Kink in college

[Raindear816]

While I was in college, I brought kink on campus. There was lots of spontaneous sex, and blowjobs(my fave) in the campus parking lot.

My Master (we met here) found a way to make SociologyII interesting. I was hating the class. So he told me to plug myself before class, sit attentively during it, then go to the nearest bathroom and call him to beg to cum. Best semester of my llife! I loved it!

I made an A in the class.

 

[subish2009]

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We were tying up, restraining, spanking, applying clothes pins or clips to sensitive body parts, paddling, and whipping females (in addition to the obvious group sex and anal sex) - in college, more than 3 decades ago. It would be totally irrational for me to assume that college kids have subsequently become less adventurous, particularly given access to the Internet, which of course we never had.
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Really? I just had my 10-year, so fall somewhere in between you and the OP. I don't know...it's always hard to make assumptions about what other people are doing, but I went to a school with only about 1,500 undergrads and no grad program to speak of. It's a prestigious school, so maybe the poster who mentioned being too busy with actual schoolwork was on to something there...but my friends and I actually had a reputation on campus for being on the kinkier end of the spectrum and the worst we got up to was lots of group sex, threesomes, double-teams, naked dancing, promiscuity, but nothing truly kinky as I think of it now. Maybe y'all WERE more hard-core 30 years ago?

In the year or so after graduation, I remember we heard about one of the few long-term couples from our class finally getting married. She was Russian Orthodox and dated this guy all four years of college, but wouldn't have vaginal sex. So they had anal sex every single time. We were horrified by this info! Shocked! Mostly, I think, concerned about what THAT much anal sex would do to one's plumbing.... Point being, pretty naive, and that was at 21.

And we DID have the Internet. The more I think about it, the more credence I'm giving to the competitive academics excuse. I was also a D-I athlete, so, yeah, time was a precious commodity.

Fine Art dept in our case.

A lot of people were curious/frustrated/dipping toes in and fetish would show up in art. Also media studies.

Drama department, just like in high school.

 

[JMohegan]

Really? I just had my 10-year, so fall somewhere in between you and the OP. I don't know...it's always hard to make assumptions about what other people are doing, but I went to a school with only about 1,500 undergrads and no grad program to speak of. It's a prestigious school, so maybe the poster who mentioned being too busy with actual schoolwork was on to something there...but my friends and I actually had a reputation on campus for being on the kinkier end of the spectrum and the worst we got up to was lots of group sex, threesomes, double-teams, naked dancing, promiscuity, but nothing truly kinky as I think of it now. Maybe y'all WERE more hard-core 30 years ago?

In the year or so after graduation, I remember we heard about one of the few long-term couples from our class finally getting married. She was Russian Orthodox and dated this guy all four years of college, but wouldn't have vaginal sex. So they had anal sex every single time. We were horrified by this info! Shocked! Mostly, I think, concerned about what THAT much anal sex would do to one's plumbing.... Point being, pretty naive, and that was at 21.

And we DID have the Internet. The more I think about it, the more credence I'm giving to the competitive academics excuse. I was also a D-I athlete, so, yeah, time was a precious commodity.

I went to a very competitive university, busted my ass academically, and went on to an equally competitive grad school. The kids I knew who had close to zero time/energy for socializing were the kids with both academic responsibilities and jobs (to help pay for tuition.) So on Saturday night, instead of chasin' skirt, they'd be waiting tables or working security or something.

Everyone here seems to be drawing from his/her own personal experience, and extrapolating to the population at large. Which is understandable, but not likely to give an accurate picture overall, particularly when the subject centers on activities that usually take place behind closed doors.

In general, I suspect that experimentation is easier for an assertive, self-confident, sadistically curious male prone to exploration from the Top side, than it would be for females or others.

 

[Netzach]

Everyone here seems to be drawing from his/her own personal experience, and extrapolating to the population at large. Which is understandable, but not likely to give an accurate picture overall, particularly when the subject centers on activities that usually take place behind closed doors.

In general, I suspect that experimentation is easier for an assertive, self-confident, sadistically curious male prone to exploration from the Top side, than it would be for females or others.

I thought you said your campus was crippled by feminist PCness.

