Men making an effort

[bigdavie106]

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[suckonsimon]

First off - pay a gal some attention. So many women I know who are pissed off about not being valued by men, as a person with a story and opinions that will count for something in his mind and heart.

 

[suckonsimon]

Lots of other stuff is significant for women:

A man's readiness to smile, and the warmth of it - a smile which is affirming, appreciative. Ease of eye-contact without staring but 'connecting'.

Calm confidence which is gracious rather than asserting.

Posture. It's one thing to relax, another to slouch, or move about looking bowed and beaten.

 

[MissJW]

Just make sure your outside reflects who you are and what you feel. Fakeness is the worst, even if it's wrapped up in glossy package.

I personally want my men clean, sharply dressed (not suit & tie but proper jackets, tight jeans, clean shoes etc), good posture, hair brown and not too short but most definitely not long either (over ears is a must but shoulder length is a no-no), eyes blue or green, absolutely no muscles but no overweight either, feminine build, graceful movement and so forth. Yet none of that really means anything, cos I most definitely don't go and fall for everyone who meets the criteria. That's just more or less the type I've always been attracted to - give or take a few. But the biggest similarity between all of them has been the fact that they are the way they are by nature. It's not forced or learned. The same way as they've all been literate, intelligent and very, very principled - which are the most important traits of all! Good looks are nice but without the attitude we have nothing.

So suggest you do what you can to make yourself feel better, whether it's genuine smiles or weight loss. When you've accomplished that and feel relatively good about yourself (or really good, which is even better), I'm sure you'll attract someone who is into you the way you really are.

 

[bigdavie106]

These replies are much appreciated , thank you.

 

[Swinky]

QUOTE=MissJW;78993700]Just make sure your outside reflects who you are and what you feel. Fakeness is the worst, even if it's wrapped up in glossy package.

I personally want my men clean, sharply dressed (not suit & tie but proper jackets, tight jeans, clean shoes etc), good posture, hair brown and not too short but most definitely not long either (over ears is a must but shoulder length is a no-no), eyes blue or green, absolutely no muscles but no overweight either, feminine build, graceful movement and so forth. Yet none of that really means anything, cos I most definitely don't go and fall for everyone who meets the criteria. That's just more or less the type I've always been attracted to - give or take a few. But the biggest similarity between all of them has been the fact that they are the way they are by nature. It's not forced or learned. The same way as they've all been literate, intelligent and very, very principled - which are the most important traits of all! Good looks are nice but without the attitude we have nothing.

So suggest you do what you can to make yourself feel better, whether it's genuine smiles or weight loss. When you've accomplished that and feel relatively good about yourself (or really good, which is even better), I'm sure you'll attract someone who is into you the way you really are.[/QUOTE]
Miss JW, you turn me on! Too bad I'm thousands of miles away and muscular because although I'd go down swinging, I'd go down for you!

 

[clistenovena]

Maybe I'm missing something. I can't change my looks... But my clothes, hair, etc I could experiment with. I could lose weight and improve my body.

But what else? What can guys do, or wear, to enhance their sex appeal? Grateful for some inspiration.

Be confident about yourself. Confidence is very attractive. Please note, confidence should not be confused with arrogance. Arrogance is most decidedly ugly.

A positive attitude is also a plus.

 

[makemewet69]

Clean, confidant, and honest. Have those three attributes and everything else will fall into place, in my opinion. If you're worried about your outside appearance, try growing some facial hair - sometimes this enhances a man's physical appearance in my opinion.

 

[mikendel]

Be a gentleman. Open doors, pull out chairs and say hello. I love nice guys over the pretty boys. Don't come on to strong at first. Limit your compliments and don't seem to eager. Be sweet and play hard to get.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

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[bigdavie106]

Apologies if it's the wrong forum, feel free to move. I'm unsure how to.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

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[janeyl]

Maybe I'm missing something. I can't change my looks... But my clothes, hair, etc I could experiment with. I could lose weight and improve my body.

But what else? What can guys do, or wear, to enhance their sex appeal? Grateful for some inspiration.

on lit or in real life?

 

[KimGordon67]

I like a guy who smells nice ... not necessarily cologne nice (although that can be good), but just man-nice.

 

[Lunation]

When tempting a female I generally challenge another male to sexual combat for her attention.

 

[suckonsimon]

Lovely to hear from the women on this, but, as they say in my part of the world,

"Haway lads!"

Have men got next to nothing to say about 'men making an effort'!

[ps Lunation thanks for posting - same time as me!]

 

[meop79]

When tempting a female I generally challenge another male to sexual combat for her attention.

He loses, the girl feels sorry for him, yells at the winner, slaps them, then proceeds to tend to Lunation and nature takes over from there...

 

[Lunation]

He loses, the girl feels sorry for him, yells at the winner, slaps them, then proceeds to tend to Lunation and nature takes over from there...

This is why the loser is killed and his heart eaten so that his strength is not wasted.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Ml4wAnvfM4M

 

[suckonsimon]

So we've moved to the Playground ...

OP - you need to try on 'How to'

 

[Lunation]

Lovely to hear from the women on this, but, as they say in my part of the world,

"Haway lads!"

Have men got next to nothing to say about 'men making an effort'!

[ps Lunation thanks for posting - same time as me!]

You are welcome. Though unfortunately my contribution is not very constructive.

Though I guess you could take my answer as "use humor," it never has worked for me in real life. Does well on the internet though.

 

[suckonsimon]

You are welcome. Though unfortunately my contribution is not very constructive.

Though I guess you could take my answer as "use humor," it never has worked for me in real life. Does well on the internet though.

We need you on 'Write your own Limericks'. Visit!

 

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[meop79]

There are lots of fish in the sea, each like different but often similar things...

Just the same, there's literally someone for ANYONE and the magic of the internet means you two freaks can even find each other.

Soooo.... yeah, like everyone said, be yourself...

 

[MissJW]

Miss JW, you turn me on! Too bad I'm thousands of miles away and muscular because although I'd go down swinging, I'd go down for you!

Hah! Hey no worries, I'd turn anyone down as I'm happily married anyway

 

[suckonsimon]

Perhaps this is a peculiarly English trait, but I find the idea of 'making an effort' somewhat off-putting. As others have said here, wisely, it is easy enough, given motivation and time, to spot those faking their personalities. Be yourself. Just make sure that self is effortlessly charming.

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Soooo.... yeah, like everyone said, be yourself...

I maintain: I am capable of a slovenly self, a shut-down-inside-myself self, a self-pitying self, an arrogant self, ... it's all there in a sometimes bewildering mix such that, when I honestly want to "be myself" there are choices and efforts to be made nonetheless. Am I more mixed up than every other guy?