Lactation fetish, I has it... anyone else?

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

I do not see breast feeding as sexual, even if breasts are sexual.

I dont see breast feeding as sexual either. I have to admit that my mind wanders now and then when I nurse my baby tho. But then again my mind is always wandering lol.

 

[bridgeburner]

Many of my fantasies involve me as a lactating new mother, and having my lover/dom/whatever drinking from my breasts... sharing me with others who will drink from me.

I'm with you. That's just fucking hot.

I have several fantasies that revolve around lactation although I've only ever rarely wished I could actually produce milk myself. It seems like a hassle.

I do like that idea of fullness and the achy, swollen needing relief that happens if you can't express your milk somehow. Of course, I'm never thinking about babies at that point. I'm thinking about some evil captor who is using the delay to torment some poor woman.

It's also important to note that I had to kind of go out of my way to arrange my fantasies so that I wasn't thinking about mothers separated from their children. It's always women who are forced into lactating ---- I couldn't get off with the idea of some hungry child or desperate mother invovled. That just upset me.

 

[MasDom]

What is the appeal?

For me the nature of it is sensual. Someone nourishing you with something that actually comes from their body which takes up a little of them to produce. I don't mean like a vampire takes blood, but the opposite. Someone has to actually want and desire to nurture or share this with you. Either a loving gesture or a lustful one. Only with this you gain nourishment. Some pleasure to the person giving maybe a warm feeling or perhaps even a perverse one. Just like with most things I guess it's all up to how you feel about it.

 

[CutieMouse]

*steps onto intillectual soapbox*

On a physiological level, however, breastfeeding is directly linked to sexuality in that the body is flooded with oxytocin both when a woman climaxes, and a "let down" of milk occurs during lactation. Lactating women tend to have letdowns when climaxing, the same as they do when a baby cries. Much easier to wrap one's head around the physiolocial/hormonal aspects, than bang one's head against the nurture/pervert brick wall.

Further complicating the issue, is that some women are capable of [unintentionally] experiencing orgasms while nursing. It's not often discussed [publicly], given that society is quick to gasp with moralistic horror and start worrying about sexual abuse, but it has been documented often enough that IBCLCs/etc are trained to deal with women who experience it.

*steps off soapbox and wanders off again*

 

[graceanne]

*steps onto intillectual soapbox*

On a physiological level, however, breastfeeding is directly linked to sexuality in that the body is flooded with oxytocin both when a woman climaxes, and a "let down" of milk occurs during lactation. Lactating women tend to have letdowns when climaxing, the same as they do when a baby cries. Much easier to wrap one's head around the physiolocial/hormonal aspects, than bang one's head against the nurture/pervert brick wall.

Further complicating the issue, is that some women are capable of [unintentionally] experiencing orgasms while nursing. It's not often discussed [publicly], given that society is quick to gasp with moralistic horror and start worrying about sexual abuse, but it has been documented often enough that IBCLCs/etc are trained to deal with women who experience it.

*steps off soapbox and wanders off again*

It makes sense that women could orgasm while breast feeding, because breast feeding causes your uterus to contract, and an orgasm is also your uterus contracting. In my case those unterine contractions just freaken HURT, but if they don't hurt (or you're a masochist ) it makes sense that it'd feel good.

 

[intothewoods]

*steps onto intillectual soapbox*

On a physiological level, however, breastfeeding is directly linked to sexuality in that the body is flooded with oxytocin both when a woman climaxes, and a "let down" of milk occurs during lactation. Lactating women tend to have letdowns when climaxing, the same as they do when a baby cries. Much easier to wrap one's head around the physiolocial/hormonal aspects, than bang one's head against the nurture/pervert brick wall.

Further complicating the issue, is that some women are capable of [unintentionally] experiencing orgasms while nursing. It's not often discussed [publicly], given that society is quick to gasp with moralistic horror and start worrying about sexual abuse, but it has been documented often enough that IBCLCs/etc are trained to deal with women who experience it.

*steps off soapbox and wanders off again*

Oh yes, of course that's true. I wasn't really focused on the breastfeeding mom, more the guy who wants to watch to get off. But most here don't want to watch, right? They just find the idea that a woman is lactating hot. That part dosn't squick me out, fwiw.

 

[CutieMouse]

Oh yes, of course that's true. I wasn't really focused on the breastfeeding mom, more the guy who wants to watch to get off. But most here don't want to watch, right? They just find the idea that a woman is lactating hot. That part dosn't squick me out, fwiw.