Mine was pretty anally PC, and I actually think that that guy had the LEAST easy time of it. For sure. The best place to tack on "and by the way I'm a pervert" was as a queer woman, it was confrontational, but didn't make a pariah. I think "I spank my girlfriend" from the jock poly sci major kind of guy would have made a pariah. God. It's not as bad now. But it's still got the be the least easy to sneak in as a valid sexualpolitic whee I'm me yay.

Of course, I'm referring to the Ivory Tower, which a lot of people mistake for our actual cultural values.

 

[JMohegan]

I thought you said your campus was crippled by feminist PCness.

Mine was pretty anally PC, and I actually think that that guy had the LEAST easy time of it. For sure. The best place to tack on "and by the way I'm a pervert" was as a queer woman, it was confrontational, but didn't make a pariah. I think "I spank my girlfriend" from the jock poly sci major kind of guy would have made a pariah. God. It's not as bad now. But it's still got the be the least easy to sneak in as a valid sexualpolitic whee I'm me yay.

Of course, I'm referring to the Ivory Tower, which a lot of people mistake for our actual cultural values.

Crippled by "feminist PCness"? Nope.

Issues relating to the feminist movement eventually crept into discussions in every class, and thousands of discussions outside the classroom, and had an enormous impact on shifting social mores regarding declared behavior and administrative rules regarding acceptable conduct.

Many of those discussions were heated, and some of the females involved in those discussions were extremely belligerent and unreasonable. That doesn't mean that all females on campus were belligerent and unreasonable.

As for guys walking around declaring "I spank my girlfriend" - kiss & tell has never been my style.

 

[YourCaptor]

I think people being more sexual conservative may have a lot to do with it.

Compare the 90s to the 70s, huge change.

I talked with a professor about it before. She said that a lot of people these days actually practice abstinence and wait till they are in a long term relationship. Lots of promise ring and engagement ring stuff too. She says people these days are more goal orientated and std cautious. Blowjobs and group sex are probably the only things that have become looser.

So if people aren't having sex, then they can't really know their sexuality either.

Being busy, maybe. A lot of people say they are too busy, but then present something they really like and all of a sudden they got time. Yet at the same time, its true often I got so much stuff do I don't even have time to eat and get like 3 hours of sleep.

I got a huge midterm next week, a 2 day event that monster is, need to study, but guess what, halloween party tonight.

 

[Netzach]

Crippled by "feminist PCness"? Nope.

Issues relating to the feminist movement eventually crept into discussions in every class, and thousands of discussions outside the classroom, and had an enormous impact on shifting social mores regarding declared behavior and administrative rules regarding acceptable conduct.

Many of those discussions were heated, and some of the females involved in those discussions were extremely belligerent and unreasonable. That doesn't mean that all females on campus were belligerent and unreasonable.

As for guys walking around declaring "I spank my girlfriend" - kiss & tell has never been my style.

No, but it is most girlfriends' style.

I simply think that male tops with female partners have less ability to couch it as anything fascinating or socially relevant or wow, how expressive, or put out feelers without being viewed as a perv, abusive etc. Should word circulate, and word circulates, at least it did on my campus. It's merely food for thought, and points out the importance of discretion and the lack thereof in some academic close quarters.

 

[Netzach]

I think people being more sexual conservative may have a lot to do with it.

Compare the 90s to the 70s, huge change.

I talked with a professor about it before. She said that a lot of people these days actually practice abstinence and wait till they are in a long term relationship. Lots of promise ring and engagement ring stuff too. She says people these days are more goal orientated and std cautious. Blowjobs and group sex are probably the only things that have become looser.

So if people aren't having sex, then they can't really know their sexuality either.

Being busy, maybe. A lot of people say they are too busy, but then present something they really like and all of a sudden they got time. Yet at the same time, its true often I got so much stuff do I don't even have time to eat and get like 3 hours of sleep.

I got a huge midterm next week, a 2 day event that monster is, need to study, but guess what, halloween party tonight.

Oh they're having sex. They're SAYING they aren't having sex. Do we really think that all of biology has suddenly ceased with the new emphasis on waiting till marriage which has statistically staved off pregnancy and STDs none? Let's try that again - none.

