My wife cheated. I found out. After I got over the initial shock, hurt, and anger, the whole thing became an intense turn-on.

[Ed_Sumner]

I found out a few years ago that my wife had been getting plowed behind my back for years by a good-looking single stud who works for her company in another part of the country. It started at the company's annual sales meeting in Orlando. They were part of a big group drinking in one of the resort bars on the last night, and were introduced by a mutual friend. He started coming on to her right away, undeterred by her wedding ring and learning that she was a married mom of two. He bought her a Cosmo, then another. He flirted, she flirted back. He was smooth, confident, charming. As the alcohol took hold she became excited, probably quite obviously so. Eventually he suggested they go up to her room for "a nightcap" and without hesitating she agreed. They fucked and sucked all night, until he had to go back to his room and pack up for his flight home. That first night was so good, he was so fit, so hung, so skilled, she came so hard, that she was literally addicted and kept going back for more, over and over for 10 years before I finally found out.

Edit: I'd love to hear from other cheated-on husbands or boyfriends who have experienced this roller coaster ride, and anyone else interested in thoughtful discussion of female infidelity, hypergamy, betrayal and humiliation.

 

[screwher]

I found out a few years ago that my wife had been getting plowed behind my back for years by a good-looking single stud who works for her company in another part of the country. It started at the company's annual sales meeting in Orlando. They were part of a big group drinking in one of the resort bars on the last night, and were introduced by a mutual friend. He started coming on to her right away, undeterred by her wedding ring and learning that she was a married mom of two. He bought her a Cosmo, then another. He flirted, she flirted back. He was smooth, confident, charming. As the alcohol took hold she became excited, probably quite obviously so. Eventually he suggested they go up to her room for "a nightcap" and without hesitating she agreed. They fucked and sucked all night, until he had to go back to his room and pack up for his flight home. That first night was so good, he was so fit, so hung, so skilled, she came so hard, that she was literally addicted and kept going back for more, over and over for 10 years before I finally found out.

Thanks for sharing your amazing story. I’m glad you are finding a positive in negative situations of your wife’s infidelity.

My wife’s first cheating is very similar to your wife’s. Mrs. Screwher became attracted to another man while on the job. He ended up taking her to a hotel room because he too was married. And at that time our place was out as well. Her tryst almost ruined us. But soon after I started getting aroused knowing that another man had fucked her!

 

[SPARTAN047]

As long as you're really happy - if you want to cheat yourself and experience other women like she did, who can blame you?

 

[Ed_Sumner]

I'm really happy now. No interest in cheating myself, or being with another woman, despite wifey offering that up.

 

[Yarglenurp]

How did you find out?

 

[Ed_Sumner]

Very long story but the short version is that I snooped on her work computer, found an incriminating e-mail, confronted her, and after a series of lies and denials she eventually admitted everything.

 

[Yarglenurp]

Very long story but the short version is that I snooped on her work computer, found an incriminating e-mail, confronted her, and after a series of lies and denials she eventually admitted everything.

The fact that you took her back is kind of crazy, but I’m glad it worked out. I’m not sure I’d have been an able to do the same.

How did it go in the early days, after you got her to admit to it?

 

[SlutAddicted]

It used to be that we thought that women were much less likely to cheat than men and when they did it was primarily in search of intimacy that was lacking in their marriage. Perhaps that was the case, but data now seems to suggest otherwise. It seems that younger generations of women are just as likely to cheat as men. And when they do so they are at least as likely as men (if not more so) to be doing it for the sex. No matter how we may want to dress it up they are really just looking for good dick.

I have been cheated on by girlfriends and my wife. It was always about their libido. Pure and simple. Once you get past the hurt feelings there is something very compelling about a woman who has a high level of sexual desire and inclination to embrace that aspect of herself.

 

[Ed_Sumner]

100%. Though she had one actual affair, with feelings, all the rest of my wife's cheating was purely sexual, driven by her uncontrollable lust for one particular tall, good-looking, super fit, charming, well-hung, sexually skilled single coworker of hers.

 

[Yarglenurp]

It used to be that we thought that women were much less likely to cheat than men and when they did it was primarily in search of intimacy that was lacking in their marriage. Perhaps that was the case, but data now seems to suggest otherwise. It seems that younger generations of women are just as likely to cheat as men. And when they do so they are at least as likely as men (if not more so) to be doing it for the sex. No matter how we may want to dress it up they are really just looking for good dick.

