No Blow On Head! Help

[Thirsty4]

Ive just met a much younger guy than myself, I know im great at giving head, i gave him one and he didnt blow at all, i asked him y and he said he just never has!! Im deffinately up for the challenge of that but not sure how to approach it..is it a mental thing for him??

 

[HeavenCanWait]

Perhaps use a mixture of JO and BJ, with some ball stroking. That might work.

Or my personal favourite, if he's long enough, get him to JO 'in' your mouth, like pulling while you're sucking.

Mat

 

[ecclectic]

Ive just met a much younger guy than myself, I know im great at giving head, i gave him one and he didnt blow at all, i asked him y and he said he just never has!! Im deffinately up for the challenge of that but not sure how to approach it..is it a mental thing for him??

I'm guessing mental. He may be hesitant about your willingness to actually have him cum in your mouth or what will happen once you do.

 

[londonaberdeen]

I know I never managed to blow for a VERY long time. I really enjoyed but something mentally blocked me from really relaxing and letting it all go.

What got me by this was my current partner, she used mouth to get me going, than hands to finish me off. Talking dirty to me and telling me how much she wanted my cock. I had to tell her once I'd past the point of no return and she swallowed my head and sucked me to completion.

We done this a few times until I got past this and now she can take me in her mouth get me excited and blow no problem.

 

[wildwater]

Let him know that it is something you really want to happen and you want it just as much. It always was a mental thing with me as i didnt want her to do it if it was just for me, i needed to now that she was going to enjoy it as well.

Hope that helps

 

[tanyachrs]

In my experience, if you put too much emphasis on the orgasm it'll never happen and the best thing to do with guys who have a mental block with coming from a blowjob is to stay relaxed and light and teasing and don't focus so much on just his cock but keep moving around to other areas. Don't give him any idea you're trying to make him come. He may never come that way but he'll enjoy it and you might surprise each other one day. If you keep banging away in grim determination, you're both going to end up dreading oral sex.

 

[wildwater]

Good advice as well, didnt think of that bit Learning more everyday

 

[sunandshadow]

If he was standing up, that in itself can be distracting. It's easiest to orgasm if you are in whatever position you usually use to masturbate.

 

[Eilan]

Some men don't cum from oral sex. Doesn't mean that they don't enjoy it.

 

[keack1]

I have never cum just from a bjitself. There is just not enough stimulation with a bj for me, have to jo to get close them get finished with a bj.

 

[biggysmallz]

I've never had one from a blowjob either.

It's mostly a combination of not having enough sensation from it, and being too thick to receive a blowjob with any depth behind it (mostly just the head).

It happens to some guys. Different guys have different sensitive points, his just might not be from blowjobs.

 

[KINDGIRL]

I know a guy like that, too. He loves the feeling though so we usually start with the BJ, move onto sex and he ends in my mouth. ITA with Eilan - although they are (thankfully) in the minority.

 

[boutrosboutros]

Ive just met a much younger guy than myself, I know im great at giving head, i gave him one and he didnt blow at all, i asked him y and he said he just never has!! Im deffinately up for the challenge of that but not sure how to approach it..is it a mental thing for him??

I don't come during a blow job either, usually. It seems like a waste; I'd rather it just be a starter than the main course.

 

[Cardinalduke]

In my experience, if you put too much emphasis on the orgasm it'll never happen and the best thing to do with guys who have a mental block with coming from a blowjob is to stay relaxed and light and teasing and don't focus so much on just his cock but keep moving around to other areas. Don't give him any idea you're trying to make him come. He may never come that way but he'll enjoy it and you might surprise each other one day. If you keep banging away in grim determination, you're both going to end up dreading oral sex.

I think this is generally good advice. I don't think you have to go so far as teasing and moving to other areas all the time (that will pretty much guarantee no orgasm for a guy like that). You can actually do anything and everything for as long as you want (or only for a few like as foreplay) and you don't have to worry about him blowing his load. As long as you both know no effort is being made to actually reach orgasm, then oral is still lots of fun.

I have only come once from a blowjob. With me, I need a girl who makes it clear she enjoys it as much as I do and one who doesn't have a stopwatch right by her. It takes me a long while sometimes and time pressure will make it last forever. The last girl I dated was a master at foreplay, showed me things I have never seen or felt before and I loved it. But she couldn't make me come. She just wasn't willing to go for more than a minute or two in one position. She'd go back to teasing then switching up. All the time it was obvious she didn't really enjoy it. She was just trying to make me come...which a)failed and b) was a completely turn off for me.

I still stand by the statement that if a guy can come using only his hand, he can also come using a hj/bj. It just takes time to get the right rhythm, grip and pressure.

