It's life, Jim, but not as we know it...

[Carl East]

It's funny you should start this thread up Lou, cause I was thinking earlier how I enjoy it a little more now that I come in occassionally as opposed to every waking minute. lol

For me though, it was because I stopped flirting. I never realized just how much I used to do that until recently. I also found it very easy to walk away, mainly because I had a good reason to stop.

My advice to everyone else, enjoy the net but don't take it all so seriously. As someone once said, "It's all a load of bollocks," lol

Carl

 

[doormouse]

Just a quick thanks Lou LOL

You helped me with my daughter's homework when she wanted to know the colours of the Olympic rings

 

[SensualMale]

Sounds familiar! *making mental notes*

 

[doormouse]

Sounds familiar! *making mental notes*

Don't strain that pretty brain of yours

 

[Lisa Denton]

As one of those guilty, I say I am sorry to have slipped and fallen into a stupid argument, not to the person I was argueing with, but to everyone else. It was stupid. (Lisa bends over)

 

[doormouse]

As one of those guilty, I say I am sorry to have slipped and fallen into a stupid argument, not to the person I was argueing with, but to everyone else. It was stupid. (Lisa bends over)

doormouse grins

 

[Lisa Denton]

doormouse grins

Don't grin at me you lil mouse, I got friends who can kick your butt.


This was just a sidetrack, not a hi-jack.

Back to the thread.

 

[pop_54]

Although I'm not really adicted... cos I wander off as I please, often going missing for weeks, and come back as I please... I do enjoy my little flirtatious life on Lit and the internet... I have too much invested in real life to let it take over... Probably why I rarely fall out with anyone on here, no matter how bloody silly they are being... I'm more the put them on ignore, than get into unpleasantness type of person... Life's too short for a lot of silly arguing and unpleasantness.

And yes I always try to visualise the other end of the internet as it were... the rest of you sitting at your puter's typing away.


pops

 

[CrazyyAngel]

I've been spending a lot of time away from my computer recently and do you know what? I feel so much better for it!

I already wondered where you've gone ...

Speaking of RL, damn, I thought from the subject line, this was a trekkie convention.

ROFL ... my first thoughts were "Why is Lou starting a Star Trek thread?" .

Anyways ... I see your point Lou. So ... turn the machine off and have some fun with your family .

CA

 

[oggbashan]

What is real?

Tatelou is one of the few that makes little attempt to hide the real life identity.

I, like many, am posting under a nom-de-plume and try to keep Real Life and Internet life separate. I have been caught out several times by internet people who have deliberately mis-represented themselves (not in the AH but elsewhere).

I have met and made a few friends through the net. I have also met some people I don't want to see or contact again. I am sufficently wary to meet people in a neutral place with retreat lines open for either party.

I have said it before, and I think it is worth repeating: All we know of each other are words and pictures on a screen.

How do you know I am who I say I am? How do I know anything about you? All I have is your printed words on a screen.

Real Life and internet life in an adult site are best kept in separate compartments. It isn't difficult. We all do it in real life - as relations; friends; customers of a business; employees; employers; whatever - we behave and react differently in each role.

But if your life is only on the internet then you are in trouble and should change.

I would like to meet the real Tatelou: but if I did, I would treat her as a potential friend that I don't know very well. I think that she is someone that I would enjoy meeting and perhaps there would be the possibility of becoming friends with her and her family. There is a chance that in real life she and I might be incompatible but if we were to meet I would not embarrass her with assumed shared intimacy. I only know part of her. She only knows part of me. On the net it is easy to make the part you choose to reveal seem to be the whole.

I love the apparent personality of Tatelou (and Shock Chick). I know that the real woman is far more complex than the on-line persona and I have sufficient detachment to recognise that is true of most of us on the AH.

I enjoy sharing the triumphs and happinesses of the members of the AH. I try to help with the problems and misfortunes if I can. I behave as if everything is real but I know that it might not be. That does not make my responses less valid.

Lou is right. There is more to life than Literotica. This is a playground for adults. The real world is out there. A warm woman in my arms means much more than a virtual hug on the internet.

I would sign off for ever if staying on was a threat to my family and friends. I think all of us would.

As long as we know the limitations and accept them this place is enjoyable. If we treat it as a substitute for real life then it is dangerous.

Og (who now must get back to RL business)

 

[Liar]

I really don't see why people have to relate to the net as something seperated from reality, as an escape from "real life" or an option of any sort.

The Internet is a bunch of computers knit together with wires and a communication protocol so that dudes and dudettes like you and me can send data over it.

That is all.

It is a technical device that allows, among other things, people to meet and interact in spite of geographical distance. This here Lit place is one virtual place where people meet. I can assure you that you are all no more real or unreal to me as my real life friends. Maybe not, to be honest, as close friends as those I have nearby. (except a handful of exceptions) But I see many of the persons i meet on the screen as more tangible people tham most that I have had to meet face to face and deal with at work.

Really Lou, is it the technical device or the group of pepople that you found yourself addicted to? Or maybe it's the properties of this media:

* It has a slower tempo than a real life social situation (unless when Abs, vella et al goes nuts once in a while)
* It has a certain anonymity, even for those who are here with full name and pic, since it's unlikely that we'll meet physically anytime soon anyway.
* It has the convenience that you can, in fact, just switch off and do something else for a while.
* It's close at hand whenever you feel like it.

Let's try something: Imagine that the AH was a real place, a local club, where people wore masks and had nicknames. Nothing kinky, mind you. Just for anonymity, so that people could speak their mind freely. They would mingle, chat and debate on different things, and share only what they choose about themselves with the rest.

This is a place, where you can meet, get to know, and keep in touch with people who you wouldn't meet otherwise. Like any other place. The downtown pub, the curch choir, the YMCA. Places with strangers that can become friends. Or foes. In my eyes no difference that is it via data wires.

