LDR relationship opinions

[SubKekiLee]

No my PYL is married to another woman.. not another play partner... He is Poly and yes I am processing for a divorce and so I have no one but my PYL... and he has me and his Wife ( currently) and I am thinking/investigating wether I am truly poly I belive I am, after alot of studying on it..

Wait - could you clarify - I'm kind of lost.

So your PYL has you and another female play partner. You have him and you had your husband, but now you're divorced and the husband is out of the picture? Is that right?

To answer your original post...

It's all communication and negotiation. Certain things do "bother" Mister Man, but ultimately he can live with it. Other things he can't live with. And same for the things he might contemplate. We constantly talk about what we're okay with and what we're not okay with, and what will probably change in the future if we got married, had kids, etc.

It would not be okay with me if Mister Man wanted to fuck someone else, but couldn't accept my wanting to do the same. But that's me. Very generally speaking, women and men tend to feel differently about their partners sexual desires and activities with other people. Women tend to care about the emotional connection - did she mean something? would he replace me? Whereas men want to know what touched their woman (in a territorial sort of way). That bit rings true for me and Mister Man.

I feel like, you want to go bang some 20 year old hottie? Go for it. Because I know she's not me. On the other hand, I could do all sorts of things with another man or woman, but if one of them wants to fuck me, or top me, he goes a little nutty. He fully admits it's a little nuts, and basically goes back to some sort of childhood desire to yell, HANDS OFF MY STUFF! Bwah ha.

 

[SubKekiLee]

I will comment about my scenario I was presenting.. was a FWB or a non emotional connection.... Like a One night stand type of sex... Is how I was trying to get people to see it.. Not neccessarily a poly relationship or playpartners you both may want/have...

 

[the captians wench]

Mom and I were talking about this and we came to the concultion that my excess testosterone controls my view of sex. I have a hormonal imballance, my body produces more testosterone than it should and less projesterone. Whether that really has basis here or not is pretty errelivant. I just think sex doesn't have to be more than sex. It can be, it can be this wonderful loving deep emotional connection, or it can be hot meaningless wild monkey sex.

 

[intothewoods]

No my PYL is married to another woman.. not another play partner... He is Poly and yes I am processing for a divorce and so I have no one but my PYL... and he has me and his Wife ( currently) and I am thinking/investigating wether I am truly poly I belive I am, after alot of studying on it..

Ohh, that's right. Thanks for clarifying!

Mom and I were talking about this and we came to the concultion that my excess testosterone controls my view of sex. I have a hormonal imballance, my body produces more testosterone than it should and less projesterone. Whether that really has basis here or not is pretty errelivant. I just think sex doesn't have to be more than sex. It can be, it can be this wonderful loving deep emotional connection, or it can be hot meaningless wild monkey sex.

Do you really have excess testosterone? I would think that would definitely make you have a higher sex drive! As to the monkeys, geez wench, draw the line somewhere, will ya? Teasing, of course.

 

[SubKekiLee]

Ohh, that's right. Thanks for clarifying!



Do you really have excess testosterone? I would think that would definitely make you have a higher sex drive! As to the monkeys, geez wench, draw the line somewhere, will ya? Teasing, of course.

Your more than welcome. ;0) Glad I could help..

Wenchie.. I am with ITW stay away from the monkeys. hahahahah

 

[the captians wench]

Ohh, that's right. Thanks for clarifying!



Do you really have excess testosterone? I would think that would definitely make you have a higher sex drive! As to the monkeys, geez wench, draw the line somewhere, will ya? Teasing, of course.

Yes I do. And I have a very high sex drive, a friend of mine would tease me about the poor man who's with me when I finally hit my prime!

Your more than welcome. ;0) Glad I could help..

Wenchie.. I am with ITW stay away from the monkeys. hahahahah

as to monkeys....