well, recently I have been enlightened with some choices that would either benefit or negate me the company of an attractive female. on a deep primary existance level this may be an attempt to further my blood line through finding a suitable mate to breed with. On a less darwinian level it could just be that I really need to get some nooky and if the nooky is good...keep the frequency of nooky to its maximum.
know, i've always been very shy and more or less negative when dealing with meeting women. As of lately however, I've noticed that with a little bit of effort, and a lot of risk, meeting women is not entirely difficult. It's not absolutely successful and easy either.
Most recently over the summer, I found myself surrounded by several very attractive women in my summer graduate class. One women of which I would classify as super hot. Now that I look back at the past, I really have always been able to talk to attractive women, I just wasn't sure by what means. Anyway, super hot was in the library minding her own business when I realized that I just have to talk to her. I asked her her advise on an assignment we had to do, which turned into an hour and a half conversation on everything. Turns out she is married however, but she and I still are in contact with eachother.
The point is, I took a leap of faith and talked to her.
STEP 1. Don't be afraid to talk to women.
Now recently, I was put into a situation where a female friend of mine has wanted me to meet a coworker of hers for some time. I have been on a couple of blind dates before, and they just didn't leave a good taste in my mouth. This time I was prepared for the worst and NOT expecting the best.
First i was expecting this female to look as trashy and disfunctional as my neighbors[if anyone out there has white trash neighbors, then you'll sympathize with me]. When we arrived to pick-up her friend, I was stunned. This girl is really very good looking.
Step 2. Take every chance to meet someone new.
As soon as I looked at her, i automaticaly thought, "Oh this one's too good looking for me". Though, the night proved me wrong again. Once we started to loosen up and the conversation got better, I started noticing her touching my arm, my back, or bumping my leg whenever I said something funny or she said something directly to me. {you may want to read about what followed in my thread titled "She Touched My Arm"}
Step 3. Don't under estimate yourself.[haven't we all seen the hot chick with ugly dude or vice verse?]
Step 4. Take notes of the subtle or not so subtle hints.[touching, eye contact, etc.]
Step 5. Don't be affraid to showboat yourself.>>>
I realized that this young women didn't show much interest in me until I first show myself. I offered the information about myself to her and she took it and ran with it. That's when the touching started.
Well before our date last night, I was still apprehensive of her interest in me. Once we started dancing, my apprehension turned into self-confidence.
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> DANCING RULES:
-You must follow these rules:
If you are in a club/bar and your date wants to dance[which all women LOVE to dance], you MUST go out on the dance floor and make an effort to dance with her.
I'll repeat that so it'll sink in, "If you are in a club/bar and your date wants to dance[which all women LOVE to dance], you MUST go out on the dance floor and make an effort to dance with her.
If you think you'll look like a fool, so what? If your friends will laugh at you, ask yourself, "are my friends going to provide me with a warm body to wake up next to in the morning?"
You MUST MAKE AN EFFORT.
If you don't, here's what will happen. SOME OTHER GUY WILL!
some other guy will be out there on the dance floor and your girl will get cought up dancing with him. Before you know it, the night is a wash and your date has gotten someone elses phine number or at least an idea of where to find her next date. If you go out there, you will be rewarded for your efforts. read it all again if you want. This is what happens. Ask any women out there.
I somehow had a moment of clarity right before she started to pull me onto the dancefloor and realized all of the above. I'm just ashamed it took me so long to realize this. Once on the floor, i was struggling to move my feet the right way to rock music[very difficult to dance to]. However, after a few minutes, and with the luck of the right band playing, her dancing become more directed towards me and soon she was girating right into my body, even taking hold of my hands at some point and placing them on her hips.
Step 6. Let her lead you.
This proved to be great at easing my doubts of her interests in me while boosting my ego simmultaneously[at the same time]. Before I knew it, she and I were moving to the music as one. She even waved of the advances of other men trying to cut in; pulling me closer to her.
Step 7. Be a gentleman.
[this still needs some time to be proven, and will be updated after it is proven.]
She was way too drunk to drive home and I offered her my bed for some snugglin/cuddling sleep without anything expected. I did manage to get some lip action before we fell asleep in eachother's arms. Waking up in bed with someone you genuinely like and carressing eachother while just laying together is really a mentally healthy thing.
