losing virginity/escort service

[bigballer34]

hey everyone
I'm an 18 year old guy wanting to get the first time out of the way. Masturbation just isnt doing it anymore for me, and i really want something else.

I am located in Minnesota, and i was wondering what a reputable escort service would be here. I want something not too expensive, but safe and discreet. If there are any members of Lit on here who have used such a service, and i would like to know their experiences with it.

does anyone have any advice they would like to give about searching for a good service, things to look for, and certain things to do?

let me know
thanks

 

[The Gimp]

Rather than looking for a quality escort service you'd be better off putting that effort into finding a way to get laid for free. With an escort service the odds are very good that you'll get ripped off or you'll get busted for soliciting a prostitute. I'd suggest that you browse either myspace or a dating site like match.com for females your age and in your area. I didn't lose my virginity till I was 22, and that was to a girl that I met in a chatroom. I'm lacking in social skills to the point where I am completely unable to pick up a female in person, but I've gotten to be so good at online dating that on numerous occasions women have responded to my ad looking for a date. Sometimes I strike out and sometimes I get laid, but that's how the game is played.

 

[Reba67]

You're probably tired of hearing something like this, but you're ONLY 18. It's certainly not the end of the world that you're a virgin.

 

[Trxjw]

I agree with avoiding the escort service deal. It might just be me, but I don't think your virginity should be something you'd like to "get out of the way."

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 19 and in my first semester of college. To be honest, I had masturbated so much during high school that I didn't even encounter that awkward premature ejaculation situation. Sex was just as I had pictured it. The hardest part was getting it in at first, but after that it was pretty much what you'd expect. Slide it in and out to get her comfortable and then pay attention to her reactions. No two girls are the same when it comes to sex, so If she's moaning or clawing at your arms or back, thats a great sign. If she looks at you like "what the hell? are you an idiot?", just ask her how she likes it. I've never been with a girl that has been offended or turned off by the fact I was interested in what she wanted me to do to her. In fact, they were pretty happy with the idea of me doing what they enjoyed.

You don't have to go into it thinking that the girl will be expecting you to perform like a porn star.

Honestly, just keep an open mind about dating and girls you encounter. I don't know what your plans are as far as college is concerned, but I can assure you that you will find a girl worth losing your virginity to at some point. It's just a matter of putting yourself out there and making a connection with someone. I don't know anything about your personality or your hobbies or anything, so I don't want to try and lecture you about meeting girls, but just don't give up hope yet.

 

[littlebitshe]

I don't understand why you are in such a hurry, but that is your perogitive. I was also 22 when i lost mine (by choice). I had many offers before then, but didn't bite.

There are several other ways to get laid other than an escort service. Don't go that route! Go match.com, go to a bar/club, adultfriendfinder.com, anything but an escort service.

 

[tryptamine]

Bite the bullet and enter the arena mate. Go and meet girls, improve your social skills...have all those important, maturing, socialising experiences that people your age are supposed to have in the process of becoming well adjusted adults.

Having sex with a prostitute your first time will teach you nothing. You still won't have the social skills or experience to get laid in any other context, and the fact that you've had sex once isn't going to make you any better in bed.

 

[The Gimp]

To be honest, I had masturbated so much during high school that I didn't even encounter that awkward premature ejaculation situation. Sex was just as I had pictured it. The hardest part was getting it in at first, but after that it was pretty much what you'd expect.

I had the exact same experience, but I hadn't given it any thought till I read your post. I was on top of her attempting to get started but she told me to slow down because I was poking at the wrong hole I corrected my aim and we literally had sex for 60 minutes. She just kind of laid there and I kept pounding away, In the end she asked me if I was done and I said no. She told me that she was getting sore, so I stopped.
Honestly I was terrified that she would get pregnant so I was really trying to not cum. The following morning she prompted me for round two and I came after about ten minutes. I assume that she didn't get pregnant because that's what she told me on the phone, but there is a snowball's chance in hell that I have a nine year old interracial child somewhere in Canada.

That's a long drawn out story but the point is don't give up. If I could get laid back then then you will too.

 

[SweetErika]

hey everyone
I'm an 18 year old guy wanting to get the first time out of the way. Masturbation just isnt doing it anymore for me, and i really want something else.

