Masturbation and clit stimulation

[Guest]

I've learned through masturbation, that I really need clit stimulation to have great orgasms. Unfortunately, I often times end up being really frustrated when I masturbate because just as I'm building to a climax or right when I start cumming, I can't maintain contact with the toy that is stimulating me there.

Sometimes I just "back off" of it (wish I was tied down so I couldn't do that!), sometimes the spasms or jerking during my orgasm breaks the contact, or things might just be too slippery to stay in place!

When everything goes "just right" the results are fantastic and I want that every time, or at least close to it. I've thought about purchasing something like the Butterfly, but wasn't sure how well it works. I still want to be able to penetrate simultaneously. Will that let you do that?

Would appreciate any feed back or suggestions from any gals that have the same issue and have been successful in finding an answer. My fingers just don't seem to do the trick, so that's not really an option.

I really love a great orgasm. There's nothing in the world like it, is there?

 

[intelligencenazi]

I've learned through masturbation, that I really need clit stimulation to have great orgasms. Unfortunately, I often times end up being really frustrated when I masturbate because just as I'm building to a climax or right when I start cumming, I can't maintain contact with the toy that is stimulating me there.

Sometimes I just "back off" of it (wish I was tied down so I couldn't do that!), sometimes the spasms or jerking during my orgasm breaks the contact, or things might just be too slippery to stay in place!

When everything goes "just right" the results are fantastic and I want that every time, or at least close to it. I've thought about purchasing something like the Butterfly, but wasn't sure how well it works. I still want to be able to penetrate simultaneously. Will that let you do that?

Would appreciate any feed back or suggestions from any gals that have the same issue and have been successful in finding an answer. My fingers just don't seem to do the trick, so that's not really an option.

I really love a great orgasm. There's nothing in the world like it, is there?

In my experience, the butterfly works great. It's one of my favorite toys. And they also make some butterflies with a dick coming off the middle of the butterfly so you get insertion too. Although if you want simultaneous clit stimulation and insertion, a rabbit is also a good idea. I've heard that metal balls on tracks are best for lasting a long time, and I know they feel better than the plastic beads that are all bunched up at the bottom. Have fun.

 

[LindaL]

I hear you! My clit tends to seem to retract when I am rapidly approaching orgasm. I don't know why. My sister is a Gyn MD but I'm still a bit too shy to ask her! My favorite buzzer can usually still maintain some contact, but not always.

Anyway, I've trained hub to keep pursuing my clit with finger or tongue, especially when it seems to "disappear" on us. This is harder for me to do on my own, but I have found that using a toy or a finger to reach my gspot really helps improve the situation. Clit may be hard to find, but the sensation from the inside more than compensates.

I've had a couple vibrators which deliver a nice sensation to the gspot, but one of my favorites is a vibrating egg that I can position, turn on, and vary the vibes as I feel necessary.

 

[Honeysucklevine]

TRY THIS:

Take a regular vibrator like a palm size type with a round ball shape thing. Place it on a pillow and straddle it while it vibrates and you can hold yourself up by leaning over the headboard.

Why? Once your clit gets OVERSTIMULATED you can adjust your pelvis so most of the vibration is in the vaginal opening. This is nice g-spot stim.

Since you are on your knees, your legs give you the strength to change the amount of pressure and you can rock yourself with a rhythm. mmmm.

Don't know if you can picture this but it's kind of like sitting on your partners face. A NICE SLOW RIDE! Make sure you use your arms too so you can LIFT YOURSELF UP to avoid that OVERSTIM problem.

Now picture your partner down there, and it's VOLCANIC!


Oh, don't do this more than once a week or you'll get caught in a rut. The key is...... VARIATION AND RHYTHM!

AREN'T WE NICE AND NAUGHTY!?


this is what i picture my "big K" doing!

 

[duckie50]

I hear you! My clit tends to seem to retract when I am rapidly approaching orgasm. I don't know why.

Mine does, too.

I haven't used toys, but that's the point where I use my palm and stimulate the larger area, often squeezing my thighs together around my hand.

 

[gotwood49]

...sorry, I shouldn't be in here, given the company, but I saw the thread title, and couldn't NOT look!! My wife likes it when I keep my thumb on her clit while having sex with her...lightly! Her clit actually grows when she's approaching orgasm, and if I keep my thumb poised just above it, touching it lightly, and then thumb it gently as she comes, she really GOES OFF!!

btw...I got off just reading your advice & comments...Thanks!!

Woody

 

[Xectxny19X]

ugggh...I have the same issue! Not not good, gggRRRR.

 

[dreamer626]

Same here. And if hubby is doing it i usually seam to move then he looses it and it takes him a while to find it then its almost like starting over and it just turns in to a vicious cycle

 

[sinndy]

Masturbationand Clit stimulation..Why it won't work, in my opinoin

I have found in the past when I use a vibrator on my clit that I eventually become desensitized or numb from the constant vibration! It also made it impossible to have anyone go down on me cuz their tongues were never as fast as the vibe. So I finally started to use it INSIDE me, while masturbating myhand would masturbate my clit on the outside. It gives me tremendous orgasms! It hasn't failed me yet. Give it a try.

 

[miss chief]

it's such a pain sometimes!
i have very specific needs in order to cum, it must sound like a recipe for my lover
i need to have my nipples, clitoris and labia sucked (obviously not at the same time, though that would be divine!)
i need 2 fingers placed inside, just sitting there, not wobbling about, which allows my vaginal muscles to clamp down on them.
if my partner is sucking my nipples then i use a vibrator against my clitoris, if he's sucking my clitoris then i have the vibrator inside.
I've never yet had an orgasm from penetration alone, would love to, but no idea how to get the right kind of stimulation to induce one.
I also have to have my legs completely straight!
am i completely abnormal?