A lot of sex ed visual representations do not even include the clit. As in today, 2009, october, in the USA. This is how relevant pleasure is to the question of sex, particularly female pleasure. It's all "OMG BABIES DISEASE or JEBUS WILL CRY IF YOU FUCK."

Our sexually stunted culture seems to want to get more sexually stunted at the same time as the sexualization of kids is almost freaking immediate.

A mad dash to costume shops and seeing the costumes for kids, girls especially, and the whole thing is really really bleak. I mean I dressed as pink and frothy stuff at times but not with all my pre-pubescent non-stuff hanging the fuck out. Is this really sane?

 

[YourCaptor]

Oh they're having sex. They're SAYING they aren't having sex. Do we really think that all of biology has suddenly ceased with the new emphasis on waiting till marriage which has statistically staved off pregnancy and STDs none? Let's try that again - none.

A lot of sex ed visual representations do not even include the clit. As in today, 2009, october, in the USA. This is how relevant pleasure is to the question of sex, particularly female pleasure. It's all "OMG BABIES DISEASE or JEBUS WILL CRY IF YOU FUCK."

Our sexually stunted culture seems to want to get more sexually stunted at the same time as the sexualization of kids is almost freaking immediate.

A mad dash to costume shops and seeing the costumes for kids, girls especially, and the whole thing is really really bleak. I mean I dressed as pink and frothy stuff at times but not with all my pre-pubescent non-stuff hanging the fuck out. Is this really sane?

Yea but I still thing the 60s and 70s way out fucked the 90s and 2000s. I don't know, never lived during the earlier time. All I know is what I hear and what I see. And in defense of no clit, I think they are being as scientific to reproduction as possible. Believe it or not, but the knowledge that dick + vagina = babies is still not fully out their. I know someone that works with the less fortunate SES, and they truthfully don't know this fact.

 

[SimonBrooke]

Are college kids totally naïve about sex? Considering how many times I face-palm when talking about sex, it’s looking that way.

College kids are inexperienced. When you first do vanilla sex, it's a pretty big deal. And, if you have BDSM fantasies, you may find it hard to talk about them or to hook up with the right people.It's not surprising that most people don't jump straight into kink, but take a while to develop it.

We were tying up, restraining, spanking, applying clothes pins or clips to sensitive body parts, paddling, and whipping females (in addition to the obvious group sex and anal sex) - in college, more than 3 decades ago. It would be totally irrational for me to assume that college kids have subsequently become less adventurous, particularly given access to the Internet, which of course we never had.

Well, I don't know where in the world you are or what things are like there, but here it's very much my opinion that the high water mark of sexual freedom was around 1980, and that the tide has been going out for nearly thirty years; people as a whole are much less relaxed about sexuality than they used to be. I agree with Netzach that the STD and pregnancy statistics say that kids are still having sex - but I think it's much less obvious that they're having good sex. They are just (relatively) clueless about relationships and contraception, because they've been taught to be.

Yea but I still thing the 60s and 70s way out fucked the 90s and 2000s. I don't know, never lived during the earlier time.

No, I think you're right.

 

[JMohegan]

College kids are inexperienced. When you first do vanilla sex, it's a pretty big deal. And, if you have BDSM fantasies, you may find it hard to talk about them or to hook up with the right people.It's not surprising that most people don't jump straight into kink, but take a while to develop it.



Well, I don't know where in the world you are or what things are like there, but here it's very much my opinion that the high water mark of sexual freedom was around 1980, and that the tide has been going out for nearly thirty years; people as a whole are much less relaxed about sexuality than they used to be. I agree with Netzach that the STD and pregnancy statistics say that kids are still having sex - but I think it's much less obvious that they're having good sex. They are just (relatively) clueless about relationships and contraception, because they've been taught to be.

Maybe part of the problem is that people have become more uptight about sexual ID. Maybe what's happened is that 'doing what comes naturally' has become this stilted 'lifestyle' construct, with labels and checklists and costumes, and people assuming they can only hook up with someone who has declared themselves to be of an appropriate orientation, and people wondering "omg am I doing it the right way."

Once you start playing with nipples, and you like what happens when you twist hard, then wondering what would happen if you applied some sort of clip is a perfectly natural next step. If you smack someone's ass with your hand and like the response, you don't need decades of sexual experience for the idea of smacking her ass with a ruler, spoon, or fly swatter to pop into your head. If you hold her down by the wrists and you both get all hot and bothered, you don't need the Lit BDSM library to realize that tying her wrists to the bed would be hot.

