Multiple Spouses/Partners

[about_average]

I have never found swollen balls all that impressive but then again I am not interested in the average man

These are pretty impressive
http://www.asnom.org/oh/media/0544_filarioses/Elephantiasisscr_fil.jpg

 

[Rozalin_0123]

These are pretty impressive

Ever have a moment in your life where you wished you could un-know something? Things like that leave scars on the mind.

 

[rimmy]

Ever have a moment in your life where you wished you could un-know something? Things like that leave scars on the mind.

You should have been there when we first saw the pics of KS in drag. Same feeling.

As for the original post, triads are not easy. The wife and I have been playing with others for 10 years now, sometime with couples and sometimes with individual partners. It's not for everyone.

 

[girlsmiley]

http://www.troll.me/images/futurama-fry/not-sure-if-trolling-or-just-stupid.jpg

Both.

 

[smallgirl]

I am a 33 year old female who lives a particular taboo livestyle. I have two spouses, a husband and a wife. We live together, share our bed together, and we are completely happy with each other. From a legal standpoint, I'm only married to my husband, but we had a ceremony performed in which the three of us were married together. Means nothing on paper, but to us it's everything.

A little over a year ago, my wife gave birth to a set of twins, a boy and a girl. My husband and I tried for years to conceive but I never could. Doctors diagnosed me with PCOS when I was 22. I love them as my own children, because to me they are.

I originally came to Lit because of all the people who think outside the box when it comes to sex. It's been a nice escape from a world that not only hates on you for being bi-sexual, but also because of having two lovers. "That's not love, that's lust" they say, who the fuck are you to tell me how I feel? I dread the days when my kids get older, having to grow up in a intolerant world. Thankfully, they have 3 loving parents that will do everything to see that live a happy, healthy, and meaningful life.

Despite Lit's community having a broad range of sexual perferences, I find it odd that a lot of the time when I mention I have multiple spouses while chatting with someone the conversation stops right there. On a site where incest, bdsm, furrys, and homosexuality are the norm, why is polygamy such a deal breaker?

So I started this thread in the hopes of maybe finding others who live this sort of lifestyle. Not necessarily exactly the same as me, but mostly multiple partners where everyone knows about each other and are perfectly happy with it.

Personally I respect everyone's choices and kinks. We are all different. If you're happy that's all that really matters.
Second of all, I could see myself living that lifestyle ...but I'd want 2 husbands.

 

[about_average]

Ever have a moment in your life where you wished you could un-know something? Things like that leave scars on the mind.

I sorta thought the same thing when I first saw them in a medical book about diseases many years ago. I figured they were sure to be on the net somewhere. I was right. lol

 

[Ramone45]

Personally I respect everyone's choices and kinks. We are all different. If you're happy that's all that really matters.
Second of all, I could see myself living that lifestyle ...but I'd want 2 husbands.

There's that Slippery Slope I was warning you about!

 

[about_average]

There's that Slippery Slope I was warning you about!

No, the slippery slope started when people were allowed to marry outside their clans.

We're at the point now where poodles will be marring their companions and before you know it such a couple will let the great dane next door join the marriage when it proposes to them and we'll have mixed breed marriages.
Then we'll have another terrorist attack even worse than 9-11 because god will be really pissed again.
God does not want mixed breed marriages!

 

[StrayKat]

To be perfectly honest, Rozalin, first thing that comes to my mind is "omg lucky you!!" *envious*

Then I think about how much effort, time and nerves it takes for a simple monogamy to work and I know I would fail miserably in poly situation. I admire you very much.

 

[Mockingjay]

Don't listen what other people say.

As long as you wanted to live with your preferences, go on, provided that the three of you love one another.

Sometimes it's just the society that is fucked.

 

[Rozalin_0123]

To be perfectly honest, Rozalin, first thing that comes to my mind is "omg lucky you!!" *envious*

Then I think about how much effort, time and nerves it takes for a simple monogamy to work and I know I would fail miserably in poly situation. I admire you very much.

Thank you

Most men I've talked to will say something to the extent of, "I would love to live like that" or "Your husband is a lucky son-of-a-bitch". Then there are the few that take in the whole picture and say, "I can barely handle the drama of one woman, let alone two".