I hope to right all of you soon to update my theory on women. As always, your thoughts and comments are welcome.
know, i've always been very shy and more or less negative when dealing with meeting women. As of lately however, I've noticed that with a little bit of effort, and a lot of risk, meeting women is not entirely difficult. It's not absolutely successful and easy either.
Most recently over the summer, I found myself surrounded by several very attractive women in my summer graduate class. One women of which I would classify as super hot. Now that I look back at the past, I really have always been able to talk to attractive women, I just wasn't sure by what means. Anyway, super hot was in the library minding her own business when I realized that I just have to talk to her. I asked her her advise on an assignment we had to do, which turned into an hour and a half conversation on everything. Turns out she is married however, but she and I still are in contact with eachother.
The point is, I took a leap of faith and talked to her.
STEP 1. Don't be afraid to talk to women.
Now recently, I was put into a situation where a female friend of mine has wanted me to meet a coworker of hers for some time. I have been on a couple of blind dates before, and they just didn't leave a good taste in my mouth. This time I was prepared for the worst and NOT expecting the best.
First i was expecting this female to look as trashy and disfunctional as my neighbors[if anyone out there has white trash neighbors, then you'll sympathize with me]. When we arrived to pick-up her friend, I was stunned. This girl is really very good looking.
Step 2. Take every chance to meet someone new.
As soon as I looked at her, i automaticaly thought, "Oh this one's too good looking for me". Though, the night proved me wrong again. Once we started to loosen up and the conversation got better, I started noticing her touching my arm, my back, or bumping my leg whenever I said something funny or she said something directly to me. {you may want to read about what followed in my thread titled "She Touched My Arm"}
Step 3. Don't under estimate yourself.[haven't we all seen the hot chick with ugly dude or vice verse?]
Step 4. Take notes of the subtle or not so subtle hints.[touching, eye contact, etc.]
Step 5. Don't be affraid to showboat yourself.>>>
I realized that this young women didn't show much interest in me until I first show myself. I offered the information about myself to her and she took it and ran with it. That's when the touching started.
Well before our date last night, I was still apprehensive of her interest in me. Once we started dancing, my apprehension turned into self-confidence.
>
> DANCING RULES:
-You must follow these rules:
If you are in a club/bar and your date wants to dance[which all women LOVE to dance], you MUST go out on the dance floor and make an effort to dance with her.
I'll repeat that so it'll sink in, "If you are in a club/bar and your date wants to dance[which all women LOVE to dance], you MUST go out on the dance floor and make an effort to dance with her.
If you think you'll look like a fool, so what? If your friends will laugh at you, ask yourself, "are my friends going to provide me with a warm body to wake up next to in the morning?"
You MUST MAKE AN EFFORT.
If you don't, here's what will happen. SOME OTHER GUY WILL!
some other guy will be out there on the dance floor and your girl will get cought up dancing with him. Before you know it, the night is a wash and your date has gotten someone elses phine number or at least an idea of where to find her next date. If you go out there, you will be rewarded for your efforts. read it all again if you want. This is what happens. Ask any women out there.
I somehow had a moment of clarity right before she started to pull me onto the dancefloor and realized all of the above. I'm just ashamed it took me so long to realize this. Once on the floor, i was struggling to move my feet the right way to rock music[very difficult to dance to]. However, after a few minutes, and with the luck of the right band playing, her dancing become more directed towards me and soon she was girating right into my body, even taking hold of my hands at some point and placing them on her hips.
Step 6. Let her lead you.
This proved to be great at easing my doubts of her interests in me while boosting my ego simmultaneously[at the same time]. Before I knew it, she and I were moving to the music as one. She even waved of the advances of other men trying to cut in; pulling me closer to her.
Step 7. Be a gentleman.
[this still needs some time to be proven, and will be updated after it is proven.]
She was way too drunk to drive home and I offered her my bed for some snugglin/cuddling sleep without anything expected. I did manage to get some lip action before we fell asleep in eachother's arms. Waking up in bed with someone you genuinely like and carressing eachother while just laying together is really a mentally healthy thing.
I hope to right all of you soon to update my theory on women. As always, your thoughts and comments are welcome.