I have been cheated on by girlfriends and my wife. It was always about their libido. Pure and simple. Once you get past the hurt feelings there is something very compelling about a woman who has a high level of sexual desire and inclination to embrace that aspect of herself.

Well, I suspect the fact that you’re addicted to sluts is the main reason you keep getting cheated on. It’s like going to a casino and complaining about losing money while gambling.

Not that there’s anything wrong with that, if that’s what you’re into.

 

[SPARTAN047]

It used to be that we thought that women were much less likely to cheat than men and when they did it was primarily in search of intimacy that was lacking in their marriage. Perhaps that was the case, but data now seems to suggest otherwise. It seems that younger generations of women are just as likely to cheat as men. And when they do so they are at least as likely as men (if not more so) to be doing it for the sex. No matter how we may want to dress it up they are really just looking for good dick.

I have been cheated on by girlfriends and my wife. It was always about their libido. Pure and simple. Once you get past the hurt feelings there is something very compelling about a woman who has a high level of sexual desire and inclination to embrace that aspect of herself.

This is absolutely true. There was nothing stopping a woman from shagging some knave in the bushes as someone put in even hundreds of years ago, and then pinning the pregnancy on someone else. It's biology, put very simply, looking for better dick.

Everyone looks for better genes really, so it's not a crime and I don't see why any man should apologize for looking at bigger and better tits, arses, Latinas, Hispanic women, Asian, or whatever he's into.

There's no point controlling anyone's fetishes. They'll just do it behind your back anyway. If couples are aware of this they should in fact encourage their partner's experimenting with any race or gender to avoid hurt feelings. Or just be single.

 

[bobsch703]

Kinda in the same situation. Was devastated, but I semi moved past it once it ended. Now it turns me on sometimes, but the fact the she had the affair with a real fucking scumbag (ex-con, unemployed, coke addict) prevents me from really enjoying the thought.

 

[Yarglenurp]

Kinda in the same situation. Was devastated, but I semi moved past it once it ended. Now it turns me on sometimes, but the fact the she had the affair with a real fucking scumbag (ex-con, unemployed, coke addict) prevents me from really enjoying the thought.

Isn’t that kind of interesting of itself though? She could have had anyone, but chose that kind of person to have an affair with?

Why does it stop you from being turned on?

 

[bobsch703]

Isn’t that kind of interesting of itself though? She could have had anyone, but chose that kind of person to have an affair with?

Why does it stop you from being turned on?

A - because I hate that kind of scumbag and why should that piece of shit benefit from my wife's cunt and mouth?

B- makes me doubt myself because I could never be a piece of shit like that. I know he often treated her like shit, and that's just not me, so does she even like me much less love me and why is she with me?

C- I know that for a period of time, she was in love with him and probably would have left me if he had a job that could support them, or maybe even just had A job. Had it been a one night stand or short term fuck buddy thing, I would have gotten over it pretty quickly and would have eventually been more turned on. She wants to fuck a body builder? Let's have a threesome with a body builder, or let me watch you get fucked by a body builder, or do it once and don't let me find out. Don't do it behind my back, fall in love with him and use my money to pay for motel rooms they could fuck in because he was unemployed and lived with his parents.

 

[Yarglenurp]

A - because I hate that kind of scumbag and why should that piece of shit benefit from my wife's cunt and mouth?

B- makes me doubt myself because I could never be a piece of shit like that. I know he often treated her like shit, and that's just not me, so does she even like me much less love me and why is she with me?

C- I know that for a period of time, she was in love with him and probably would have left me if he had a job that could support them, or maybe even just had A job. Had it been a one night stand or short term fuck buddy thing, I would have gotten over it pretty quickly and would have eventually been more turned on. She wants to fuck a body builder? Let's have a threesome with a body builder, or let me watch you get fucked by a body builder, or do it once and don't let me find out. Don't do it behind my back, fall in love with him and use my money to pay for motel rooms they could fuck in because he was unemployed and lived with his parents.

Ooof… lots of complex emotions there.