It does take a lot of effort, time and nerves. But honestly, I've had less drama with the two of them than a lot of mono couples I hear about at my job. Maybe where there's three of us it keeps things fresh? Maybe we had a stronger friendship before going into the marriage? I can't say for sure, but I know I am very fortunate for the relationship I have. Not saying polygamy is better than monogamy, just saying any relationship is what you strive to make out of it.

 

[absorb]

Usually the only people who truly understand and accept bisexuality tend to be other bisexuals.

I would have to agree on that exactly to that point. In a lot of ways it is true, bisexual people seem to understand this type of relationship and its benefits to them.

 

[BotanyBoy]

It can't be explained or defended other than someone who doesn't understand the connection and meaning of the physical expression of love.

Can you tell us what the connection and meaning of the physical expression of love are??

Can you point out the official standards, policies and procedures manual on that subject?

 

[RobDownSouth]

Yup. It is.

I just love how you know what the gays are comfortable and uncomfortable with.

One of the few traits common to virtually all conservatives on the General Board is their deep, extensive knowledge of all things homosexual.

:nods:

 

[Noor]

One of the few traits common to virtually all conservatives on the General Board is their deep, extensive knowledge of all things homosexual.

:nods:

Where would we be without them?

 

[Rozalin_0123]

Where would we be without them?

Can't say for sure.

But I can say for sure I'd have fewer broken windows...

 

[Ramone45]

Can you tell us what the connection and meaning of the physical expression of love are??

Can you point out the official standards, policies and procedures manual on that subject?

I may have made the mistake of equating bisexuality with promiscuity. Sex is the ultimate physical expression of physical love. It is sacred and exclusive. I know I don't have to explain this because you already know it. But bisexuality is a choice. I suspect that it is associated with promiscuity more often than not and it doesn't belong in the alphabet soup of aberrations.

 

[BotanyBoy]

I may have made the mistake of equating bisexuality with promiscuity. Sex is the ultimate physical expression of physical love. It is sacred and exclusive.

It can be and no not always...sometimes it's just a god old romp in the sack. Happens all over the world every fuckin' day.

I know I don't have to explain this because you already know it. But bisexuality is a choice.

No I don't....I think there is a distinct difference and separation of love and sex. They can be....but sex can also be a recreational activity.

Everything everyone does is a choice. An individuals feelings and desires may not be but any and all actions they take most certainly are.

I suspect that it is associated with promiscuity more often than not and it doesn't belong in the alphabet soup of aberrations.

So promiscuity precludes accurate verbal classification of ones sexual preferences??? What wacky world do you live in??


Now back to the questions you didn't answer....

Can you tell us what the connection and meaning of the physical expression of love are??

Can you point out the official standards, policies and procedures manual on that subject?

 

[Rozalin_0123]

No I don't....I think there is a distinct difference and separation of love and sex. They can be....but sex can also be a recreational activity.

Everything everyone does is a choice. An individuals feelings and desires may not be but any and all actions they take most certainly are.

^This.

Love and sex are two entirely different things. Sure, sex is better with love, but love is not an essential part of sex nor is sex an essential part of love. In fact, you can fuck someone out of hate just as easily as love.

Let me give you an example: I had a co-worker years ago who was getting a divorce from her husband. When she came to work the day after the divorce was finalized she told me that she had sex with her husband just a few hours before the court hearing. When I asked, "Why did you have sex with him, I thought you hated him?" she replied, "I wanted it to be fresh in his mind exactly what he's going to be missing for the rest of his life."

On a side note; I'm fairly certain that the vast majority of sex that occurs between a person and a prostitute has no love involved. There is an old saying that goes, "You don't pay a prostitute to have sex with you, you pay a prostitute to leave afterwards." Paying to have someone leave after sex doesn't sound like love to me...

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Do you plan on writing any more poly erotica, Roz?

 

[Rozalin_0123]

Do you plan on writing any more poly erotica, Roz?

The story was based on my own life. I guess if something else interesting were to happen I could write another chapter. So far, life is good, and I felt that was a good way to end it.

The new series is a completely different subject matter (erotic horror).

That's not to say that I won't eventually write more poly erotica. Based on feedback I had gotten from "Love Without Limits" I could easily write about things that didn't happen in that story that would be hot.

So many sexy thoughts, so little time to write about them....