I am a strong person with a good life. I'm at peace with myself ad the workd. Short of a family of my own some day, which would be nice, I ask for nothing more. I like the Internet, but I'm not addicted to it. It would be like saying that I was addicted to the subway. Or headphones. Let's not focus on computers. They are just stuff.

I'm addicted to people, and I have no intention to detox.

#L

 

[matriarch]

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I can assure you that you are all no more real or unreal to me as my real life friends. Maybe not, to be honest, as close friends as those I have nearby. (except a handful of exceptions) But I see many of the persons i meet on the screen as more tangible people tham most that I have had to meet face to face and deal with at work.
............................................

This is a place, where you can meet, get to know, and keep in touch with people who you wouldn't meet otherwise. Like any other place. The downtown pub, the curch choir, the YMCA. Places with strangers that can become friends. Or foes.
.........................

I am a strong person with a good life. I'm at peace with myself ad the workd.

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I like the Internet, but I'm not addicted to it. It would be like saying that I was addicted to the subway. Or headphones. Let's not focus on computers. They are just stuff.

I'm addicted to people, and I have no intention to detox.

#L

You said it for me L.

The people, the characters, the friendship, the interaction are what bring me back to AH. I frequently offer up quiet thank you's to the two special women who brow-beat me into joining in the mayhem. Especially at those times when the whole AH seems to be sending their love to support one of our number; to jointly celebrate something special for another, and to just offer up a simple hug when another seems to need it.

AH are my second family. I say second, but that does not make them any the less important to me.

My love - real and cyber - to you all.

Mat

 

[comp|icity]

What do you mean by internet ?

And what is this 'real world' that people keep talking about...

 

[pop_54]

What do you mean by internet ?

And what is this 'real world' that people keep talking about...

Beats me too comp... RL... Hmmm.

 

[Guest]

Thanks, everyone, for all of your contributions in this thread. Thanks also for taking it exactly as I meant it.

You are all a great bunch of people and I thank this damn internet thing for giving me the opportunity to get to know you all.

It's also brought somebody very special into my life.

Lou

 

[sweetnpetite]

Well, good for you for saying it anyway.

Reminds me of something I just came up with today, it just sort of popped into my head.

“The modern day succubus is IBM compatible.”

In fact, someday I plan to write a story about it. I'm already planning it in my head. But I'm not going to start on it until i finish at least one of the things I'm currently burried in.

I'll try to say it with a straight face:

"I am not addicted to the internet. I am a strong person with a good life."

and once more for good measure:

"I am not addicted to the internet. I am a strong person with a good life."

Ok, I could be opening up a whole can of worms here, but quite frankly, my dears, I don't give a damn.


I've been spending a lot of time away from my computer recently and do you know what? I feel so much better for it!

I seriously think I had an addictive problem before and I don't think I'm alone.

I seem to have gained a different, more healthy, perspective of things recently. Maybe it's because I've been spending a great deal of time with my family, having some real fun and just shutting down this goddam machine.

Say it with me: "I am not addicted to the internet. I am a strong person with a good life."

P.S. I have absolutely no idea why I just said all of that. I just felt like it.

 

[sweetnpetite]

I annoint this thread with all that is good.

Can I put that in my sigline? or do you wanna?

 

[comp|icity]

Re: Re: It's life, Jim, but not as we know it...

Edited - and removed, as I realised I had reiterated the original joke

duh!

 

[sweetnpetite]

I've been a Lit member for three years. I have just over a thousand posts. Althought I peruse the boards when I can (most frequently when I'm going to post a story), I like to think I'm not 'that' into it. Good to hear you're weaning yourself off it Tatelou!

Gee, only a thousand?

I feel like I should retire or something!

 

[tolyk]

In all honesty, to me the internet is a terrific resource. I've moved around so much in my life and lost contact with so many friends, that I love the internet now. I've gotten back in touch with some of my friends from my childhood, keep in touch with my friends from high school and have made new friends online, some that are closer to me than any friend I've met in real life. I have one guy that is like a brother to me, and I also met my ex-wife and my current girlfriend both online.

From moving around so much, I've been able to know people online longer than I've known anyone in real life. I have internet access no matter where I move, and moving doesn't lose me my good friends anymore.

Just my addition. Lit people are just the same, this is the first community I've found that a large percentage of the people are intelligent, so of course I enjoy it here. You have intelligent people, who also mostly have great sense of humours, and know how to not be too serious when required. Why wouldn't you want to enjoy this place?

 

[sweetnpetite]

Re: Re: Re: It's life, Jim, but not as we know it...

Edited - and removed, as I realised I had reiterated the original joke

duh!

Edited and removed so as not to kill it by overexplaining.

 

[sweetnpetite]

hey!

that was fast complicity!

 

[fifty5]

Originally posted by Tatelou ... life. [/B]

Originally said by Marvin (courtesy of Douglas Adams) Life! Don't talk to me about life [/B]

Or in my own words: often it's good, sometimes it isn't - mostly depending on what mood I'm in...

Meanwhile, I just added my first e-commerce buttons to a website!

f5 (Definitely an addict, but also a pusher!)

 

[yui]

It is a technical device that allows, among other things, people to meet and interact in spite of geographical distance. This here Lit place is one virtual place where people meet. I can assure you that you are all no more real or unreal to me as my real life friends. Maybe not, to be honest, as close friends as those I have nearby. (except a handful of exceptions) But I see many of the persons i meet on the screen as more tangible people tham most that I have had to meet face to face and deal with at work.

I read recently that the internet is the largest gathering of people in human history. Rather neat when you think about it like that, neh? Borders on--I don't know—profound, almost.

 

[Guest]