I am located in Minnesota, and i was wondering what a reputable escort service would be here. I want something not too expensive, but safe and discreet. If there are any members of Lit on here who have used such a service, and i would like to know their experiences with it.

does anyone have any advice they would like to give about searching for a good service, things to look for, and certain things to do?

let me know
thanks

I'm fairly certain reputable, reasonably priced, safe, discreet, hookers in Minnesota who will give you a great experience only exist in your head.

Engaging in sexual activities with someone who's had a lot of partners is always risky health-wise, even when condoms are used. It'd be a shame to get HSV or HPV from skin to skin contact or oral your first time, then have to live with that for the rest of your life because you were getting bored with your hand. The same goes for getting arrested.

There are good matches out there for everyone (hell, even serial killers often have a bevy of women who want to fuck and/or marry them!). At 18, you probably just haven't had much time to find those women who are a good match for you. So, why not put your time and energy into developing yourself and activities that are likely to help you find them, instead of hiring someone who's only interested in your cash?

There are MANY ways you can make masturbation different and more exciting - in fact, there are whole websites devoted to doing just that. Toys and lubes can be a blast and feel very close to the real thing (or, in some cases, different, but better).

So, I'd suggest waiting until you find someone you care about on at least some level, and investing in toys, activities that you'll enjoy and are likely to help you meet women you have things in common with, and making yourself an attractive candidate to said women.

There are tons of threads on how to meet and talk to women around here, if you could use some help in that area.

 

[Jaydoes]

a little more blunt....

I wanted to be a little bit more blunt for the young man. I've never used an escort service either but I've known people who have and when I was around your age, I considered it and explored the options.....so I want to tell you what's going to happen...
First of all, if you want a girl who's considerate of your situation and who might actually be interested in teaching you the ropes, so to speak, cheap is not the way to go. A classy escort is probably going to cost you around 250.00 bucks an hour.
You can find an escort running a special for around 100 or 125 bucks an hour but if you do, she'll probably scare you out of having sex for another 18 years. Those girls are usually loud and obnoxious, always in a hurry and they'll get pissed if you sweat on them.
Do yourself a favor and hit the social scene. There's lots of dating site's, clubs, social events, etc. where you can meet girls and contrary to the belief of most 18 year olds, you don't have to have a great body or be a confident studly guy to get girls...the best thing you can do is just be yourself, let them see the real you and you'll find some girl who appreciates whatever it is you have to offer.
I've never been a mister personality myself. I've always been kind of quiet and you would never see me being the one who would walk up to a girl and say hey, baby...wanna have a good time? but i've been relatively lucky in my life because I was a nice, honest guy who let girls see who I really was and I recommend thats what you do.
The best thing is to go for whatever it is you're interested in and use that as a way to meet girls. It doesn't matter if you like rock climbing or stamp collecting, if you find classes or groups or clubs that share your personal interests you will eventually come across some girl who thinks you are the coolest guy ever because you know a lot about something she's interested in.
And, my final piece of advice....don't ignore the nice girls and concentrate on the girls that you think will be an easy score. Believe me, nice girls DO like sex just as much as everyone else.

Good luck!

 

[emap]

Please excuse me if I am incorrect in my assumption.

Anyway, if you want to get laid go to a club or bar, preferably a club and talk to women or just be there either facing away from the bar or dancing. There is no magical line, there is no lagical outfit or cologne, you simply have to keep your head up and smile, smirks are fine to.

When a woman comes up to you, look her in the eyes say Hi, complement her hair and answer her questions. Extra points if you ask her questions as well. This will lead to one of three things, sometimes two but generally only one happens in the club. Either you end up with her number, she asks you to go someplace quieter or she walks away.

Her number means she likes you and wishes to try and date you, well sometimes get the answers for her upcoming big test in the same school your in. You will figure out which it is in the conversation.

A quieter place means one of two things, she really likes you and wants to get to know you better, or she wants your body and wants to get you alone and naked with her.

She walks away really doesn't need to be explained I hope.

Now it is very important you keep your head high and a smile or smirk at least on your face to show you are open to conversation. A frown generally means you hate being there and want to get away ASAP so most women will not approach you.

The head up shows you are confident, even if you aren't, I assume your not otherwise you would not be asking about an escort service. Whether you are confident or not matters little, just keep your head up and women will come, or be open to you going to them.