 

[Shooter_XL]

I also had a hard time cumming from oral for a very long time even though i really enjoyed it. I think for me it was a mixture of not being comftorable with the person giving me head and the fact that i am very thick and girls usually cant get very far past my head. What eventually worked for me was being in an actual relationship with a girl who didnt have a gag reflex I think if you just start finishing him in your mouth after sex that will do a lot to help him relax with cumming from oral, I know it worked for me!

 

[College_geek]

I don't think it's a mental thing, although I suppose one could really dig into someone's psyche and find a reason for not being able to orgasm from oral.

For the most part, I think it's just that some people can't manage to orgasm from oral. A lot of the time, it will feel really really good, but the stimulation just can't get the receiver over the threshold. The best thing you can do, I think, is just keep trying, as long as the receiver is willing.

 

[ecclectic]

I don't think it's a mental thing, although I suppose one could really dig into someone's psyche and find a reason for not being able to orgasm from oral.

For the most part, I think it's just that some people can't manage to orgasm from oral. A lot of the time, it will feel really really good, but the stimulation just can't get the receiver over the threshold. The best thing you can do, I think, is just keep trying, as long as the receiver is willing.

Doesn't take that much digging, some men actually do care about their partner during sex and wouldn't want them to have to taste their cum.

 

[sunandshadow]

Doesn't take that much digging, some men actually do care about their partner during sex and wouldn't want them to have to taste their cum.

Also, some guys don't like giving oral sex or have a phobia of being forced to give a blow job to another guy, and thus feel sympathetic revulsion for a woman giving a blow job, even if she herself enjoys it. I had this problem with a previous boyfriend.

 

[tanyachrs]

Doesn't take that much digging, some men actually do care about their partner during sex and wouldn't want them to have to taste their cum.

That's so sad. Do you really feel that way about yourself?

 

[goodshot.ohf]

In my experience, if you put too much emphasis on the orgasm it'll never happen and the best thing to do with guys who have a mental block with coming from a blowjob is to stay relaxed and light and teasing and don't focus so much on just his cock but keep moving around to other areas. Don't give him any idea you're trying to make him come. He may never come that way but he'll enjoy it and you might surprise each other one day. If you keep banging away in grim determination, you're both going to end up dreading oral sex.

you are right, too much emphasis on anything can kill it...

are blowjobs a nightly thing for ya'll?

does he ever pull out of your pussy and let you jack him off in his mouth?

hows your technique? do you use lots of spit to lube your hand and jack him off while you lick and stroke with your mouth? how bout teeth...first girl i got head from kept scraping the tip ...she could have literally sucked me for hours with no orgasm....(of course im better trained now...and scraping doesnt bother me as much....but it still doesnt help..)

ok..now im hard..but...i do think that by the time you actually get a girl in bed with you, you should have some knowledge of your own equipment...you should also have some images in your head that almost immediately trigger orgasm...and some that will prolong the feeling...and when a girl is giving you head...enjoy it, but when you can tell shes ready for you to cum think of that thought that pushes you over the edge..(preferably including her in the fantasy thats going on in your head)

now having said that i realize that its not gonna help you...cause that is something he needs to work out for himself...but....just in general ...guys should have that "blow job mode" girls dont wanna get both arms tired and a sore jaw....they just wanna make us happy....

(oh and if girls could also do the same...that'd be great hehehe..)

ok more questions for you ...

does he cum really fast inside you? or does he take his time and last all night?

i ask that because all guys have different thresholds and timers....if he lasts a loooong time in your pussy ...then hes gonna last even longer in your fist/mouth.

(and does he have a fixation or fetish that has progressed so far to become unhealthy? ) i doubt he has, or you would have mentioned it, but he may not have shared it with you....but sometimes that can make it difficult to orgasm without that fixation....(and maybe his fixation is a particular position or a particular part of your body that he tends to focus on when he cums..??)


anyway..i cant ask all the questions at once...but maybe something in there made sense toya..

 

[witch_baby]

Impractical feel-good advice

I echo most of what's been said here- I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just take your time, watch his reactions and go with what seems to work.

Trust me, it's possible. My current partner had never cum from a blowjob before he met me (and he has had many sexual partners), and I had never given a blowjob before I met him. Long story short, now he cums. But that took time and an attitude of 'if it happens, it happens.'

 

[KINDGIRL]

you are right, too much emphasis on anything can kill it...

(and does he have a fixation or fetish that has progressed so far to become unhealthy? ) i doubt he has, or you would have mentioned it, but he may not have shared it with you....but sometimes that can make it difficult to orgasm without that fixation....(and maybe his fixation is a particular position or a particular part of your body that he tends to focus on when he cums..??)

This is the issue with the guy I know - I think. He seems very addicted (or attached?) to porn and his own hand. That sensation is much harder and different than a woman's mouth, and it could be that he can't cum because he got used to thet firmer touch... maybe? He does take a l-o-n-g time during sex, as well.