New to this need advice

[cadtremble]

Something I have tried and work is...

Using a collar or a set of clothing...when it's on you are a sub and he your master when it's off you are the same couple as always before.....as you continue you will always want to have it on....as a matter of fact when pets have displeased me I have taken the collar away all together...and then she lives to get the collar back around her neck....PM me if you want to talk further...

 

[Red_Hot_Mama]

Using a collar or a set of clothing...when it's on you are a sub and he your master when it's off you are the same couple as always before.....as you continue you will always want to have it on....as a matter of fact when pets have displeased me I have taken the collar away all together...and then she lives to get the collar back around her neck....PM me if you want to talk further...

I like that idea cad.....thanks
I'll talk with him about it.

 

[subwannabe]

I haven't read through all of the responses but from a quick look it seems you have gotten a lot of good advice. I just wanted to encourage you to hang in there and not think too much about it. Just enjoy what is happening and accept it. I really think it is 100% possible to have a "honey" and a master all at the same time, even if it is new territory. Variety is the spice of life so be glad that your marriage continues to be more exciting as time goes on. That's better than just doing the same old same ole for decades. I'm actually a little jealous of you.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

... What I discovered was the longer I played with slave the more things appealed to me. For example when we started I had no interest in having her pierced. Two years later I took her to a piercing shop and had her pierced.

The point I am trying to make is that Doms should grow with experience just as subs do. So should he not be exactly what you want be patient , gently let him know what you are interested in, and be supportive of his decisions...

Good Luck

Mike S.

Very good points, Sir. Master and I have been going through the same growing process and he has added dimension to his desires based off of things that I have said, and I have done the same.

When we first began, he wanted to be called Master. I called him Daddy for something one day and he discovered that while it wasn't something he had thought of, he liked how it sounded and made him feel. Now, if he calls me lil girl, or I am particularly needy for him, I call him Daddy. Daddy also works better when we are talking on the phone and I am in mixed company, than Master would.

There are also things that at one time both he and I would have put under our limits list, but certain ways I describe a thought to Master, or him to me, has turned quite a few things that we would not normally have thought of or been interested in, into something that we are looking forward to exploring with each other.

I love the way Master and I are able to grow together in experience and think that is part of the reason that we are so incredibly close.

 

[DVS]

First, sorry for jumping right into this thread, without reading all of the other posts. If someone has suggested this, just ignore my post. But, I'm thinking of the day to day or the moment to moment thing you deal with. You see your husband as a certain person and you seem to have trouble seeing him in a different light, as your dominant Master.

Maybe in some beginning sessions, you could wear a blindfold, to help you separate your visual of the man and hopefully insert the new Master traits to his voice. After a while of hearing his voice become masterful during a session, it might be easier to then see him with your eyes. Kind of like taking one step at a time. It's just food for thought.