Need help with my fiance
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Do you give her outstanding oral sex? If you do that is great, if not, you should start.
Not all women like the taste of cum, if she is one of those this will be tough. However, if things are sufficiently hot for her in the moment then she should be able to overcome her dislike I would think. Can you bring her near to the brink of orgasm then switch to her giving you oral? You would have to commit to finishing her off though (either orally or with your hands) after you came in her mouth / on her face. I would try that approach, that is having her very aroused / turned on.
I have had one girlfriend in my life who didn't enjoy cum, she liked giving oral sex but it was obvious she didn't like when I came in her mouth. So I would make sure she was in a single minded sexual frenzy then things went well when it was time for me to cum, in fact, one time she even got nasty and played with the cum, but that was very rare with her. I always took care of her business though regardless... if you don't then there is no incentive for her to let you cum in her mouth / on her face.
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If she is grossed out by cum, it sounds like you are fucked. I wouldn't worry about it too much though, those blow jobs will probably come to end after you say "I Do". The rules of engagement change after the wedding.
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Be clean, eat right to make yourself taste better, and...
Do you tell her how to do better? You know since the penis is not connected to our nervous system, we have no bloody clue what feels good and what doesn't. And no, we aren't mind readers either. Be vocal and specific about what you want. If you never ask for something, you may never get it, and you have no one to blame but yourself.
Do you tell her how to do better? You know since the penis is not connected to our nervous system, we have no bloody clue what feels good and what doesn't. And no, we aren't mind readers either. Be vocal and specific about what you want. If you never ask for something, you may never get it, and you have no one to blame but yourself.
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Can you live with this level of blowjob expertise for your whole life? If you can't, it may be a mistake to wed her. Obviously, the possibility exists that the two of you will find ways to compromise... but the possibility also exists that you won't, and if that's a dealbreaker, well...
And yes, what welkin said. What's a "better" blowjob? I hope you know, because clearly she doesn't.
And why should she? It's not her job to know how to please you, it's her job to learn how to please you. It's your job to know, and to teach her what you know. Good blowjobs are as much your effort as hers. *shrug*
And yes, what welkin said. What's a "better" blowjob? I hope you know, because clearly she doesn't.
And why should she? It's not her job to know how to please you, it's her job to learn how to please you. It's your job to know, and to teach her what you know. Good blowjobs are as much your effort as hers. *shrug*
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The only way to get her to improve is to talk to HER about it and her having the willingness to change, other than that, there is nothing that you can do that's going to change her mind.
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If she is grossed out by cum, it sounds like you are fucked. I wouldn't worry about it too much though, those blow jobs will probably come to end after you say "I Do".
Damn! Is that where I went wrong??? I was supposed to stop?
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I totally agree! Every one is different. If you say, "Wow I love it when you do that!" you'll get more of THAT. Even moaning louder when you like something helps.
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I agree completely!
And of course reading this yourself and having HER read it will be a HUGE help...
http://www.literotica.com/s/blowjobs-for-dummies
You know how I learned to give head? Listening to what the guy wanted and reading articles people wrote on it. I was lucky enough to have a few guys who were very verbal on what they liked and I took mental notes for safe keeping.
OK so she doesn't swallow. Big Deal. Yeah it's sexy to have the girl swallow, it drives Master nuts just to know I'm willing to do that. However there are other ways to finish off a BJ.
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Probably because she is grossed out by it. Contrary to what's shown in porn, not all women enjoy the taste of cum or a cum facial.
Maybe you taste bad and she doesn't want to say anything for fear of hurting your feelings. Maybe she hates sticky stuff on her face. There could be a lot of reasons behind her distaste, but the fact of the matter is the only way you're going to find out why is to talk to her about it. After open and honest communication, maybe the pair of you can come to a compromise. Then again, this may be a no-fly zone for her and she's as much entitled to her likes and dislikes as you are to yours. If this is the case, you'll have to decide if these two acts are worth sacrificing the relationship over.nfrrdscnnr1
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Experience tells me what you probably won't want to hear. In my experience, if she is sufficiently aroused, excited and titillated for a long enough time and gets her rocks off at least once, she'll do anything and everything you want for as long as you want in spades.
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Experience tells me what you probably won't want to hear. In my experience, if she is sufficiently aroused, excited and titillated for a long enough time and gets her rocks off at least once, she'll do anything and everything you want for as long as you want in spades.
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Get a magic wand and use it on her while she blows you.
If she doesn't want you to come in her mouth, blow it on her tits.
If she doesn't want you to come in her mouth, blow it on her tits.
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Maybe your cum tastes bad? Just a thought.... I really liked this info on http://www.orgasmpower.net/improve-taste.html
Certain foods have reputations for helping semen taste better, including:
pineapple - pineapples (and juice) makes semen much sweeter tasting
celery - helps reduce bitterness of semen sometimes
fruit - mostly melons, fruit seems to make semen taste sweet
cinnamon - can help mask odd semen tastes
water (important) - lots of water every day to flush toxins from your body
And do you let her just play with your magic wand? For me, I love to just play with a man's cock, but if he's too busy wanting a "porn blowjob" gagging and "fucking my face" then I kind of lose the joy after a while. Just sayin, maybe if she gets to just play down there and try out some stuff without your goal of her to swallow you, maybe you can both find stuff you enjoy.
Certain foods have reputations for helping semen taste better, including:
pineapple - pineapples (and juice) makes semen much sweeter tasting
celery - helps reduce bitterness of semen sometimes
fruit - mostly melons, fruit seems to make semen taste sweet
cinnamon - can help mask odd semen tastes
water (important) - lots of water every day to flush toxins from your body
And do you let her just play with your magic wand? For me, I love to just play with a man's cock, but if he's too busy wanting a "porn blowjob" gagging and "fucking my face" then I kind of lose the joy after a while. Just sayin, maybe if she gets to just play down there and try out some stuff without your goal of her to swallow you, maybe you can both find stuff you enjoy.
Wow! Thanks all of you. I got some great advice here. BTW, yes I eat her pussy all the time. She loves it, I love doing it, so no complaints on that end. I have gotten my fair share of blowjobs in the past and never had a complaint about the taste, I dont THINK that is an issue. I will try some of the foods and see if she notices a difference.
Update: We sat down and talked and I told her how much I like getting head, but how it is a turn off when I dont feel she is into it. I also told her how I value the importance of facials or at least cumming in her mouth. The next night, she asked if we could watch some "videos" together for her to see what I liked. THAT WORKED! Great blowjob with her swallowing almost all of it afterwards. She told me next time she would let me come on her face!
THANKS!!!
Update: We sat down and talked and I told her how much I like getting head, but how it is a turn off when I dont feel she is into it. I also told her how I value the importance of facials or at least cumming in her mouth. The next night, she asked if we could watch some "videos" together for her to see what I liked. THAT WORKED! Great blowjob with her swallowing almost all of it afterwards. She told me next time she would let me come on her face!
THANKS!!!
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Congratulations!
