Masculine cocksucker problems...

[Burstplayer]

I find myself in a very narrow band. Masculine cocksucker, but not submissive or sissy AT ALL. Not into guys AT ALL, just the acts. I find myself gravitating to Gloryholes to scratch that itch or Gay tops who don't need reciprocation. BI guys like myself are almost never a match. Most are like me, and though I'll recip on occassion, they tend not to.

 

[cuckoldbill]

A number of years I had an arrangement with a guy. I would dress in stockings suspenders, panties and a camisole.
When he arrived he would inspect me than we would kiss and grope. He would push my head down until I was on my knees. I would unzip and ease his cock out. Give him a bj. When he came would shoot it over my face. Order me to lick his cock clean. He would zip up and fuck off.
I loved it. Made me feel like the complete slut.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

A number of years I had an arrangement with a guy. I would dress in stockings suspenders, panties and a camisole.
When he arrived he would inspect me than we would kiss and grope. He would push my head down until I was on my knees. I would unzip and ease his cock out. Give him a bj. When he came would shoot it over my face. Order me to lick his cock clean. He would zip up and fuck off.
I loved it. Made me feel like the complete slut.

Mmmm I love this. I travel constantly and I am always willing to host in my room. I'll dress up and let any man who wants me use me as their cum dump. Just walk in, and do whatever, then leave.

 

[sonicor]

I'm in the same boat. So many guys want a sissy, but I'm not that guy.

This here.

I think there is an inherent fear that we will be judged one way or another, in ways that the guy may not be ready to face yet?

I don't want to put words in anyone's mouth so I'll just speak for myself. In a number of occasions I got chances to fuck a woman while her husband watched. Inevitably, be it after the second or tenth time, the husband would work up the courage, or be encouraged to lick me clean or finish me off, and having these very male looking middle aged men between my legs, in very close proximity to my ass was disconcerting. Did I enjoy it? Yes. Was I able to get lost in the moment? Absolutely not. My first rim job came from one of these sessions and while having a tongue probing my ass was an out of body experience I'd never forget, but so was the anticipation that he may at any second scoot up on the bed and try to fuck me.

So maybe the tearing down that the OP mentions is related to this, a need to tear down the masculine out of OP to feel safe to enjoy it? And I wager that the one person he did have a good experience with was probably someone more self-assured and comfortable with his sexuality to not feel threatened by a masculine guy enjoying cock.

Food for thought?

 

[Rbradford]

I'm a "straight" married guy that's always wanted to suck a guy off or explore my submissive side with, even if thats online. I've had trouble finding either of the two...a Dominant on-line or a real hook-up. Anyone have advice for how to let a guy know but not being so risky that I approach the wrong person?

 

[Uncut1969]

Would love to be submitted to a dominant couple or dominant husband and be submissive with wife!

 

[jchtlit]

I'm a "straight" married guy that's always wanted to suck a guy off or explore my submissive side with, even if thats online. I've had trouble finding either of the two...a Dominant on-line or a real hook-up. Anyone have advice for how to let a guy know but not being so risky that I approach the wrong person?

I've checked a number of sites and found them to be a mixed bag of information, misinformation, and risky people.
There are a number of people on this site and in the various forums that I have found to be helpful, empathetic, and have experienced what you are going through.

Take the time to chat and get the person better to build your and their comfort zones. Eventually have an opportunity to meet and get to know each other face to face before you go any further.

That works for me.

 

[Britva415]

I've had trouble finding either of the two...a Dominant on-line or a real hook-up. Anyone have advice for how to let a guy know but not being so risky that I approach the wrong person?

What have you tried?

How do you imagine "approaching the wrong person" going wrong?

Not sure whether by "a Dominant online" you mean someone you can pay, and are worried about getting ripped off or something.

Real hook-ups are super easy.

 

[Sunnyade]

When I'm sucking cock I tend to let the guy do what he wants. If he wants to make me his "bitch" and roughly fuck my mouth, I'm fine with that. If he wants a long passionate blow job, I'll willingly supply. I have a very masculine friend who loves to suck cock. I love having him use my cock for his pleasure. I just lie back and enjoy the show. Sometimes we frot until he cums on my cock before he goes down on me.

 

[Wanking_Frank]

What was described in the original post is pretty disgusting behavior if that was not agreed to ahead of time. Why would anyone assume by default that it was ok.

I'd have gotten the hell out of there and report him on whatever app you found him on.

 

[Easybi]

That's my idea of heaven what was described haha but yeah sometimes you don't want to be just used, you want yo show how good you can be

 

[CEOescape]

As far as humiliating a man goes, calling him my bitch and face fucking him, i would never do that or let it be done to me. I love to just lie back and receive some cock worship. I love to suck, too, and I prefer reciprocation, but giving and receiving cock worship is unbelievably hot. I think you should be on the lookout for men looking for some cock worship.

the conversation you are having ,makes my cock hard and my mind worship your cock.