This is not a big deal. This is just fucking. Power and pain are natural parts of human sexual expression, and there's no reason on earth to assume that some humans (even some 20 year olds) haven't been fucking this way forever.

 

[intothewoods]

I was not aware of anyone kinky in college. I was having sex in college, but nothing particularly wild. I enjoyed sex, and didn't have any interest in pain whatsoever. I was pretty new to sex, and basically was just interested in orgasms. I was interested in power and denial, and knew that got me off, but had no clue about power exchange.

I am amazed by the 19 and 20 year olds online placing kinky ads and showing their face. It all seems really crazy to me, but maybe it's just a different version of sexual adventure that has always been there.

 

[eastern sun]

Maybe part of the problem is that people have become more uptight about sexual ID. Maybe what's happened is that 'doing what comes naturally' has become this stilted 'lifestyle' construct, with labels and checklists and costumes, and people assuming they can only hook up with someone who has declared themselves to be of an appropriate orientation, and people wondering "omg am I doing it the right way."

Once you start playing with nipples, and you like what happens when you twist hard, then wondering what would happen if you applied some sort of clip is a perfectly natural next step. If you smack someone's ass with your hand and like the response, you don't need decades of sexual experience for the idea of smacking her ass with a ruler, spoon, or fly swatter to pop into your head. If you hold her down by the wrists and you both get all hot and bothered, you don't need the Lit BDSM library to realize that tying her wrists to the bed would be hot.

This is not a big deal. This is just fucking. Power and pain are natural parts of human sexual expression, and there's no reason on earth to assume that some humans (even some 20 year olds) haven't been fucking this way forever.

I agree with you. I also think that with the rise of the internet and the tons of information that is now available, it isn't surprising that people with these inclinations would be relieved to find some kind of "how to." And then get all caught up in "am I really a . . . . whatever?" when their natural inclinations don't gibe with the manual.

When we were young (and I gather we're the same age), if we weren't part of the leather scene, we had the luxury and/or challenge of making it up as we went along.

And here we are 25, 30 years later, arguing over semantics and definitions, because your interpretation and experience doesn't match mine, and etc. etc. etc. . . .

 

[YourCaptor]

You know without the web I don't think I would have gotten into BDSM.

It all started out just naturally kinky, then we found rope stuff online and from their things went closer and closer to BDSM.

Another thing, BDSM as it is portrayed in film is just very unattractive.

 

[celticsunspiral]

You know without the web I don't think I would have gotten into BDSM.

It all started out just naturally kinky, then we found rope stuff online and from their things went closer and closer to BDSM.

Another thing, BDSM as it is portrayed in film is just very unattractive.

I agree. I don't think without the internet that I would have tried and enjoyed some of the things I have. The fact that others are out there with similar or more varied interests help you feel like you are not some nutso needing to go to the farm. lol. There Has also been alot of erotic writting in this area lately.

Sorry I don't know much about Kink in College because I was married when I went.

 

[subish2009]

In general, I suspect that experimentation is easier for an assertive, self-confident, sadistically curious male prone to exploration from the Top side, than it would be for females or others.

Yes, I suppose this is probably very accurate. The male PYLs on this thread are likely going to have had very different experiences from the female pyls, simply due to their respective orientations. Hailing from the latter group, I can say that I knew I liked having my wrists pinned down as early as high school, but it was AFTER college before that actually happened for me during sex. As a submissive, especially a very inexperienced one, and one with no interest in topping from the bottom, how was I supposed to find someone who wanted to do that? I actually think many of the men I was with had dominant tendencies, but neither of us had the confidence or maturity yet to really explore them at that age. I don't know...I don't think I was sexually stunted. I just think people mature at different rates and I wouldn't have wanted to move any faster into BDSM than I did. I just wasn't ready.

College kids are inexperienced. When you first do vanilla sex, it's a pretty big deal. And, if you have BDSM fantasies, you may find it hard to talk about them or to hook up with the right people.It's not surprising that most people don't jump straight into kink, but take a while to develop it.