Tbh, I’m surprised you’re still with her, since it seems like you’re still kind of raw about it.

Your wife kind of reminds me of another poster on here, who doesn’t actually cheat (afaik) but does fantasize about her abusive ex a lot.

The thing is… she’s still with you, so I don’t know if you can say she’d have chosen this other guy. Do you still trust her, as your life partner? If the answer is yes, you should probably just choose true forgiveness. Otherwise you’re in a really bad spot, emotionally, since your stuck with someone that you can’t be emotionally vulnerable with, and should just divorce her.

 

[SlutAddicted]

Well, I suspect the fact that you’re addicted to sluts is the main reason you keep getting cheated on. It’s like going to a casino and complaining about losing money while gambling.

Not that there’s anything wrong with that, if that’s what you’re into.

Yes, but I’m not complaining about it. I have always been drawn to slutty women and accept all that comes with that.

 

[SPARTAN047]

It's more common to get accustomed to the humiliation than it seems. Sometimes women just want to get treated badly and get thrashed

Or get used tampons for their birthday.

Like some men want a used girlfriend on theirs.

 

[Justfantasies]

When my first wife had an ongoing affair with a man in New York it would always turn me on because she had me buy her clothes for the trip and because when she got home she rode my cock while she told me what they did together.

 

[saucy_charlene]

My husband cheated on me a few times that I know of. We separated 3 times because of it and two of them were friends of mine. It was embarrassing.

 

[bobsch703]

I feel for you. My wife cheated with someone I didn't know, which was bad enough. I can't imagine how embarrassed I would have been if it was someone I knew. Looking back, she dragged me to a few parties with friends of hers who probably knew what she was doing, and when I found out later and realized they may have known as I was hanging out and chatting with them I felt humiliated.

 

[Yarglenurp]

My husband cheated on me a few times that I know of. We separated 3 times because of it and two of them were friends of mine. It was embarrassing.

I don’t understand… he cheated on you three separate times and you kept taking him back?

 

[Sconnie69]

My husband cheated on me a few times that I know of. We separated 3 times because of it and two of them were friends of mine. It was embarrassing.

OMG no one deserves that.

 

[Timetotryagain]

I've shared this story on Lit before, years ago, I lived with a young lady, and we loved playing with toys and reading adult magazines together as a way to spice up our sex life, particularly Penthouse Variations. One night, a story we read was about a man eating his wife's pussy after she was fucked by another man/ I almost puked at the thought.

Not long after that, I caught her cheating on me. We stayed together for awhile, as she had a young child, he sex was strained for a bit, but then a strange thing happened, every time I ate her pussy, I imagined she had just had sex with her lover, and I was eating his cum.

We eventually broke up, but the seed was planted. I loved reading stories about wife sharing, and then when cuck videos became a thing, I loved them. I never had a desire to be humiliated, but developed a HUGE cum fetish.

 

[Justfantasies]

I think for some of us having a slutty wife or girlfriend is a special kink. As I have thought back over my life I realize I have always been attracted to women who like other men too and also like to tell me about it afterwards. I don't find it humiliating at all and I have other lovers and the women I am with lover to confess to me. I continue to enjoy this life style

 

[UtilityCurve]

It used to be that we thought that women were much less likely to cheat than men and when they did it was primarily in search of intimacy that was lacking in their marriage. Perhaps that was the case, but data now seems to suggest otherwise. It seems that younger generations of women are just as likely to cheat as men. And when they do so they are at least as likely as men (if not more so) to be doing it for the sex. No matter how we may want to dress it up they are really just looking for good dick.

I have been cheated on by girlfriends and my wife. It was always about their libido. Pure and simple. Once you get past the hurt feelings there is something very compelling about a woman who has a high level of sexual desire and inclination to embrace that aspect of herself.

In days of old (other refer to them as "the good old days"), women used to be constrained in their cheating by the possibility of an inconvenient/difficult-to-explain pregnancy.

Game over, fellas. The only significant restraint in them proceeds from their morals.

(Ladies, men got "caught" with their privates dangling when paternity-determination became possible. Until then they were as cheat-y as their morals would allow, which was significant. As someone who has been married, and had sex with a married woman [BEFORE I was married], I've been in the deep end of the pool. It's not all black and white.)