My Secret Garden

[TypicalDeviant]

Is My Secret Garden really that "mind opening" of a book? I'm wondering if it's worth buying for my girl.

We've talked about fantasies before and she has essentially said that she doesn't have any. She knows she can tell me if she thinks of any, but perhaps she feels a bit too embarrassed to do so. I'm wondering if reading that book may help her realize that it's okay to have and share her fantasies.

Thanks HT

 

[irishwoody]

You could buy a second hand copy an leave it about - she may casually notice it, then at least it would never cause offense...

 

[IrisAlthea]

Yes, I think you could have lost of fun and learn a lot by reading the fantasies and talk about how they make you feel. Then it´s probably easier to talk about your own fanatasies and perhaps it might inspire some new ones too.

 

[littlebabyclit]

Read it many years ago. I remember there were some pretty hot fantasies in there, as well as some weird ones and ones you might find stereotypical and canned. Basically, representative of women across the board back when it was written, but I don't know about how relevant it is nowadays.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Any book that can give you insight into a woman's psyche can't be all bad. As has been said, she may have some but may not know how to express them. She may not have any, but the book might ignite some. Only your girl can tell you if the "secrets" contained within that book apply to her. If for not other reason than to get her thinking outside the box, the book may be worth a read for both of you.

Reading the body language of my girl whilst in the midst of passion, I deduced a suppressed penchant for light bondage/rape fantasy. In speaking to her about it, she expressed a different point of view, so don't assume anything! Get into open and honest communications outside of the bedroom about the subject, and let her dictate her passions.

 

[Lappdog]

I could be wrong about this, but I believe it WAS a mind-opening book back in the 1970's when it was first published. It was an enlightening vieiw into the unsuspecting fantasies of women. I read it as a teen (stolen from my Mom's underwear drawer!). I read it again years later and it seemed a bit "tame" compared to all of the sexual/social changes that had come along.

 

[bronzeage]

I could be wrong about this, but I believe it WAS a mind-opening book back in the 1970's when it was first published. It was an enlightening vieiw into the unsuspecting fantasies of women. I read it as a teen (stolen from my Mom's underwear drawer!). I read it again years later and it seemed a bit "tame" compared to all of the sexual/social changes that had come along.

I agree with this. It was racy for it's time, but hardly shocking today.

The problem with discussing fantasies is that its often impossible to express why that particular scenario is exciting. The mental images can conjure memories of smells and tastes that we are not aware of in the moment.

It's more efficient to create joint fantasies than to explore what a person thinks about when they masturbate.