Exactly. And I guess I'm just not sold on the idea that it's a bad thing to take a while to develop one's kink. We all know that with BDSM especially you can get yourself into situations you don't want to be in if you move faster than you're truly ready to. 18-21 is still pretty young, IMO.

Maybe part of the problem is that people have become more uptight about sexual ID. Maybe what's happened is that 'doing what comes naturally' has become this stilted 'lifestyle' construct, with labels and checklists and costumes, and people assuming they can only hook up with someone who has declared themselves to be of an appropriate orientation, and people wondering "omg am I doing it the right way."

Once you start playing with nipples, and you like what happens when you twist hard, then wondering what would happen if you applied some sort of clip is a perfectly natural next step. If you smack someone's ass with your hand and like the response, you don't need decades of sexual experience for the idea of smacking her ass with a ruler, spoon, or fly swatter to pop into your head. If you hold her down by the wrists and you both get all hot and bothered, you don't need the Lit BDSM library to realize that tying her wrists to the bed would be hot.

This is not a big deal. This is just fucking. Power and pain are natural parts of human sexual expression, and there's no reason on earth to assume that some humans (even some 20 year olds) haven't been fucking this way forever.

I think I see your point, but for me, the fact that it felt natural felt scary for a while. I knew it was BDSM and I saw that as a very dark thing. Having a Catholic background and a very good-girl childhood made it hard for me to see this as an okay thing for me to be into. I knew I what I wanted, but I thought those wants were "bad." It took a LOT of growing up and emotional maturity to learn otherwise and truly believe it. To be more clear, I agree completely with everything you're saying, NOW, at age 31, but I would NOT have understood any of that to be true in college. As well-educated and intelligent as I was, I just was not that socially/sexually enlightened yet. Book smarts versus life smarts. Background may have a lot to do with this.

I was not aware of anyone kinky in college. I was having sex in college, but nothing particularly wild. I enjoyed sex, and didn't have any interest in pain whatsoever. I was pretty new to sex, and basically was just interested in orgasms. I was interested in power and denial, and knew that got me off, but had no clue about power exchange.

I am amazed by the 19 and 20 year olds online placing kinky ads and showing their face. It all seems really crazy to me, but maybe it's just a different version of sexual adventure that has always been there.

Exactly.

 

[DiscusDave]

As an actual college kinkster..... I'd like to chime in.

I think if we think of practicing full on set up/take down scenes then yes, few college students have the facilities (there's only so much you can do with a dorm room), the resources (knowledge, physical resources, support, etc.), nor the camaraderie needed to really fully explore "kink."

However as many of times it has been said here, that a person can be inherently dominant and/or submissive, and not need to practice or have a dynamic to be so. That being said, could you say that a dominant or submissive college student isn't kinky?

Also, as it was said even in this thread, that college-aged kids (and I say kids because I know I'm not fully matured yet) are still in a period of self exploration about themselves. It's mentioned about the exploration and discovery of the kinkier side of ourselves here.... that probably is a part of the self discovery of many college students. Except in a setting where self discovery can be scary in many ways, admitting that "I like to tie someone up and whip them till their ass is red" can be kind of a scary thing for a college person to do.

Lack of knowledge and outlets for expression.... I can agree with.

Lack of kink.... doubt it.

 

[Homburg]

It would be pedantic if I listed off all the kinky college and college-age people that are here on Lit, so perhaps we can take it as given that they exist. Columbia's munch has already been mentioned, and I know of a pansexual kink-friendly group at a particular school in Boston. I can also drag out photo evidence, if need be, of the many college and college age women that I've personally enjoyed the company of in various areas of this country.

And looking towards JM's example, my first 'kinky' relationship started in when I was in college (90's), and I had no clue at all about kink. And it goes without saying that MIS is college age, and our relationship started while she was in her junior year. While visiting her, I knew more than a coupla kinky people.

In short, they exist. Sure, they may not be as aware of it as you are, or perhaps they just aren't as open as you are. They may just not have the vocabulary to express it, or courage to try.

Or, and don't take this the wrong way as I don't mean it as insulting, maybe you just give off the wrong vibe. You are into some pretty extreme interests, and that vibe may put possible partners off, or intimidate them to the point where they don't take the chance of talking/responding to you. Remember, when everyone else sees something clearly but you, you may well be the one who needs to look closer.