I wasn't intending to focus on breastfeeding mothers, per say, either... more pointing out that lactation is one of those quirky bodily functions that is bound to sexuality, comfort levels be dammed.

There's an odd psychology/physiology/breastfeeding/kink something waltzing about my brain at the moment, but I've not yet [if ever] figured out how to articulate it properly...

 

[intothewoods]

I wasn't intending to focus on breastfeeding mothers, per say, either... more pointing out that lactation is one of those quirky bodily functions that is bound to sexuality, comfort levels be dammed.

There's an odd psychology/physiology/breastfeeding/kink something waltzing about my brain at the moment, but I've not yet [if ever] figured out how to articulate it properly...

Well, I understand how it is connected for a woman. The hormones involved, and the bodily part itself - it's breasts! But aside from the fact that breasts are involved, what is the connection for men? I can sort of get the my-woman-is-feeding-our-child primal protectiveness thing, but I don't get getting off on watching a woman nurse someone else's baby. I suppose it makes me uncomfortable because my child isn't up for grabs to be part of someone else's fantasy, whether that be romantic (I'll whisk you all away and take care of you) or purely sexual. That's just me.

 

[Guest]

Further complicating the issue, is that some women are capable of [unintentionally] experiencing orgasms while nursing.

*steps off soapbox and wanders off again*

Glad to see I'm not the only one. I loved breastfeeding. I was fortunate and had great milk, no problems with it at all, and well - it was pretty damn special. Initially I was a little freaked to be sitting quietly and feeling all motherly and nurturing and then "BANG" Whafahuh?

I got quite used to it. *grin*

*Sigh* Somebody impregnate me.

 

[nh23]

Well, I understand how it is connected for a woman. The hormones involved, and the bodily part itself - it's breasts! But aside from the fact that breasts are involved, what is the connection for men? I can sort of get the my-woman-is-feeding-our-child primal protectiveness thing, but I don't get getting off on watching a woman nurse someone else's baby. I suppose it makes me uncomfortable because my child isn't up for grabs to be part of someone else's fantasy, whether that be romantic (I'll whisk you all away and take care of you) or purely sexual. That's just me.

Well I can't speak for anyone else, but I know for Master it's not about watching me breastfeed a child. My kids are way too old for that..LOL. (7 and 3) I still produce a small amount of milk from my last pregnancy. So to him the turn on is producing milk for him. Nourishing him. Make more sense?

 

[intothewoods]

Well I can't speak for anyone else, but I know for Master it's not about watching me breastfeed a child. My kids are way too old for that..LOL. (7 and 3) I still produce a small amount of milk from my last pregnancy. So to him the turn on is producing milk for him. Nourishing him. Make more sense?

Yes, thank you!

 

[subbie_333]

*steps onto intillectual soapbox*

On a physiological level, however, breastfeeding is directly linked to sexuality in that the body is flooded with oxytocin both when a woman climaxes, and a "let down" of milk occurs during lactation. Lactating women tend to have letdowns when climaxing, the same as they do when a baby cries. Much easier to wrap one's head around the physiolocial/hormonal aspects, than bang one's head against the nurture/pervert brick wall.

Further complicating the issue, is that some women are capable of [unintentionally] experiencing orgasms while nursing. It's not often discussed [publicly], given that society is quick to gasp with moralistic horror and start worrying about sexual abuse, but it has been documented often enough that IBCLCs/etc are trained to deal with women who experience it.

*steps off soapbox and wanders off again*

( does that confused-dog-tilting-its-head look at her )

um, well, yes, good to know. But, some of us like to keep some aspects of our fetishes in the dark.

 

[subbie_333]

Well, I understand how it is connected for a woman. The hormones involved, and the bodily part itself - it's breasts! But aside from the fact that breasts are involved, what is the connection for men? I can sort of get the my-woman-is-feeding-our-child primal protectiveness thing, but I don't get getting off on watching a woman nurse someone else's baby. I suppose it makes me uncomfortable because my child isn't up for grabs to be part of someone else's fantasy, whether that be romantic (I'll whisk you all away and take care of you) or purely sexual. That's just me.

Well, i haven't quite figured out my lactation fetish yet, but, it is there and in at least two different fashions. Now, as a disclaimer, the rest of this post states things as a guy's perspective, cus i am a guy, even though Gracie doesn't seem to know that yet. So, i am not excluding women as having this fetish, it just makes it easier to write as it comes from a guy's perspective.

