Ladies, do you think it's cheesy when...

[mtlm39]

...a man says, " I want to make love to you."?

At my work Christmas party a few nights ago, I was semi-drunkenly discussing seduction techniques with a few female co-workers. When I mentioned the phrase, they looked at eachother, laughed and told me. "No one calls it 'making love' anymore."

So has any man ever said it to you? I admit I've used it a few times in the heat of the moment. Is it just semantics to say fucking or making love? Is there a difference between how you fuck someone and how you would 'make love' to them?
Opinions ladies, pls!!!!

 

[amofiga]

...a man says, " I want to make love to you."?

At my work Christmas party a few nights ago, I was semi-drunkenly discussing seduction techniques with a few female co-workers. When I mentioned the phrase, they looked at eachother, laughed and told me. "No one calls it 'making love' anymore."

So has any man ever said it to you? I admit I've used it a few times in the heat of the moment. Is it just semantics to say fucking or making love? Is there a difference between how you fuck someone and how you would 'make love' to them?
Opinions ladies, pls!!!!

I'm not a lady, but I've always liked the term "would like to have sex with you" or "would like to go to bed with you". "Make love to you" is good if that's what it really is. Is it a loving committed relationship or at least a relatively serious intimate friendship/relationship or just a "hook up"? I have always HATED the term "would like to sleep with you" unless you really mean to spend the night and sleep together after having sex. I don't know why that euphamestic expression has gained such favor. Probably network TV. For those old enough to remember Charo, how about "make hoochie koochie"

 

[fire_breeze]

...a man says, " I want to make love to you."?

At my work Christmas party a few nights ago, I was semi-drunkenly discussing seduction techniques with a few female co-workers. When I mentioned the phrase, they looked at eachother, laughed and told me. "No one calls it 'making love' anymore."

So has any man ever said it to you? I admit I've used it a few times in the heat of the moment. Is it just semantics to say fucking or making love? Is there a difference between how you fuck someone and how you would 'make love' to them?
Opinions ladies, pls!!!!

Hello and welcome to Lit.

Nope, not necessarily. Not cheesy at all, at least not in my opinion - but then again, it really seriously depends on the situation. If some random person - or not so random - told me that, then I'd probably cock an eyebrow. Suggesting that would not be a seduction technique - at least not for me. It really depends on who does the saying, what the state of relationship is and so forth.

is there a difference between fucking, having sex and making love? I'd say so, but for me, 'making love' does not necessarily mean that slow, passionate, romantic sex, although it could. Raw, animalistic sex could also be making love, because the partners involved physically demonstrate the depth of their emotions towards each other. If that is the way they show their love for each other, then that is the way.

But we could argue semantics all night. In short, if my all, whom I adore beyond life itself, said "I want to make love to you", I'd melt - and I also know what it means for us. If someone else did, then that person would be politely told to take a hike.

But your kilometrage may vary.

(yes yes, I know I know, Ed. You're gonna trout-smack me anyway. Join the metric world, damn it! )

 

[candycane154]

I think there is a time and a place for everything. I think "making love" would be much more apporpriate for couples in a serious relationship, and it isn't cheesy in that sense. Like fire_breeze stated, if my significant other said that to me, I'd melt into a puddle, too! But if it was used as a pickup line by someone I'd just met? I'd suggest that they walk away as of that moment.

 

[nakdsub]

This is only my opinion of course but...

it is not the act itself. Like someone said, making love can also be animalistic and not necessarily long and slow sex. I believe sex is a physical thing and making love is emotional.
Now, whether or not you want to make love to someone or have sex, I believe depends on how well you know them.
Certainly, if you're dating a woman and you're about to enter into a new relationship, I would use "love". If you're in a bar and hitting on someone for the first time, she may get scared away with the term "love," especially if she, herself, is just looking for a good roll in the sack.

 

[Etaski]

Hm.

I'd think it cheesy if it was apparent he was using it as a "softer" euphemism for something else he really wanted to say (fuck, have sex, have a good time, bump nasties...).

If I believed he meant it, and there was already underlying tension, desire, and respect...my heart would leap into my throat.

I can't imagine it working at all for someone I'd just met, but for someone with some history and at least newly-developed affection and maybe tender feelings...it would probably have an effect.

 

[Loverskitten]

I'd think it cheesy if it was apparent he was using it as a "softer" euphemism for something else he really wanted to say (fuck, have sex, have a good time, bump nasties...).

If I believed he meant it, and there was already underlying tension, desire, and respect...my heart would leap into my throat.