 

[YourCaptor]

Lack of knowledge and outlets for expression.... I can agree with.

Lack of kink.... doubt it.

However it takes 2 to do kink… usually. Without the outlet, what’s the point.

It would be pedantic if I listed off all the kinky college and college-age people that are here on Lit, so perhaps we can take it as given that they exist. Columbia's munch has already been mentioned, and I know of a pansexual kink-friendly group at a particular school in Boston. I can also drag out photo evidence, if need be, of the many college and college age women that I've personally enjoyed the company of in various areas of this country.

And looking towards JM's example, my first 'kinky' relationship started in when I was in college (90's), and I had no clue at all about kink. And it goes without saying that MIS is college age, and our relationship started while she was in her junior year. While visiting her, I knew more than a coupla kinky people.

In short, they exist. Sure, they may not be as aware of it as you are, or perhaps they just aren't as open as you are. They may just not have the vocabulary to express it, or courage to try.

Or, and don't take this the wrong way as I don't mean it as insulting, maybe you just give off the wrong vibe. You are into some pretty extreme interests, and that vibe may put possible partners off, or intimidate them to the point where they don't take the chance of talking/responding to you. Remember, when everyone else sees something clearly but you, you may well be the one who needs to look closer.

I don’t think its just something I’m not seeing. I’ve gotten into contact with many college kinksters over the web, few are in a situation that lets them express their sexuality, some are even unable to express their interests.

I suppose it’s probably a continuum from totally being shut out of kink, to having your cake and eating it too. MIS school was around NY if I remember correctly, of that population I wonder what fraction constitutes those open kinksters you know. Apply that ratio to other populations and I wonder what you get. Makes me feel sorry for those mid west kids.

The closest full-fledged kinkster my age that I know personally lives about 35 miles away. And last time I saw her, her sub was still way in the closet to the point that he had trouble talking about it in public.

I’m sure you’re experience is different, but maybe all areas are not equal in kink.

 

[00Syd]

Ahem. I am a kinky college student who began exploring BDSM in high school. The first much I went to was a novice munch put on by TES (a local BDSM organization), and I was far from the only college-age person in attendance. The second munch I ever attended was put on by Conversio Virium, Columbia University's BDSM student group.

Columbia University has an active group. They have regular meetings at Paddles in NYC, and college students get diiscounted entry fees.

Which, by the way, meets on the Columbia Campus during the school year, and at a diner during the summer, not at paddles. Maybe it used to meet at paddles, but it doesn't anymore. (just FYI, in case anyone of college age in the NYC area is curious about attending a meeting, this is their website: http://conversiovirium.org/)

Anywho. I had absolutely no trouble finding not only college aged kinky folks, but kinky kids who meet in organized groups. At my school in Boston, using both the wonders of the internet and old fashioned fliers, had absolutely no trouble finding a small group of kinky and kink-curious and kink-friendly students. It took me a little bit of time and effort to find the other kinky kids in my school, and it also took the courage of putting my name all over the school on a flier promoting a kink-friendly meeting, but it worked. Now I have a network of kinky friends at my school, and at other schools around Boston.

On fetlife there is a group dedicated to kinky college students with over 600 members from schools all across the country, not just NYC and Boston. (http://fetlife.com/groups/1312)

Sure, most college students probably don't have the time, space, or resources necessary to practice BDSM, but that won't stop them from being interested and doing what they can to explore their own interests. I'm incredibly, incredibly lucky to live in two cities that have active BDSM scenes, so that I can attend parties, munches, meet-ups, and classes where I can meet friends and lovers. It's true, not every college student is so lucky, but every college student is lucky enough to have access to the internet, and with the internet, it is almost impossible for college students to not be able to find information and camaraderie, if not face-to-face friends.

Yes, its a bummer that many college student's don't have the ability to fully explore their sexuality. That's a shame. Personally, I'm doing what I can to change that by being involved with an unconfrence called KinkForAll (http://kinkforall.org/) which is an event that just about anyone can organize, anywhere, as a place for people to come together to discuss sexuality of all stripes and colors. I've been to the two that have taken pace in NYC so far, and the one that has been in Boston, and all three have attracted college students in some numbers and has been a great place for them to meet and learn from each other. There is one currently being organized in DC, and people are starting to organize one in (I believe) San Fran. I strongly encourage anyone (especially college students!) to take a look at the KFA model, and organize one in their community, and maybe even on their college campus. YC, maybe this could be something that you could do at your school, to help create the community of like-minded people that you can't find anywhere else.

