New partner with too long penis....

[tenchikoi]

My partners penis is too long and bumps my cervix when we're intimate, which isn't enjoyable for me. I've been googling online for something he can wear to maybe keep him from going in so deep. But so far all I've found are cock rings and penis extenders. Not helpful to me. I don't even know if what I seek exists. We've tried different positions with the same results. It's so frustrating. I don't know what I can do anymore to correct the issue.

 

[TypicalDeviant]

I think postions like "crab" and "lotus" are supposed to limit the depth of penetration...

 

[infinity706]

Maybe instead of spreading your legs, keep them together and have him straddle you. We do that occasionally and it feels great for both of us, but it does limit penetration a bit. Also try doing it with you on top. That way you have more control over how far he penetrates you and you can stop when it gets uncomfortable. Also once he's all the way in in this position you can use a controlled steady pressure to stretch your vagina, which might feel good instead of him pounding it in and causing pain when he hits the cervix or bottoms out in you.

I'm guessing you've tried various positions to try to get his penis to slide past your cervix without actually colliding with it.

Slidng past the cervix doesn't really work. If it were technically a cervix, hit, the penis would slide on by. It's not really a flat surface. The part that really would cause pain is the part of the vagina behind the cervix, called the fornix. Therefore, getting 'cervix slammed' is about as much of a technical error as how most people call everything between a woman's legs, her vagina. (the area with the lips, clit, and her urethral/vaginal openings is called a vulva)

Now, as for what you can do about it, there's always the woman on top positions unless said woman gets too feisty. There's also the option of wrapping one or more fingers around the base of his dick. Yes, it's inconvenient, but it works.

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_KCcb6Da-GUM/SsAI48u0BDI/AAAAAAAABi8/w2Ya749UhkM/s400/Cervix.jpg
This is what the inside of a vagina actually looks like. As you can see, the cervix is a rounded part, just like the head of the penis.

 

[LaRocha]

There's always, "Guy, quit bumping my cervix." Are you sure he's bumping your cervix? Could be another medical issue. That's a long wang if not. Are you a dwarf?

There are spongy/foamy sorta ring things dudes can put around their peters nearer their pelvis to prevent full penetration.

 

[tenchikoi]

There's always, "Guy, quit bumping my cervix." Are you sure he's bumping your cervix? Could be another medical issue. That's a long wang if not. Are you a dwarf?

There are spongy/foamy sorta ring things dudes can put around their peters nearer their pelvis to prevent full penetration.

Yes! This is the sort of thing I'm looking for! Do you know what they're called or where I can find them? No, I don't have any underlying medical issues and I'm not a dwarf.

 

[LaRocha]

Yes! This is the sort of thing I'm looking for! Do you know what they're called or where I can find them? No, I don't have any underlying medical issues and I'm not a dwarf.

I saw it when I was looking at a sex toys site once. If I find it again I'll post a link here. I'd start in cock rings and go from there.

 

[tenchikoi]

I saw it when I was looking at a sex toys site once. If I find it again I'll post a link here. I'd start in cock rings and go from there.

Thank you, I'll have a look.

 

[tenchikoi]

I found this so far.....

http://www.extremerestraints.com/cock-rings_34/the-cock-cage-stretch-to-fit-cock-ring_2966.html

Not sure how well it would work. What do you think?

 

[infinity706]

Yes, that should work, fine. You might have to cut it down some, though, depending on exactly how deep of penetration you want.

 

[in4more]

So just out of curiosity, how big is this guy?

 

[ghenjia]

If you intend to be together for a long time, then the ring is really not a wise investment. With time, you will stretch to accommodate. The best advice is to experiment with different positions others have offered above and to have sex with frequency.

 

[SweetErika]

Some googling led me to this. I think it's what you're talking about and I've seen before. Google the name to find one that's in stock and at the best price, including shipping.

 

[tenchikoi]

Some googling led me to this. I think it's what you're talking about and I've seen before. Google the name to find one that's in stock and at the best price, including shipping.

This is perfect! Thank you so much Erika!!!!!!

 

[horgasm]

And if you get all the rings on his cock, you win a stuffed gorilla!

