Miscarriage Etiquette

[Lancecastor]

If a woman you know has a bum of a boyfriend, is it appropriate to congratulate her on a miscarriage?

 

[dolf]

oh dear *sigh*

 

[Lancecastor]

Real life, found out this morning.

I want to buy champagne!...but what's the socially acceptable thing to do?

 

[dolf]

congrats on your baby dying and falling out of your cunt in a bloody mess of painful cramping?

i'm sure hallmark has a card for that.

 

[Lancecastor]

No, seriously...give me some of that maternal shit you grrls roll out in these situations.

 

[Riles]

Where do you come up with this stuff? Your mind sometimes scares me, Lance.

If this is in any way legit, which I doubt and even now I am mentally kicking myself for pushing the keys that type these words...you have to follow her lead. Sometimes a miscarriage can be nothing more that a blip in a woman's life, and she will accept it as natures choice and move on. Roll with that. Other instances it can be a whole lot more emotional.

My best advice, and I am still eye rolling at myself, is to let her know that HOWEVER she feels, it's okay. Be a friend. Pop the cork, sure, but do it with a "here's to you" clink. I know you know how to do that.



I'm not even looking back in here to see this ripped on, stupid girl, I fall for it every time.

 

[Lancecastor]

Thanks Riles, much appreciated.

As I said, the guy's a dick.

They broke up, then a couple of weeks later they got back together for a weekend and oops, preggers.

He will leave her high and dry at some point...I'd rather she not get stuck with a surprise baby as a parting gift.

Where do you come up with this stuff? Your mind sometimes scares me, Lance.

If this is in any way legit, which I doubt and even now I am mentally kicking myself for pushing the keys that type these words...you have to follow her lead. Sometimes a miscarriage can be nothing more that a blip in a woman's life, and she will accept it as natures choice and move on. Roll with that. Other instances it can be a whole lot more emotional.

My best advice, and I am still eye rolling at myself, is to let her know that HOWEVER she feels, it's okay. Be a friend. Pop the cork, sure, but do it with a "here's to you" clink. I know you know how to do that.



I'm not even looking back in here to see this ripped on, stupid girl, I fall for it every time.

 

[dolf]

you say that, but my spawn-of-arsehole angel is the best thing that ever happened in my life.

 

[Noor]

Miscarriages do weird things to a person hormonally more so the further along in pregnancy you are. Also, it makes you seriously wonder about whether you will be able to successfully carry children to term in the future. I would tread lightly and say little. If this is someone close to you, ask how they feel and go with that, but realize that feelings are usually mixed after a miscarriage. Also, there are people who have a strong feeling of mourning, that their child has died.

 

[chillywilly2]

Just don't be a dick about it...or she won't be a friend for long

 

[Lancecastor]

Miscarriages do weird things to a person hormonally more so the further along in pregnancy you are. Also, it makes you seriously wonder about whether you will be able to successfully carry children to term in the future. I would tread lightly and say little. If this is someone close to you, ask how they feel and go with that, but realize that feelings are usually mixed after a miscarriage. Also, there are people who have a strong feeling of mourning, that their child has died.

She was only 6-8 weeks along, 24 years old.

How long before she can resume training as a submissive?

 

[Noor]

She was only 6-8 weeks along, 24 years old.

How long before she can resume training as a submissive?

Usually 6-8 weeks actually. What does her dr say?

 

[CandiCame]

A baby is /always/ a blessing. Don't be a dick. There's no nice way to say "congratulations on your dead baby".

I would say, "Congratulations on losing your shitty boyfriend" tho. Because everyone loves loosing shitty lovers, and as a sub it hits SUPER hard. That's a really intimate relationship.

 

[parodyluvr75]

Emotions run hot and hard at that age. I'd just tell her if she wants to talk about it, you'll be there for her. As far as sex, I'm sure she'll let you know when she's ready. Concerning the asshole, the heart can be stupid. Might not be the last you see of him. I have a lady friend the same age. I want to rip the arm off of her 'on again off again' and beat him with the bloody stump. She's bright and beautiful but when it comes to him logic is out to lunch. Good luck.

 

[dolf]

She was only 6-8 weeks along, 24 years old.

How long before she can resume training as a submissive?

just ask her!

sorry your baby died. did the doc say when i can stick my dick in you again?

 

[CandiCame]

just ask her!

sorry your baby died. did the doc say when i can stick my dick in you again?

This is terrible advice. Don't even do that if the baby is alive. She'll tell you.

Unless you like having your entire lower body covered in blood. Then I guess you're golden.

 

[Lancecastor]

Okay, thanks.

She's a part-time escort, part-time pro-sub, and her boyfriend wants her out working tonite.

 

[girlsmiley]

No, seriously...give me some of that maternal shit you grrls roll out in these situations.

How about you go fuck yourself, and I'll put you on ignore. How about that?

Zero time for men like you.

 

[Lancecastor]

How about you go fuck yourself, and I'll put you on ignore. How about that?

Zero time for men like you.

Men like me???

Asking for your advice, not your time.

 

[girlsmiley]

Men like me???

Asking for your advice, not your time.

Blah blah blah. You're an idiot who thinks it's ok to carry on like a pig.

Men like you, yes.

Bye!

 

[Lancecastor]

Blah blah blah. You're an idiot who thinks it's ok to carry on like a pig.

Men like you, yes.

Bye!

I believe the miscarriage for her is a bullet dodged, which is hardly piggish.

And a 6 week zygote with no heartbeat is not a living creature nor a person, at least not in Canada.

 

[Noor]

Okay, thanks.

She's a part-time escort, part-time pro-sub, and her boyfriend wants her out working tonite.

Probably a bad idea. Easy to get a bleed or infection.
Usually they say no heavy lifting or stuff for 6-8 wks too.

 

[Lancecastor]

He's a real gem so he told her to stick to anal tonite.

 

[Noor]

He's a real gem so he told her to stick to anal tonite.

She needs to dump him. Can't you help her with that?

 

[julybaby04]

Tell her you are sorry for the loss of her baby.

Wait for the emotions over that trauma to lessen (she is probably hurting as she has lost a baby......whether the guy was a jerk or not)...

When she feels better, see if you can speak to her about the guy, maybe she will listen.