liking someone after it's been too late

[anonymous84]

Hi, and thanks to everyone who responded to my last post. I found out the girl I really like used to like me, but I didn't do anything. I didn't act, I was scared of rejection. Now, she doesn't like me, but wants to be best friends. Do you think it's possible that she'll like me again, or have I ruined it forever?

All I want is to be loved, is that so wrong?

 

[Minx of Mayhem]

Without knowing all the details, I for one think you still may have a chance. Obviously you made a mistake in failing to take the bait the first time around, but have you told her so? Since she still wants to be freinds, and hasn't told you to go to hell, she must have some feelings for you. The fact that she still cares is a major plus in your ring.

All I can say is that the best thing you can do right now is to be her friend. Yeah, I know it's tough, but if thats what she wants right now, you have to honor it.

 

[biggieds]

I've been there...here's what I recommend.

My girlfriend and I were in a similar position back in high school. I REALLY liked her, but didn't know me....

...so we stayed friends

until...something clicked, and then we fell in love



Well, truth be told, in order to get your relashionship to *click* you have to charm her. You have to seduce her, and you have to make her WANT YOU.



It's not over by a long shot...just DO NOT pressure her about your relashionship. Don't keep asking her out.


With my girl I had to be her friend...

but when I was being her friend I always showed her a damn great time, and I always revealed something new about myself (or flirted with her) until...

I asked her out a 3rd time!!! And she said "Yes." Heh, then I tried to kiss her in the school parking lot, and she turned away...OUCH!


ANECDOTE TO DEMONSTRATE THE BEST TIMES DESPITE...

Two months later we ran away from home to catch a concert in L.A. and we met the Blue Oyster Cult... she said she loved me, and we still tell each other that...its almost been a year.

Just goes to show ya how good things can get. Stick to your guns cowboy! It's going to be great.

 

[ckerwd1]

Any suggestions??

I'm in kinda the same situation as you but i think its more complex andmay definitely be completely wrong. I've had on and off feelings about a friends girlfriend for a while but those feelings have been getting stronger. The problem with this is that she loves my friend but the friend is either using her and completely unappreciative of who she is and what she offers him. I'm normally the shoulder she cries on almost as long as they have been together but I feel that I must keep my emotions about her a secret.

 

[je404ucd]

I made the same mistake a few months back. Actually I made it twice (maybe).

The first a girl did pretty much all the work... and I panicked. (mostly because I am not the exhibitionist she seemed to be).

The second, a girl I seriously liked slept over (this was about a week and a half after the scene above... where she was one of the people in the room when I was being groped and rubbed up on). Now there was no sex. Apparently she was using me to find out if she was over her ex. She wasn't. And that is why you never fool around with someone living in the same building as you.

Now I haven't yet talked to the woman from scenerio 1, so I have no direct experience based advice. But I imagine you should NOT approach her just because she liked you and perhaps she will like you again. Just put yourself in her place.

It isn't a fun position to be in.