We do not wait for that one magical pick up line that declares there before us is our husband. We want men to be interested in our minds unless all we want is a hard cock. If she is dressed like a slut chances are incredibly good she wants a boning. If she is dressed like grandma she is on a girls man bashing night out and don't talk to her. If she is dressed nice and alone or sitting in a booth with friends all facing outward, you can talk to her because they are man hunting, just being safe about it.

Now what do you say to her? Well for starters, Hi, really works quite well. After that, if she isn't talking to you about something pay her a complement, not hwo hot and fuckable she is, unless she is dressed like a slut. Say she has nice eyes, lovely hair, how much you love her sweater or outfit just something not sexual.

As near as I can tell, most of us prefer to leave the hot ass, great tits comments for second and later date complements.

Now grasshopper that is all the schooling I am going to give you, now get out there and find a nice sweet girl, or a total slut depending on which you prefer.

 

[NightL]

My first time... clumsy as hell... and in hindsight I would not have wished it any other way. Life and learning... and if your first time with a meaningful partner is not all about porn movie manouvers... well it only means you have lots of reasons to practise as often as you can.

You have to realise a fuck with a professional will not provide you with any skills needed to have a meaningful relationship, where hopefully you will be able to bonk each other as often as you can find space, intimacy and privacy.

I would be trying to strive for something higher, finding a partner where there is mutual love and excitement for each other. Someone who will become your best friend. Someone who you can proudly proclaim is your lover and your best friend.

A fuck with someone you have no feeling for is just masturbating yourself on someone else's body... but making love with someone you are head over heals in love with is surpreme... Making love with someone is also inclusive of the time spent together before sex and after sex... do yourself a favour... learn how to cook... When asking a young woman out on a date, plan the evening... prepare the evening... a dinner in a restaurant will pale in comparison to you preparing a meal and an atmosphere... then go and dance your brains out at a club... and if the timing is right have a place to go to where there is privacy, comfort and warmth.

You have to realise something... as much as you may be nervous about approaching a young woman there are as many young women who are nervous about approaching a young man. Be polite, be genuine, be honest, BE INTERESTED in who they are... if you stop staring at her breasts then you are far more likely to actually see them for real.

If you really want to learn how to connect with a woman, read every single post SweetErika has written... OK at 6,737 posts you may need to go out occasionally and put a few things in practice... but she really does offer the most sound (and safe) advice you will ever find... you are SO lucky at eighteen to have such a resource as SweetErika's advice and writings. Haha... and your future partners will be also very fortunate if you pay attention to her writings...

A thumbs up to emap as well...

 

[Darla_Darling]

hey everyone
I'm an 18 year old guy wanting to get the first time out of the way. Masturbation just isnt doing it anymore for me, and i really want something else.

I am located in Minnesota, and i was wondering what a reputable escort service would be here. I want something not too expensive, but safe and discreet. If there are any members of Lit on here who have used such a service, and i would like to know their experiences with it.

does anyone have any advice they would like to give about searching for a good service, things to look for, and certain things to do?

let me know
thanks

Hi Bigballer,

Most of the people here seem to be just telling you to go out and magically get laid. I don't think that's very helpful.

I don't think choosing to have your first time with a prostitute is a bad idea. The important thing is to be careful, and to pick a good place with a good reputation. It's going to be expensive, but if you find a nice brothel, I think you'll be okay.

Something you should take into consideration:

Herpes and genital warts are very common diseases spread via skin to skin contact, and you are not protected from getting those STDs from wearing a condom. Once you have herpes or the warts virus, you will have it for life. That's probably the biggest drawback to having sex with a sex worker. The chances of them carrying the genital warts virus are almost 100%, and the chance of them carrying herpes as well is extremely high. Of course, hopefully, they will not be contagious at the time that you have sex with them, but the risk is there. Bear that in mind.

Look for escorts services ads in the back of local papers, or online. There are bound to be brothels somewhere nearby. If you live in a small town you might have to travel to the nearest city. Is there anyone you can talk to about this, who might know? Shop around. Don't be ashamed, and don't go with the first place that you call. Be smart, and do your best not to get ripped off.

I can understand why you would want your first time to be with a prostitute. You don't have to worry about all that emotional crap that people always blather on about when it comes to losing one's virginity. Also, there is such a pressure for men to perform sexually, that the first time can be extremely daunting. Sleeping with someone who is providing a service for you with no expectations other than to get paid sounds very liberating!

Good luck. I hope things go well for you.

