Leahaven

[twister947]

I second couples therapy. If you are truly in charge, take charge.

 

[Boat1]

I have thought of therapy, but my husband would never agree to that. He has trouble discussing this stuff with me, so I know he would never discuss it with a stranger. And if his parents found out, they would blame it on me and it would make the whole situation worse. My parents would not like it either, but I don't feel the need to please them anymore. Thank God we moved away.

We live in the southeast US

IMHO, you and your husband are already getting the "therapy" you need (for a starting point, at least) by experimenting together, in house, taking control of your own situation/circumstances.
My unsolicited two cents worth... just strive to keep the lines of communication open and growing deeper.

Useless trivia fact: at one time that I studied it, psychiatrists/therapists were the leading profession ...
...in suicide rates.
Not the statistical "profile" I'd want advising me or my loved ones.

 

[LeaHaven]

I second couples therapy. If you are truly in charge, take charge.

I like that last sentence. I will remember that. But there would be no point in me making him go to couples' therapy. He would not put in an earnest effort.

 

[LeaHaven]

IMHO, you and your husband are already getting the "therapy" you need (for a starting point, at least) by experimenting together, in house, taking control of your own situation/circumstances.
My unsolicited two cents worth... just strive to keep the lines of communication open and growing deeper.

Useless trivia fact: at one time that I studied it, psychiatrists/therapists were the leading profession ...
...in suicide rates.
Not the statistical "profile" I'd want advising me or my loved ones.

I agree, in that, for now, we have a direction and things are kinda working. But I would think that a therapist may know how to uncover our "issues," don't you think?

 

[Boat1]

I agree, in that, for now, we have a direction and things are kinda working. But I would think that a therapist may know how to uncover our "issues," don't you think?

Possibly... IF you can find a good one...
I worked for a man at an automotive transmission overhaul shop.
He was married to a psychiatrist and when people met them at parties/events, the vast majority would think he was the psychiatrist, not a "gearhead grease monkey." LOL
He could "read people" tenfold better than she could.

Edit: Granted, I wear my feelings "on my sleeve" as they say, so I'm COMPLETELY OPEN with my Wife/Domme and She is COMPLETELY and unequivocally free to be the same with me. With NO repercussions!
It's BY FAR, the most liberating thing either of us have experienced in a relationship, which allows it to grow deeper every day.
I truly hope you and yours can find that together!!!