My wife cheated. I found out. After I got over the initial shock, hurt, and anger, the whole thing became an intense turn-on.

[LeeKee]

I went through the stages and eventually got to this stage as well. But, let's be clear. This is also a stage. You will eventually see through the other side of this stage and understand the entirety of the situation. And ill tell you, its clarity. Clarity on what to do next. Remember, there were stages leading up to "being turned on" but that also just a stage. You'll grow out of it and snap the hell out of the process of wrapping your head around betrayal.