New to Anal

[Serenn]

Me and my fiance are new to anal, and quite frankly it's just peachy for him, and I enjoy it much as well too but, even if we go gently or he dosen't go so far in my abdomen starts hurting after about two minutes! Bloody inconvenient. Has this happened to anyone before? Is there anything I could do to make it a little better or am I jsut too sensetive?

 

[SweetErika]

What position(s) are you using?

Can you describe the pain? Is it dull, sharp, crampy, or like anything else you've ever felt before? Where is it in relation to your bellybutton? Does it build, or appear out of nowhere?

Does it feel like he's poking or rubbing up against something inside (i.e. beyond your rectum)?

 

[silverwhisper]

also, are you guys using lube?

ed

 

[helix27]

also, are you guys using lube?

ed

took the words right out of my mouth (well keyboard) Also do you ever use any kind of toy anally? If so does it happen with the toy as well or only with him. Also kind of a intimate question but how large is he... not only in length but thickness?

 

[emap]

Oh my yes. If you are lucky enough to have gotten hold of a biggie, it is very important to get yourself stretched out. Especially if you do anything back there though in the normal places is a good idea to.

 

[Serenn]

it's right under my bellybutton, sort of in the bladder area and moves over towards my appendix. It builds up gradually and as it does it's more of a tight pain, like a really bad mentrual cramp. it's very sharp.

Also, he's a little over average and quite thick. He's used his fingers a lot before we first tried it. We do use a type of lubricant, but its not the hole that hurts its a completely different area, wierd!

 

[helix27]

What position(s) are you using?



Does it feel like he's poking or rubbing up against something inside (i.e. beyond your rectum)?

now see that was kinda what i was wondering but... she was saying that even if he "doesnt go so far" that it still happens. humm only thing i can think of is that its not just his depth but his thickness. i dont know i'm no help.

 

[Serenn]

well im dead set of him touching the vagus nerve, the other day we tried one more time and i had such a terrible frightning experience. all was going very well and all of the sudden i got that pain, and he was going all the way to the hilt (big mistake) and all of the sudden a sharp shooting clenching pain hit my stomach and i pushed him off of me and collapsed onto the bed. I couldn't move and when i finally got up I nearly passed out, my head was on fire and i couldnt hear for nearly a minute! It was awful, ive decided to stop anal for a little while, im so afraid of that again.

I'm assuming that if he does go very far into me, that it's common to feel pain? If so, are there methods of him going deep (because it feels better for him) but not causing me pain? its the last thing he wants to do. Positions, mostly from behind or on my stomach, and now that i think about it, i do feel some poking like he's touching the opening to my vagina. i know they share a wall but, is that normal?

 

[lucylove2b01]

Personally, I love anal, and I would be horrified if I ever felt this kind of pain. Are you completely relaxed when doing it? May not help...but a good tip I was given was to push out when he pulls out and tighten when he pushes in. That way your muscle moves with him...

 

[sexiiliibra]

To be brutally blunt- try to take a dump an hour or so before you start your anal action. It will most likely help. Also being stimulated while he enters you might make the tension easier. HTH.

 

[RawHumor]

To be brutally blunt- try to take a dump an hour or so before you start your anal action. It will most likely help. Also being stimulated while he enters you might make the tension easier. HTH.

I was thinking this too... it may be that fecal matter is being pushed back up...