THEM... it's not cheating. But unless they announce their agreements on the activity, then those on the outside might still believe that it's cheating. Parents, In-laws, children, neighbors, co-workers, bosses, etc. Lots of people involved, .......so it's NOT just between the two directly involved.

Is it cheating if the outside does NOT know of the agreement? In no one tells Mommy and Daddy, does Mommy and Daddy think it's cheating? Hmmm?

I don't think I'd like my parents knowing about my sexual exploits, cheating or otherwise I'm still terrified I might stumble into my parents company and being stunned to discover a man in a gimp mask and a selection of creative whips on the wall! *shudders*

 

[DiablosWhore]

The above post has to be the NASTIEST post I've ever seen...

Yep, I agree.

...Is it cybering cheating if the s/o is aware of it?

What would Mommy and Daddy have to say about it? And your friends? And the neighbors? And the co-workers?

None of us live a life in isolation ....the outsiders in our lives are also important, whether we like it or not.

 

[Noor]

If one of you thinks it's cheating, then yes, it is cheating, otherwise no.

 

[EroticForYou]

Oh Goodie More Stupidity

Hey Whore, WTF does your Mother, Father, Sister, Children, Priest or anyone else have to do with your personal preferences behind closed doors?

Just more Spam as usual from the craziest of the Million and a Half Members here.

 

[Cyndeveaux]

If only there were more female voters...

I came here to ask the question to settle a difference between my bf and me. It is me, the woman, who feels it is cheating. I feel its cheating even though my b/f doesn't. I have a conscience and a guilt problem. He tries to encourage me but I just don't feel it's a loyal thing to do. I value loyalty a LOT.

Somehow, I'd be willing to bet that if it was HIM who was being allowed to cyber, AND there were more women voters, I'd have won the challenge. Women in relationships, for the most part, I don't think they'd want their SO cybering with another woman. But men, at least the ones here, are more lenient when it comes to this topic, not sure why though. JMO.

I'm not sure if knowing the reason I asked, would change anyone's opinion, but bf is giddy over winning the discussion. Thanks to all who gave their thoughts though.