Jus because you may not have had the pleasure of receiving decent oral sex from a woman doesn't mean we (as a whole) don't know what we are doing. A lot of women are simply intimidated because they hear how men talk about it.
have you ever thought of giving her a bj to show her what it is that you are hoping she will do to you.
my thought is...buy her a strap on, get on your knees and suck her cock. that way she will see how you would like to have her suck you and it is sure to turn her on, like you have never seen before. You might want to get a douple ended strap on so that you can get her off while giving her head.
Trust me it will work wonders if you "blow her" first.
And I am sure the two of you will find some other interesting uses for the toy at another time.
well gee if your wife is not into porn or lit or anything along those lines a strap on would most likely not be a good idea. In my honest opinion. (On a personal note it would be interesting to see how my husband did it cause then I would know exactly what he wants. He really likes the way I do it now but I am always looking for new tricks.)
Anyway back to your situation - there are several articles written on the subject of Blowjobs on Literoticas story pages - under the how to category. She won't go there to read them so print out copies and leave them on her nightstand or something - she will probably read them out of curiousity - if you guys have talked about this before.
As mentioned above smell could be a problem - Always wash well before you hope to get head - a bath is preferable - but a good warm washcloth will work, not just your penis - but wash your balls, under them and your entire ass all the way into your crack - you should be willing to lick every square inch yourself.
Also mentioned above is cum - Maybe she doesn't want you to cum in her mouth - maybe it grosses her out and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I love giving my hubby head - but I really dislike for him to cum in my mouth. (I tell him to fill up a turkey baster with his cum, let me shoot it in his mouth, and swallow it. Then I will let him cum in my mouth everyday for a year. So far he hasn't taken the challenge) So we have an agreement - He will tell me to stop if he starts feeling close to ejaculating. We do other things for a bit and then I go back to head. Sometimes I feel like swallowing and I tell him!! Ask your wife if she wants you to or not.
She might also be worried about choking. Let her know that you will not move your hips or grab her head or anything. Let her be in total control - how fast - how deep etc. Tell her what feels good with words not by shoving your dick down her throat. Promise hands off.
Maybe she doesn't like the taste - buy some yummy lube and ask her to try it - buy more than one flavor and ask her to try them both and decide which is best. Then you can try them on her. What the heck buy ten or twelve flavors - have a little taste testing party. (Hmmm that might be a fun game for this weekend)
Another thing could be hair - getting hair in your mouth is yuck - and when you are moving your mouth up and down - the hair always gets stuck in that spot you can't reach. Ugh! I asked my husband to try going smooth. I bought some hair remover and slathered it all over him - his crotch, his balls, his ass - the works and took off all that hair. God it was awesome. I love giving him head when he is silky smooth. (mmm suck those balls, lick lick lick)Oh yeah sorry. She might not be up to removing your hair herself but you could surprise her - if she doesn't like it - it will grow back soon. Don't shave - that burns and leaves ucky stubble and itches as it grows back in.
Tell her what feels good and where to put her mouth. Up here. Faster etc. Make lots of noises - tell her how great it feels - encouragement goes a long way.
Please let us all know what you try and what happens. Good lick I mean luck!!
PS I think I will start a thread about what is a guys favorite thing while getting head. Maybe we all can learn a few new tricks.
I have to agree with LadyGwenhevare, everything she had to say is very good advice. I would like to add a little to her ideas:
While your wife is focusing on trying to give you good head, nothing is happening to her to keep her worked up and stay horny.. so before she knows it , it is all work and we all know that isn't much fun.. no matter how much she wants to please you.
Try using the senses in a different way,
smell: yes clean, but what about a favorite cologne that drives her crazy..
touch: maybe she likes silk or nylon, maybe even suggest she wear a pair of thongs so when her body moves as she is giving you pleasure she is also feeling pleasure.
visual: candle light, maybe even a scented candle
hearing: slow sensual music, the kind that makes her body move as if she was making love to your cock with her pussy, the kind that makes her hips move as if your cock was inside her.. you get the picture.
taste: keep in mind that what we put in our body effects the way we taste, some medications effect the taste, plus the foods we eat. Try tasting a little of your precum yourself see if it is bitter or strong.. lots of water and fruits are a good thing,
just some food for thought.
We are all different, ask her if there is anything like this that turns her on, your responses will be a big trigger for her, but until she finds what she does that triggers your responses she needs to be enjoying it too.
Pick up on when she is really getting turned, I know it may be really hard for you at this point, because odds are she will be giving you just what you have been wanting but now would be a good time to go on to other things, if she finds herself going bak
into the trying, the work mode, she might feel like she has failed again. Next time she may have a lot more confidence and feel like it is fun and she is enjoying it and go from there. Just remember that she will never be good if she isn't enjoying it.
Things to remember:
She is in control,
Reassure her that you won't cum in her mouth until or if she says she wants it,
No thrusting in her mouth,
No hands on the back of her head,
Let her know when it feels good, encourage her to explore, she just might find a spot you didn't even realize exists.
Just one more thing, I promise.. Don't bring this up evertime you have sex. It will create way too much preasure.
Good Luck..