I don’t think its just something I’m not seeing.

So, in conclusion, I think this is something that you're just not seeing. Just because you personally can't seem to find like-minded people your age (which is baffling, considering the internet), doesn't mean that they aren't out there doing all the things that you don't think they are doing. Because they are.

Good luck! If you need any more help or advice on how to find kinky college kids, feel free to PM me. As an actively kinky college student, and as an advocate of sexual freedom and diversity on college campuses, I'm absolutely more than willing to help.

 

[Homburg]

I don’t think its just something I’m not seeing. I’ve gotten into contact with many college kinksters over the web, few are in a situation that lets them express their sexuality, some are even unable to express their interests.

Short of people who are wealthy enough to maintain a primary or secondary residence somewhere remote, and can afford the time to travel, very few people are in a position to really express their sexuality. And with the advent of the internet, anyone can express interest. This was why I mentioned self-knowledge and courage previously.

I suppose it’s probably a continuum from totally being shut out of kink, to having your cake and eating it too. MIS school was around NY if I remember correctly, of that population I wonder what fraction constitutes those open kinksters you know. Apply that ratio to other populations and I wonder what you get. Makes me feel sorry for those mid west kids.

Eh, it was a dinky factory town in the mountains, and the school was dinky as well. They still had a munch in town.

The closest full-fledged kinkster my age that I know personally lives about 35 miles away. And last time I saw her, her sub was still way in the closet to the point that he had trouble talking about it in public.

I’m sure you’re experience is different, but maybe all areas are not equal in kink.

This is what kinda boggles me. Aren't you in the LA area? Geeze, man, I'm in the Bible Belt, and I can't take three steps without tripping over somebody that I can confirm is kinky.

I guess my experience is just vastly different. Finding kinky people is not particularly a problem. Though I will say that I am not personally worried about age group. Just find kinky people, and, through them, other kinky people. Statistically speaking, you will meet some across the age brackets.

 

[00Syd]

http://www.cuffs.stuorg.iastate.edu/

Nuff said.

Also, the great thing about Cuffs is that its at Iowa State, which is a state school, which means that it is funded by the government

 

[00Syd]

Wait, YC, you are in California? If that's the case, then your inability to not find kinksters your age is mystifying. You can't step outside in CA without tripping over some kinky motherfucker, and I know for a fact that a whole boatload of those many many kinky Californians are on the young end of the spectrum.

 

[intothewoods]

Wait, YC, you are in California? If that's the case, then your inability to not find kinksters your age is mystifying. You can't step outside in CA without tripping over some kinky motherfucker, and I know for a fact that a whole boatload of those many many kinky Californians are on the young end of the spectrum.

Yeah, I don't get how you can't find kinky people in the LA area.

 

[YourCaptor]

Believe it or not but socal is not like it is on TV. Maybe OC is but I have nothing over there.

I suppose you could mistake cholos for doms, bald heads, knee high socks, funny beards.

I have looked around, I have spoken to a lot of people on sex, and I didn’t find much. Does that really sound that far fetched?

Yes they do have sex, but nothing like what I'm feeling for.

On fet life, the 2 college groups, those members are not all in the same location, maybe like 2 per school. The California thread has what, 8 replies. Take a look at some other treads on there, I don’t think I’m the only one not finding what I’m looking for.

I have experience with clubs on campus. I helped start 2, and had a hand in a fight club that never went any place, and I am very certain no funding is in it for kink.

Considering the different launch methods used for the ones that worked. The multi cult one we went up to all those racial clicks and told them about it. The first meeting had like 120 people, all groups of close friends. The other club, environmental, we posted flyers and had 4 people show up the first day.

So knowing how to make a club thrive, I’m about 95% certain kink would get no hits. 5% chance like 2 people show.

I don't want to just toss the idea, but that just doesn't add up. Off campus it would probably work, but then what would that age range be.

Anyway, maybe some of you can refer me to some of those many young cali kinksters.