 

[simplegirl]

I'll put in my 2 cents, for what it's worth. Too many people today see virginity as a burden or embarrassment. It's not. It's to be treasured. You wouldn't believe how many people I've met and talked to who said they wished they would have waited for that special someone, instead of "getting rid of it" (and I'm talking about men saying this, not just ladies). It's a treasure and a gift you give someone.

It's your body and your decision, but make sure it's what YOU want deep down and not what you think society expects out of an 18 year old. Don't forget that most of your buddies who brag about sex, probably have never had it either. They just don't want to admit it.

Can you imagine later on, being with the love of your life, talking about your first times and you say "oh, I went to a prostitute"....

 

[Homburg]

Can you imagine later on, being with the love of your life, talking about your first times and you say "oh, I went to a prostitute"....

Best line in the whole thread.

You will remember your first time for the rest of your life (assuming you aren't piss drunk at the time). Try to make sur eit isn't amemory that you'll cringe thinking of. Your first time is stressful enough as is.

 

[littlebitshe]

Can you imagine later on, being with the love of your life, talking about your first times and you say "oh, I went to a prostitute"....

GREAT point! How will you be able to look into her/his eyes and tell them this? I guarantee it will come up!

Herpes and genital warts are very common diseases spread via skin to skin contact, and you are not protected from getting those STDs from wearing a condom. Once you have herpes or the warts virus, you will have it for life. That's probably the biggest drawback to having sex with a sex worker. The chances of them carrying the genital warts virus are almost 100%, and the chance of them carrying herpes as well is extremely high. Of course, hopefully, they will not be contagious at the time that you have sex with them, but the risk is there. Bear that in mind.

I'm not really convinced that this is the best option... Herpes, Genital Warts, Shelling out $200 plus, and risking arrest doesn't sound too Liberating to me!

I'm sure you will want more sex after losing your virginity. Good luck in getting it if you catch Herpes or Genital Warts from the prostitute. While it is possible to catch this from anyone... the chances are much higher when sleeping with a prostitute.

Put in the time and effort of getting to know someone for your first time. You won't regret it!

 

[Mansa Musa]

I'll put in my 2 cents, for what it's worth. Too many people today see virginity as a burden or embarrassment. It's not. It's to be treasured. You wouldn't believe how many people I've met and talked to who said they wished they would have waited for that special someone, instead of "getting rid of it" (and I'm talking about men saying this, not just ladies). It's a treasure and a gift you give someone.

It's your body and your decision, but make sure it's what YOU want deep down and not what you think society expects out of an 18 year old. Don't forget that most of your buddies who brag about sex, probably have never had it either. They just don't want to admit it.

Can you imagine later on, being with the love of your life, talking about your first times and you say "oh, I went to a prostitute"....

I´ve already said my piece on the OP´s original GB thread, but I have to make one thing clear.

Love is love, but visiting a prostitute (or "professional") for your first time is a universal tradition. Whether you´re British or Japanese, Nigerian or Ecuadorian, there are way too many "well-wishing fathers" who are willing to expose their sons to various diseases in an effort to de-virginize them. If there was one benefit to being raised without a father, it was the fact that my father would have been one of those guys.

 

[tryptamine]

Hi Bigballer,

Most of the people here seem to be just telling you to go out and magically get laid. I don't think that's very helpful.

I don't think that's what we're saying...

I think we're recommending that he go and work on his social skills and have some real sex with someone who's actually going to enjoy it. It isn't healthy for an 18 year old to have their first formative experience of sex with a prostitute. It won't teach him anything. He won't be any better in bed and he still won't have the social skills required to engage with a woman to the extent required to have sex out in the real social world.

 

[PertPerth]

It seems to me that most people giving advice are mostly concerned about you wanting to "get your first time out of the way" rather than you actually visiting a prostitute. Do think about it carefully before you make the decision and actually go!
I have no problem with it. I know someone (who is very close to me) who lost his virginity to a prostitute. I only found out by accident. I can honestly say that my opinion of him hasn't changed.
I can see the advantages of going to a prostitute rather than picking a girl up at a bar or the internet. There is no "do I have to call her" stress and you know that she's going to know what to do and not be shy!
Do what works for you, but don't rush just to get it out of the way.

Oh and as far as I'm concerned, condoms are a must. STDs are a factor if you have sex with anyone, not just a prostitute.

 

[siddey1]

isn't there any ladies in the MN area here on lit that can help this young man out!!!!