 

[SweetlySpicey]

I prefer the idea of masculine men sucking cock, the sissy boys do nothing for me. And you should absolutely be able to do it how you want, the idea is for you to enjoy it too! It’s gotta be a dominance thing for those guys, idk.

 

[cubbyfire04]

I prefer the idea of masculine men sucking cock, the sissy boys do nothing for me. And you should absolutely be able to do it how you want, the idea is for you to enjoy it too! It’s gotta be a dominance thing for those guys, idk.

Everyone has their flavor I guess. I've had a few sissy guys suck my cock and it wasn't my thing (was also disappointed they wouldn't let me suck theirs lol)...

But holy shit, when a burly masculine guy knows how to suck cock and channels all that manly energy into it... He will suck the soul out of your body. I'm pretty sure I levitated and went blind the last time a guy like that made me cum. And the deep grunts he made when he kissed me to share it after...

 

[Annabelle1990]

I only ever meet up with men to suck their cocks, and I'm often told it's really strange that an extremely masculine guy doesn't want any reciprocation. I don't see why this should be so strange.

The other thing... and my real complaint... almost all the guys I've met really get off on the idea of degrading me and making me submit... specifically because I'm masculine! I haven't sucked cock in months, because... when I meet men this is usually the kind of thing I get...

The last time, the guy told me I had to sit on my hands the whole time, pinned up against a wall, and then held my head and hate-fucked my throat hard while telling me how good it felt to make me his bitch. The only things he wanted to hear were me begging him to slam my throat or how desperate I was to for his cum... and then had me beg him to face fuck me again with his cum all over my face...

This is kind of my usual experience... I'm sucking cock while a man calls me his slut or whatever, and he forced control over the whole thing... Is this just how this goes for masculine guys who don't want reciprocation?

My problem isn't that I mind being used like this, if I did I wouldn't keep doing it! I enjoy feeling slutty and if I'm in the mood I love having a man act powerfully and use me, face fucking me and making me feel like I am a toy for his pleasure... that whole scenario is a huge turn on, but there are times... a lot of times, really... that I really want to suck cock but don't even look to meet someone because I want to slowly, sensually taste and tease a nice cock...

I'd suck cock A LOT more if I could find men that want me to really enjoy sucking their cock and would just lean back and let me act like the slut they love to tell me I am!!

One time... just once, I hooked up with a guy who wanted to relax and let me make out with his cock... it was so sexy and slutty and... I talked dirty and moaned and... it was the sloppiest and wettest blowjob I can imagine, and... I've never had such an amazing, intense sexual experience!!

It's also the only time I've ever even thought of giving in and putting the possibility of more than a blowjob out there. My ass is always strictly off limits and I made it clear to this guy beforehand when he asked (and he was fine with that), but... I got so turned on and felt so sexy and slutty devouring his dick that I asked if he still wanted my ass. When he said yes, I begged him to fuck me... he started fingering me and my moaning with him in my mouth pushed him over, so it didn't happen, but... that's how amazing being able to really enjoy sucking cock was!! It was so good, so sexy, so slutty... for the only time, I wasn't just willing to let a man fuck my ass for the first time, but I was literally desperate for it and begging him to fuck me bare and breed me!!! I felt so sexy and slutty I wanted him to fuck me like a real slut!!!

Why does being masculine mean I'm not allowed to moan and tease and be sexy while I swallow??? I want so, so badly to have another experience that sexy!! Why can't I find men who want me to really treat their cocks right??

My Joe would like you.

 

[Dreamer110]

My Joe would like you.

Is that how your husband feels?

 

[Annabelle1990]

Is that how your husband feels?

Mark is my husband. Joe is our boyfriend. But Joe is the adventurous one.

 

[Dreamer110]

Mark is my husband. Joe is our boyfriend. But Joe is the adventurous one.

I guess im asking if Mark is the bottom in their relationship?

 

[Annabelle1990]

Yes. Sometimes he takes the top but almost always bottom. And I like it that way.

 

[Dreamer110]

Yes. Sometimes he takes the top but almost always bottom. And I like it that way.

Nice. You liking that is really hot.

 

[Annabelle1990]

I'd actually I think be pretty upset if I saw Mark or Joe out of position with someone else. I'm OK seeing Mark on top with Joe, but I don't want Mark on top with anyone else, and I would NOT like to see anyone but my husband fucking Joe.

 

[Dreamer110]

I'd actually I think be pretty upset if I saw Mark or Joe out of position with someone else. I'm OK seeing Mark on top with Joe, but I don't want Mark on top with anyone else, and I would NOT like to see anyone but my husband fucking Joe.

I think I'm in love with you. Lol

 

[Annabelle1990]

That turns me on LOL!

 

[desire30]

My husband is showing more and more desire to try a bisexual experiance. I am not sure how to show him I am ok with it and help him find his way.

 

[Uncut1969]

My husband is showing more and more desire to try a bisexual experiance. I am not sure how to show him I am ok with it and help him find his way.

A bi curious husband dream cum true