need some help from the ladies...

[pyro_guy123]

hey there every1 that reads this,
i know this must sound so dumb (and i feel real dumb 4 asking) but i had 2 ask lol..ive recently began 2 start eating out my girlfriend..and shes a quiet person to begin with but once i start 2 finger her..fuck her..w/e shes even more quiet..like she whimpers and moans a little..but wen i eat her out its different...ususaly wen i start she looks the same..she closes her eyes and breathes normally..eventually she starts to breathe harder of course and runs her hands thru my hair..but the weird thing is that she sometimes gets this look like shes in pain on her face and it confuses me..so i stop 2 ask her if shes ok and she smiles and laughs and says shes ok..she also has avoided telling me if she does/doesnt enjoy it...so my question is based on wat i just told u..can any woman help me figure out if my gf enjoys wat im doing? thanx alot in advance...
take er easy,
-Nick

 

[MintSoda]

Welcome to the wonderful world of tasciturn lovers. My fiance is like this. Blank slate face, little or no breathing change, zilcho on the noises, if I didn't know he was having sex I would think he was reading a menu. His stated reasoning behind it is that he claims men make weird faces and noises during sex and he wants to make sure he doesn't look like a dork (which is stupid considering the faces he makes when playing xbox).

For women there are all sorts of signs to tell when you're doing things right. Breathing is a good sign, heart rate (there are some nice juicy veins on the inside of the thigh if you can find them), nipples getting erect, face and chest flushing (getting red), wettness is a big one since you're already going down on her, the clit will peak out of its little hood, labia minora (the inside lips for the lay people out there) enlarge, and if all that fails you can stop mid coitus and if she threatens you with bodily harm if you don't start up again you know you're doing something right.

The skin around the neck and chest is really the best sign in my opinion. If a woman is getting turned on it'll usually get a healthy blush to it and get slightly warmer to the touch. Listen for breathing and feel around, softly of course, for heart rates.

Some people are just quiet and stoic in bed. It can be disheartening at times if you don't have good communication, so definitely talk with her about it.

 

[Jesteress]

Mint Soda is totally on the money

Do you think she is coming? An easy test is if you are doing lots of clitoral stimulation she will move away quite alot after climaxing if she has truly come. THis is totally different than g-spot climaxing....

The look of pain may be disheartening but it probably isn't. It could be a look of concentration. You might want to try is getting her to stimulate herself with you watching or if she is shy under the bed covers or have her put your hand on her clit or other things to determine if what you are doing is truly right.

 

[herecomestherain]

They don't call orgasm "the little death" for nothing! I have a friend who runs a site called Beautifulagony.com -- men and women , naked from the shoulders up, just people's faces when they are orgasming, if you didn't know what was going on you'd swear there was pain involved.

"she also has avoided telling me if she does/doesnt enjoy it."

Do you mean by this she doesn't give you any direct feedback? Some people can be shy at letting you know what they like or need. You sound like someone who cares about his partner's pleasure and is trying to tune into that, I guess reading her body language, her reactions and even just asking "Do you like that?" will help give you the reassurance you want. Giving her feedback when she's pleasing you may also make more obvious feedback just a normal part of what you do together. Good luck.

 

[miss_kate]

What you are experiencing sweetheart is called the 'hatey face'... your gf is probably in asbolute bliss and with intense emotions/feelings come intense facials.

Sexual confidence is something that comes with time... she may open up to you soon. Just give her gentle encouragement.

As for the quietness, maybe you could set an example for her?

Good luck mate xx

 

[londonaberdeen]

Only thing I'd say is don't stop for facial expressions. If it looks like she's in agony she's probably on the edge. If you stop to ask her she'll have trouble getting back again. Never break contact with a woman on the edge.

IF she is in agony she'll soon enough let you know. Carry on the good work.

 

[LadyTemptress]

I frown when I am very close to cumming and hubby has taken my pic when I am cumming and it looks like I am in labor or something. It's normal and good. If it really hurts she will try to push away or say ow.

 

[RedIntense]

I agree that if she looks like she is in agony, she is probably right on the edge. And many people are shy about telling what they like. She doesn't want to scare you. Try asking her in a casual atmosphere, when nothing sexual is going on. She's not comfortable talking about it, so she has to know she can trust you.