Meet guys if I'm shy...

[fire_breeze]

Thank you everyone.

So far things aren't going too well. I feel really bad right now because I wanted to stay here for the first weekend, and I ended up missing my sister's first parade (she's in marching band) I wish I had gone home. I don't have any friends or events to look forward to, and I wish I could have been there to see it.

just feeling a like a shitty older sister now

I'm sorry to hear that your first week isn't going as well as you have expected . Give it a few weeks and you will settle into the 'life'. You are not a 'bad' sister; these things happened, and there are other parades that you will attend.

Have you tried signing up for clubs and/or organisations that spark your interest? Or spoke to the Resident Assistants about some events planned? It may be daunting at first, but every single member went through what you did to some degree and can relate. If you show interest, and take the small initiative, the rest will often fall into place. You do have to take the first step, though, so look around.

It does get better. It really does. And when it does you'll look back and smile.

 

[CWatson]

Alternately, go to this thread over here and talk to the starter. You two might hit it off.

 

[bailadora]

Thank you everyone.

So far things aren't going too well. I feel really bad right now because I wanted to stay here for the first weekend, and I ended up missing my sister's first parade (she's in marching band) I wish I had gone home. I don't have any friends or events to look forward to, and I wish I could have been there to see it.

just feeling a like a shitty older sister now

{{hugs}}

Sounds to me like you're feeling a bit homesick. That's perfectly normal. When we're out of our comfort zone, it's in our nature to want to return to where we feel confident and safe.

Thing is, hon - getting acclimated and making new friends takes time. It's not going to happen in just a week. And to echo FB, the opportunities are not going to seek you out - you have to go looking for them. I know it's easier said than done when you're an introverted person, but the only other alternative is to stay holed up in your dorm room and be miserable. So take it step by step and see what happens. Best of luck to you.

 

[Wolf_Song]

Thank you everyone.

So far things aren't going too well. I feel really bad right now because I wanted to stay here for the first weekend, and I ended up missing my sister's first parade (she's in marching band) I wish I had gone home. I don't have any friends or events to look forward to, and I wish I could have been there to see it.

just feeling a like a shitty older sister now

You wanted to stay first weekend and you did it... goal set and done. And as you said is sisters "first" parade and your "first" weekend and you both were able to do these wonderful firsts. Is easy to get over excited by changes and feel let down now and then. Which is rough at the time, but helps us learn to take things more casual.

And you have many options like some mentioned of clubs and otherwise. Plus even online in the area you are in you can look to see if there are others of similiar interests, situation or otherwise you may find interesting. When alone is nice opportunity to tour in safe places online and offline.

And as far as friends and events go, looks like you already have a special event in some wonderful people herein caring and taking time with you. You and they are each very special and my compliments accordingly.

( hugs for those wishing them )

 

[carsonbizotica]

So I've seen a lot of good advice here, but I think a forum isn't your best bet for being the type of person you want to be. If you'd like to talk through some things sometime, my door is always open. As a person that suffers from a (sometimes) crippling social disorder, I know what it's like. I've developed a few mind tricks that work for me, and I'd be happy to share/develop some of your own with you. Either way, I wish you the best of luck, and remember: statistically, there are people that not only find you attractive, but would adore your mind, and personality, but it's likely that if you're shy, they are too. One of you will need to approach the other at some point. May as well be you.

 

[Cruel2BKind]

wow...

It's been a while since I've been doing any serious posting. I just wanted to say, that I've met people now. I have a couple of good friends, and I'm meeting more every day. I found a boy, we had sex a couple of times, and then split on good terms because he's looking for a relationship and I'm looking for sex.

I'm glad to have my virginity out of the way.

Some people view virginity as this huge event, some gigantic special gift that you're supposed to give to you're husband. I respect everyone who did this, but I never wanted that. It wasn't too painful, and I had a lot of fun. The boy in question (contrary to popular belief) was very good at pleasuring me, despite his youth.

I'm starting to enjoy college, I've been doing well on my assignments, and now I'm gonna pull a midnighter to get ready for my psycology exam tomorrow. Thank you everyone for all of your fantastic advice.

 

[badman1985]

indeed glad you just did it, so many people think it's gonna be this amazing thing but if you ask people what their best sexual experience is you rarely hear my first time as your answer. glad you are enjoying your time at college, now go and learn and have fun be young.

 

[Mated]

Your thread caught my eye, couldn't help but read it being a shy individual myself. I can understand how you feel, I dread starting at my new college in two months. I fear no one will accept me there because I look like I'm twelve years old even though I'm nearing twenty. The only way I can surpress this fear is to tell myself I have to let things happen on their own but keep open to things. No need to worry about being "attractive." Beauty is in the eye of the beholder as cliche as that may sound it is true, the most beautiful girl I've known was a girl who had scars from her face being mauled by a pit bull, her personality and her attitude are what made her beautiful. If you're ever in need of someone to talk to you're welcome to send me a message, we appear to be in the same boat.

Wish you best of luck,

Mated

 

[thirty]

Did you get some PMs from here?

 

[Cruel2BKind]

Plenty, but mostly just advice. It's nice to know that there are people who care about me, and not just pervs.