Or, you could just buy him one of these
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00000IZQP?tag=dvdmaailm

 

[nycjacksparrow]

And if you get all the rings on his cock, you win a stuffed gorilla!

Or, you could just buy him one of these
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00000IZQP?tag=dvdmaailm

why doesnt your partner just control his penetration? it would be a great excercise to intimacy too (he figuring out how deep he can go without hurting you, and then knowing how to fuck your pussy with that distance.

 

[Experiencedguy]

I had one girl friend that had the same problem. We found that if we both sat on the bed (with a firm matress), and she spread her legs as far apart as comfortable, and I then placed my legs over her, it cut my penetration by a few inches. The sex was great in this position, but we had to hold on to each other to keep from seperating or falling backwards.

She gradually got used to me.

If nothing else, try this position for fun.

 

[rachel90211]

My partners penis is too long and bumps my cervix when we're intimate, which isn't enjoyable for me. I've been googling online for something he can wear to maybe keep him from going in so deep. But so far all I've found are cock rings and penis extenders. Not helpful to me. I don't even know if what I seek exists. We've tried different positions with the same results. It's so frustrating. I don't know what I can do anymore to correct the issue.

He needs to learn how to fuck. If he's 12 inches and doesn't know, he really needs to learn how to fuck. Been with some guys with 9-10 inches and they didn't cause me pain (i can take 8"). They knew how deep to go.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

There's always, "Guy, quit bumping my cervix." Are you sure he's bumping your cervix? Could be another medical issue. That's a long wang if not. Are you a dwarf?

There are spongy/foamy sorta ring things dudes can put around their peters nearer their pelvis to prevent full penetration.

Ha

You don't have to be a dwarf.

At certain points in my cycle, and with the right angle, I can bump my cervix with my fingertip.

Granted, during the heights of arousal, there's some natural stretching and deepening so I can take a lot more.

 

[sweetlizzy]

Yes, I realize the cervix is not at the very end of the vagina and that usually pain is caused by impacting or stretching the fornix area. She did however state that the pain was caused by her cervix and I took her word for it although as you say, most people, men and woman have such a poor understanding of female anatomy that one always has to wonder. In my experience at least I've also noticed that certain angles of entry do cause the head of the penis to press rather forcefully against the cervix as it passes by. For men this feels great. For some women, not so much. If it is the cervix causing her pain, changing the angle of entry may help. If the pain originates further in then stretching, or less penetration are the solutions. And of course we're assuming there is no other medical reason for this pain.

I used to experience the same problem. The solution for most women is probably to generously lubricate your partner's penis with a petroleum jelly such as KY Gel before any deep penetration is performed; it worked for me, and I find deep penetration satisfying, as it ought to be.

 

[tenchikoi]

Some googling led me to this. I think it's what you're talking about and I've seen before. Google the name to find one that's in stock and at the best price, including shipping.

Wow....every site I've visited so far this is out of stock. It must be very popular.

 

[infinity706]

That actually sounds like it's out of production, then. Even if it was a popular item, there's any number of reasons why it might not be produced anymore. There should be other similar products out there.

 

[SweetErika]

Wow....every site I've visited so far this is out of stock. It must be very popular.

This one (down the page) doesn't say it's out, and it's $9.95.

 

[LaRocha]

Dude's gonna try it once or twice and be like, "Fuck no, I ain't puttin' those donuts on my dickie!" I've been told not to go all the way in, in certain positions, I take note and don't go as deep. Dude might just need some training. Like have him wear an electric dog collar, then use the control and zap him when he zaps you.

 

[Noor]

Dude's gonna try it once or twice and be like, "Fuck no, I ain't puttin' those donuts on my dickie!" I've been told not to go all the way in, in certain positions, I take note and don't go as deep. Dude might just need some training. Like have him wear an electric dog collar, then use the control and zap him when he zaps you.

Maybe its just my mood at the moment but this suggestion made me smile, but then I thought what if he likes getting zapped?

 

[infinity706]

Maybe its just my mood at the moment but this suggestion made me smile, but then I thought what if he likes getting zapped?

Well, then she could always use it as a reward, instead. Afterall, some people in the BDSM community get their asses (and other parts) beaten just for fun. Some people get tattoos and piercings for fun. They even have electro sex toys that don't do anything but cause pain.