First, i think that most men that have a "lactation fetish" don't have the fetish of watching a woman breastfeeding her baby. um, we are kinda like, well, JEALOUS, and, like "would you get the hell away from her so that *I* can do that!" sorta thingie. But, i can see where a guy can get turned on seeing "his woman" providing "nurturing" to "his/their child".

Some guys are squicked by lactation, so, there isn't always a direct connection between breast fetish and lactation fetish. Some guys like firm breasts, um, the type that don't "do" much. Other guys like breasts that move, wobble, etc, in other words, they "do" stuff. For some, that includes lactation.

me personally, i like nice calm nurturing suckling, lactation or not. Milk would just enhance that environment. To me, that is more sensual than sexual, but, many times sensual is just as much of a wonderful turn-on as sexual.

i also like the squirting aspect as an active activity. My guess is that it is analogous to a woman enjoying having semen squirted on them. Not only does she have the power to produce milk (which us guys don't), but, she can "use" lactation for purposes other than providing nourishment to her child. She can attract a male that has the fetish, and, provide that nurturing suckling environment. She can squirt for sexual play, for humiliation play, as a top. Or, even be forced to squirt as humiliation as a bottom.

And, i am an example of a guy who has a lactation fetish, but, who doesn't want to have anything to do with kids, of any age.

 

[graceanne]

I hated nursing. I have an overactive let down (I think in a past life I was a wet-nurse), and my daughters had trouble latching. It was a constant battle to nurse them. Not to mention that K insisted I go in the other room to nurse, so I always felt ostracized. If I tried to nurse in public he'd bug me, constantly fussing with the blanket over them, and distract the girls, making it harder to get them latched. My son was a great nurser, but I was only allowed to nurse him for a week.

 

[graceanne]

cus i am a guy, even though Gracie doesn't seem to know that yet.

Oops.

Sorry.

 

[subbie_333]

Oops.

Sorry.

LOL

 

[graceanne]

LOL

In my defense, we so rarely get male subs here. I'm not sure why. I'd offer you a cookie, but . . . well I can't go against my nature, can I?

 

[Oceanmother]

For me breastfeeding was a sensual and fulfilling, as it should be, and it did feel good.

I could definitely see the attraction of nursing a full grown man, the combination of a sensual act couple with the nurturing, giving element.

In fact I would always have a 'letdown' when I orgasmed during the 8 months I breastfed my son, and I would often have a desire for my husband to bend his neck and devour the milk that was so freely flowing from me. He had a bit of an 'ick-thing 'about the whole lactating thing though, so I would just grab the always-handy towel and cover up. Pity.

 

[Essene]

I hated nursing. I have an overactive let down (I think in a past life I was a wet-nurse), and my daughters had trouble latching. It was a constant battle to nurse them. Not to mention that K insisted I go in the other room to nurse, so I always felt ostracized. If I tried to nurse in public he'd bug me, constantly fussing with the blanket over them, and distract the girls, making it harder to get them latched. My son was a great nurser, but I was only allowed to nurse him for a week.

That's awful. Women need to be supported by their spouse if it's going to work. I'm sorry Grace.

Yeah my husband supported me-by ignoring me.Thing is he never stopped ignoring me after that point, and it's now going on 2 1/2 years.

Maybe that's how I got to where I am now.

Now I love it when he ignores me. Makes life so much easier.

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

Oh yes, of course that's true. I wasn't really focused on the breastfeeding mom, more the guy who wants to watch to get off. But most here don't want to watch, right? They just find the idea that a woman is lactating hot. That part dosn't squick me out, fwiw.

What about the guy who gets off on seeing women in nylons/stockings and heels? There are women everywhere in the world that wear those things on a daily basis and many men who admire it from afar.

I nursed the #1 spawn for 16 mo, the #2 spawn for 39 mo. I nursed in public.. nursed at home.. on planes, trains, in cars.. I ended up having to relactate with the #2 spawn 'cause my supply had dwindled low due to stress. It's not difficult, just time consuming/labour intensive. You have to WANT it and be dedicated to it. Domperidone is the best rx med out there for this, but I was given Reglan/Maxeran and within a few days noticed a huge difference.

I miss the nursing and would love to be doing it again...