Plus my panties would fall off... hehe

Seriously I agree with people "making love" implies emotion and a relationship. NOT for one nighters

 

[LaChica]

Agree with the majority above. Making love has a more emotional condition attached to the term.

 

[LaChica]

Besides, when strangers use it, it becomes a tad too corny.

 

[CinT]

Plus my panties would fall off... hehe

Seriously I agree with people "making love" implies emotion and a relationship. NOT for one nighters

throwing another vote this way...

 

[prettykitty78]

...a man says, " I want to make love to you."?

At my work Christmas party a few nights ago, I was semi-drunkenly discussing seduction techniques with a few female co-workers. When I mentioned the phrase, they looked at eachother, laughed and told me. "No one calls it 'making love' anymore."

So has any man ever said it to you? I admit I've used it a few times in the heat of the moment. Is it just semantics to say fucking or making love? Is there a difference between how you fuck someone and how you would 'make love' to them?
Opinions ladies, pls!!!!

I dont think its cheesy by any means as long as its not the only way he says it at all times... but id love to hear it on ocassion cause to me its something totally different from I want to fuck you, it means I want to put all my attention into you, cause I dont ever want to be without you I love you and want to spend the night showing how amazing you are.

 

[prettykitty78]

Besides, when strangers use it, it becomes a tad too corny.

only a complete stranger but someone who has just had a secret crush on you would mean a little more..

 

[mistletoe1963]

I wish someone would make love to me.....

 

[mtlm39]

I personally think it's the sexiest thing in the world when a woman looks me in the eyes and whispers seductively "make love to me".
So erotic. Try it with your man and see.

 

[sammiluvscock]

"Making love" is a fine expression, if said by someone you actually love. If someone used it in a club I'd be a bit disturbed. There is a time and a place.

 

[brunette1989]

Personally I don't like the term 'make love' unless the people are trying for a baby lol

It really turns me on if a guy says he wants to fuck me, but only if I'm in a relationship with that person. I don't swear around guys and I don't generally like guys swearing around me so it's exciting when a guy uses the word fuck and to me it says that they really really want to have sex with me.

However I find 'I'd like to have sex with you' fits any well in any situation or relationship

 

[Reba67]

I've had that as some sort of pickup line, but honestly, before you are getting anywhere near my pants, I need to get to know you a lot better. when my husband says it? Oh, soooo sexy.

 

[mtlm39]

Loving these views. Keep it up ladies. And thanks!

 

[xXMorticiaXx]

I think it depends on the person. If,say a sauve james bond type gentleman were to say it, than it makes sense.

My husband, in his daily life, is a d&d player,jameson drinker,smot poker,comicbook metalhead.

And, if he were to request we make love on a normal day, im sorry but id crack up. Thata not him.

Perhaps, if it was on a kidfree evening, suited up,finedining,bottle of wining....i might go for it.

But with the iron man teeshirt after going to see the avengers or somethng....yeah...not my Gomez.

 

[LordMhoram]

I should think...

Assuming the situation is such that the expression of a sexual proposition by the man would be considered appropriate, even if rejected, then I must say that any words spoken in sincerity and with respect would be 'right'.

Oh, wait... that's my generation I'm thinking of.

When I stop and think of hearing young men refer to young women as bitches and ho's these days, I wonder at the lack of respect. When I hear young women refer to themselves and their friends that way...

Kinda sad, really.

 

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[NaturistLouise]

Making love is for slow sensual sex with someone you know well. I'd like to
fuck you is hot when hubby says it but I hate it as a pickup line or a first PM - shows lack of respect. I'd vote for a casual sex pickup line such as I'd like to have sex with you.

 

[amofiga]

Making love is for slow sensual sex with someone you know well. I'd like to
fuck you is hot when hubby says it but I hate it as a pickup line or a first PM - shows lack of respect. I'd vote for a casual sex pickup line such as I'd like to have sex with you.

and those "nude hugs" are always appreciated.

 

[Loverskitten]

"I fucked her because I wanted her, to make this girl all mine. I fucked her as my lover, although we'd only met, I fucked her in the passion only lovers don't regret....

...I fucked her cause I needed her and her, she needed me. I made love to this woman right next to the sea."

Nothing wrong with mixing it up

 

[CNYCarol]

...a man says, " I want to make love to you."?

... Is there a difference between how you fuck someone and how you would 'make love' to them?
Opinions ladies, pls!!!!

Making Love involves my entire Body, Mind and Heart.

Fucking makes me think of "Put in, take out, repeat if necessary".