 

[intothewoods]

Well, i haven't quite figured out my lactation fetish yet, but, it is there and in at least two different fashions. Now, as a disclaimer, the rest of this post states things as a guy's perspective, cus i am a guy, even though Gracie doesn't seem to know that yet. So, i am not excluding women as having this fetish, it just makes it easier to write as it comes from a guy's perspective.

First, i think that most men that have a "lactation fetish" don't have the fetish of watching a woman breastfeeding her baby. um, we are kinda like, well, JEALOUS, and, like "would you get the hell away from her so that *I* can do that!" sorta thingie. But, i can see where a guy can get turned on seeing "his woman" providing "nurturing" to "his/their child".

Some guys are squicked by lactation, so, there isn't always a direct connection between breast fetish and lactation fetish. Some guys like firm breasts, um, the type that don't "do" much. Other guys like breasts that move, wobble, etc, in other words, they "do" stuff. For some, that includes lactation.

me personally, i like nice calm nurturing suckling, lactation or not. Milk would just enhance that environment. To me, that is more sensual than sexual, but, many times sensual is just as much of a wonderful turn-on as sexual.

i also like the squirting aspect as an active activity. My guess is that it is analogous to a woman enjoying having semen squirted on them. Not only does she have the power to produce milk (which us guys don't), but, she can "use" lactation for purposes other than providing nourishment to her child. She can attract a male that has the fetish, and, provide that nurturing suckling environment. She can squirt for sexual play, for humiliation play, as a top. Or, even be forced to squirt as humiliation as a bottom.

And, i am an example of a guy who has a lactation fetish, but, who doesn't want to have anything to do with kids, of any age.

Thank you for that. That's very helpful actually.

And oops on being heterocentric. It didn't even occur to me that women might have this fetish (I mean, on the receiving end, er...)!

I hated nursing. I have an overactive let down (I think in a past life I was a wet-nurse), and my daughters had trouble latching. It was a constant battle to nurse them. Not to mention that K insisted I go in the other room to nurse, so I always felt ostracized. If I tried to nurse in public he'd bug me, constantly fussing with the blanket over them, and distract the girls, making it harder to get them latched. My son was a great nurser, but I was only allowed to nurse him for a week.

Sorry, grace. That must have been hard.

Mister Man asked me (if we ever have kids) if I would go in another room when I was nursing if we had company over and I said, hell no, I live here! I explained to him that maybe I would, if I wanted a quiet place, but I shouldn't feel like I have to. Once I told him how little of the breast is actually showing, he felt more comfortable with it.

What about the guy who gets off on seeing women in nylons/stockings and heels? There are women everywhere in the world that wear those things on a daily basis and many men who admire it from afar.

What about that guy? It's the part where my kid is involved that makes me feel uncomfortable, not the admiring from afar.

 

[subbie_333]

In my defense, we so rarely get male subs here. I'm not sure why.

WHAT? *sigh* i am *so* disappointed that you haven't already scoped out my profile, my leatherwork web site, and, all of my insanely witty posts to this site

I'd offer you a cookie, but . . . well I can't go against my nature, can I?

Yeah, like you really have any left

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

What about that guy? It's the part where my kid is involved that makes me feel uncomfortable, not the admiring from afar.

Fair enough. Just wanted to point out that there are many situations where we are not directly involved in someone else's voyueristic pleasures... and from what other's have posted, it's not the child nursing that is necessarily the attraction.. but the act of nursing itself. Hard to separate the two I think. Can't remember who said it, but someone mentioned wanting to push the child out of the way and replace their position at the breast in order to take his turn.

My ex got a few mouthfuls on a few occasions after our kids were born. Wasn't a big turn on/off for him, just mentioned that it tastes sweet. And I'm totally craving that high I got with the second one.. totally blissed me out to nurse #2 spawn...

 

[subbie_333]

Can't remember who said it, but someone mentioned wanting to push the child out of the way and replace their position at the breast in order to take his turn.

Yeah, that was me. But, more realistic is the chance to see nipple out in public

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

Yeah, that was me. But, more realistic is the chance to see nipple out in public

Thank you for claiming that. I never nursed fully exposed, except at home in the comfort and security of my bedroom... I used to walk thru the malls nursing #2 spawn, and all anyone could ever see is a pair of feet dangling out of the opposite side of the sling... most of the time he'd fall asleep like that, completely hidden from the world. You'd have been VERY disappointed around me I'm afraid.